I am in 10th grade and in all honors classes and I get mostly B's and occasionally an A or too. My dad keeps telling me that I need to get As and that B's are unacceptable.
However when my brother gets B's, my dad doesn't seem to mind as much.
Why do I get all the academic pressure in my family? Does it have something to do with me being the oldest child or something?
2006-12-27 08:16:24 · 10 answers · asked by xxmelz91xx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Racist? Who knows, maybe they want you to be more successful than your brother.. Have you asked them why? OR maybe you seem to think they don't put as much pressure on your brother.
2006-12-27 08:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have several theories for this myself, but Ill give you a couple.
1.) You are the oldest as am I (29 now though) and you are the lucky one who gets to lead by "example" WAH WAH WAH right lol-- I know it doesnt seem fair.
Beleive it or not, your parents probably do want what is best for you, this world gets more and more competitive every day nad since you are doing so well i KNOW they are proud of you, but still want to keep pushing you to always do your best!
2.) I think that girls always have more pressure onthem, I do it with my own daughter and I dont know why I do it, and I hate that I do it, but I still notice it. My son gets away with a little more, and I put more pressure on her when it comes to certain things.
Woman are the back bone of society, because at the end of the day it is usually us that is making sure everything is done for everybody, and everything is running smoothly.
I would just have a sit down chat with your parents and let them know how you feel, maybe they arent aware that they are putting the extra pressure on you, and bringing it to their attention will maybe alleviate some of that pressure (((HUGS))) Good Luck!
2006-12-27 16:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by michiganmommyx3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They expect you to be the role model for your brother since you are the eldest,if you put forth more effort and get A's the he will follow suit,but then again maybe not coz I am the eldest of 3 girls and a boy,I got blamed for every little thing my siblings did while they were young,the next to the youngest girl was married and pregnant before I graduated high school,and I was blamed for it,I was not married till I was 20 and all my sisters were married either before age 18 or shortly after they turned 18.
2006-12-27 16:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by davec4real_02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it does. It also has to do with the fact that they are excited about your success and hope that you will do even better. Why are you so bothered by this, anyway? Pressure is good in life since it is under pressure that we achieve. Pressure is a good energy that produces wonders. Learn to harness it and not to resent it. Pressure is what drives the best in society to continue to be the best and change our lives for the better over and over again. You have a gift in disguise. Now that you have seen under the veil, take it, use it, and change the world for the better. Don't compare yourself with your brother. His life story is not to be written by you. Open you eyes WIDE and see beyond your immediate circumstances. Pressure is truly a good thing when it is handled constructively.
I am excited for you.
A kiss and tip of my hat for you, tigress.
Mr. M on "pressure."
2006-12-27 16:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have about 4 brothers and you're the only girl....they're gonna put pressure on you well, because you're their only girl. They want the best for you. They want you to go to college, be successful. They may have tried that with your brother and may have simply given up on him. Since you're the oldest, you also have to set an example for your younger siblings. Be tough and keep doing good. It'll pay off.
2006-12-27 18:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy_Goosy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it definitely does. I am the oldest too and my parents always pressure me more and were more strict with me than with me than with my sister even though I made better grades than her, behaved more than her - they admit it, and listen to them more. Parents always expect more from the oldest child and it is unfair. They do that because they want you to be a very good example for your younger siblings and also they believe that older children need to be more successful and responsible than younger children.
2006-12-27 16:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by youngwoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it has more to do with your potential. You and your brother have different levels of potential. You may not notice, but there might be something that your brother does well that your parents put a little pressure on when they see that he falls under his potential. Believe me, your parents love you and want the best for you, they are not playing favorites.
2006-12-27 16:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by southern belle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They expect more out of you than your brother because they probably see that you have more potential and they know that you're smart academically. I think it would be nice for them to loosen up a bit and not put so much pressure on you because you can get stressed out trying to please them. B's are good grades too.
2006-12-27 16:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by Nico 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a parents view point, I think it's because they have more faith in you. I realize they are going at it in the wrong way, but they see you making them very proud! They know you have it in you to do a great job, and by saying and doing what they are doing-is just their way of encouraging you! So, take it for what it is, and just be you! Parents are funny creatures, and sometimes they just don't know how to be humble. Keep up the great job, your making them more than proud-believe me!!!!
2006-12-27 16:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for most parents the Girl is to do more than the guy it's a real catch 22
2006-12-27 16:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋