Should I trust that they are just friends?

Question

I've been casually dating a guy for a little over 4 months. I like him and think there could be a possibility for a serious relationship. He has told me that he likes me alot and it's pretty clear. He has also made it clear that he is upset about the current situation but can't really do anything about it. He has a "friend" from out of the country here currently visiting him for 2 weeks. She has been here for 1 week already. He says the plans were made before we met and could not be changed due to the air tickets already being bought. Anyways, the girl is staying at his house. I'm sure going to holiday events with him and doing stuff with him (she doesn't know anyone here)...and we have seen each other once since she's been hear. Yet he calls me daily and text me. I really like him, but I'm starting to wonder if I should even be available once his friend leaves. Should I trust that they are just friends? Or is the situation too suspect? Should I leave it alone and say "Next"?

Answer 1

it depend in various things, first:

- How long did you meet him before those 4 months??? is he really been respectfull with you? is he for real?

I'd been through this situation myself in the position of your friend, and what happened to me was that I like two girls an at the end I have to decide and basically there is always a way end.

what I suggest you is to wait for her friend to leave and talk to him... if you guys decide to get something serious then talk about this episode in his life and what is the conclusion.

you mention that he is talking to you daily, than he does care about you (you make it sound like a good guy)

Just relax, remember he is not your boyfriend yet, when that happened remember to always talk about all this things and step in the plate that you do not like that kind of "friends"

hope it helps

LG2

Answer 2

Hi,

Ok well this is a difficult and intense situation.. First, have you tried putting yourself in his shoes that always helps me. How would you handle the situation? Would you be doing the same thing? Ok second, who is this friend? What's their history? How long have they know each other? why would she travel to a city where she only knows him? I don't see anything wrong in all three of you hanging out or going out with other friends. Maybe you can invite a nice guy for her to meet.I think he does care about you i.e the texts and calls, but how much does he care. When there is a will there is always a way.. Just somethings to think about...Good Luck

Answer 3

Don't take immediate actions yet, but stay silently suspicious. Talk with your boyfriend about her in a casual, optimistic manner and ask about where they met, how they met, how they became friends, what the two of them does together, etc. Don't jump to conclusions at any suspicious answer - you can analyze them down later with friends or on Yahoo! Answers. (I'll be available for discussion.)

I may recommend visiting him when she is present and meeting her. Introduce yourself to her as the girlfriend of her friend, shake hands, chat a little. Don't overload her or him with any suspenseful questioning and be friendly. From her behavior and conversationing, you might be able to get out some information. But again, don't jump to conclusions! Yahoo! Answers is always here for you.

Answer 4

Hahaaaaa...Ok I've calmed dwn now ..Ahhhhh.. Ok he has a friend out of whatever that came to VISIT him, cool. But where is it written that she HAD to stay @ his home?..why not a motel? Hmmm? And u said he said hes upset about the situation..lol omggg. thats so lame.. Did she make him let her stay there? He cant tell her to leave or get a motel?. Hey if u still want him knowin he's frontin..Why not tell him youre comin over to stay with him a few days, see what he say or do then? Do post the outcome here.

Answer 5

Yea girly advice trust me there doing more than hanging out friendly.I mean c'mon a female friend is staying at his house for a week. Just forget about him! No proof needed for you to know if you should trust him!
Im sure you can find someone more trustworthy than him.

Answer 6

ther just friends unless his has a record 4 cheatingthen dump him if he doesnt stick with him ther more then likely just friends b/c he said it was planed b4 u meet so just trust him he seems good hearted well thats all ican do 4 ya ill pray 4 ya though God bless

Answer 7

Wait until this 2 weeks is up and see if she goes back home. If she doesn't, it means he allowed the change in plans and you should dump him.

Answer 8

You are just 'casually" dating him. What happens with his guest, happens She'll be leaving the country soon so give him a chance.

Answer 9

I think if you are "casually" dating then you probably shouldn't say anything to him about it. If he is your boyfriend and you've agreed to not see other people then you should talk to him about it. I don't think anyone can answer the question about what his motives are with this other girl except for him.

Answer 10

If I were you, I'd go with my gut instincts. If it makes you feel weird about it, you're probably onto something. But then again, maybe he is one of the rare good guys out there that doesn't have anything to hide from you. Go hang out with them together and see how you feel about it then. Best of luck.