I need advice for my 2.5 years old daughter. I want to improve parenting Also what I can I do to add her fun.?

Question

I got pregnancy at 16 so it haven't been easy but I really love my daughter and I will do anything to raise her good life and displine her. When my mom raise me that it hasn't been easy either because she suffer mental illness and she tried her best to raise me with a lot of love but sometime she don't raise me like she should because she was more like my friend than parent, she never punish me or anything, spoil a lot. I am deaf too but I can hear some and speak well. I behave better when im around with my dad than my mom. Now i notice my daughter behave better around with my dad than she is with me. I tried to keep her fun like taking her to park, chunk e cheese, i tried my best to teach her more education and give her love. I was behind with everything so my step mom had to teach me with manner and displine, clean up after myself when i was 7. I do teach my daughter to displine and clean up and good manner and let her have fun. But i feel like something is missing, Any advice to add

Answer 1

For getting pregnant at 6, you sound like an amazing parent. Young children tend to feel more at ease when they are around their mothers, and maybe the way your daughter acts around your father is apprehension. Try to see what your daughter wants and needs. This should send you on the right path.

Answer 2

React immediately, explain why you are happy or mad at what she is doing and such. Many parents now days seem too slow in reacting so the child keeps doing the action or getting louder or whatever just to get attention. Even bad attention is better than no attention. My son thrives on accolades- remarking pointedly on everything good. While my daughter would do anything not to get a bad remark. Each is an individual-watch her and see. Have reading time at night- we used to love the I Spy books where you search the photos for objects- also "Find Waldo". Good for that age. Start with 15 minutes- then add time as she gets older.Coloring together or making cookies is a good thing. On Friday nights we put a "nest" of blankets and pillows on the floor at the TV area and had finger foods and watched movies- it was our family night. The more self entertaining you teach her the better too-lego,dolls. I noticed my RICH girlfriend gave her daughters all but never taught them how to pretend play.And hence they are undisciplined brats and very demanding. Expect her interaction and cooperation! They didn't know how to play school or make a store (using pretend money and empty food boxes or such) PLAY with her. Teach her how to give her dolls a tea party or picnic, make invitations to a movie and buy pretend tickets (make them on the computer or with just felt pens) to go and "buy" popcorn...You will then start seeing her want to be with you but also be able to hang out and play by you while you attend to chores etc. Explain why you clean house or the dishes- tell her about what a lady is and a good girl, and be one yourself! LOVE her like I'm sure you already do- she'll know and you'll do fine. Good luck!

Answer 3

An important thing to remember is that you are here to be her parent, her mother, and not her friend. If she doesn't like you at times because you insist that she behave to a certain standard, then she'll get over it and don't let it upset you. You must decide for yourself what standards are acceptable for your daughter and yourself, and once you decide what is good enough in terms of her behaviour, then you have to make sure she understands what she can do and what she can't do. It's easy to assume she just knows what's okay and what isn't, but it's very important to sit down and write out a list of house rules. Explain the rules to her so she has no doubt, and this will make her more confident. Pin the rules up on the fridge and when she breaks a rule - like hitting, or not listening to something important, provide discipline at once, like putting her in her room for two minutes. Then after that, explain carefully which rule she broke, ask her to apologise, and hug her. Then it's all over and you can both be cheerful again. That's simple discipline, in a nutshell.
Remember not to burden children with adult problems; if you are having difficulty, you still have to be calm, appear confident, and be cheerful around your child. That's your job. She needs to be certain that she can trust you to deal with the hard parts of life so she won't have to yet.
As a parent, your job is to protect her, prepare her for life, and then enable her to perform, as a young adult and then as an adult. Have simple rules, stick to them through thick and thin, expect more of her as she gets older, love her and tell her every day that she is wonderful and you love her.
Good luck.

Answer 4

I also have a son that is 2 1/2 years old. I wonder about my parenting skills as well. Being a first time mother is hard and you just have to learn from your on instincts and if you have issues about how your mother raised you..being more of a friend than a parent...you learn from her mistakes as well. Growing up, I didn't receive much love from my mother and to this day its still hard to be affectionate with my family...except for my son. I try to show him as much love that I can and so far it seems to work.

As far as disciplining, you just have to be stern with them but not too mean. If you see what they are doing wrong then you tell them no-no, but they will try to test you..just like my son does all the time with me. He wants to see how much he can get away with but after saying no a few times and he still does it, I just pop his hand. People always told me that you have to start when they are young..especially this age..so you can mold them and they know that you mean serious business. Kids tend to act different around male figures for some reason. I think its because they are a lot more stern and they know they can't get away with too much with them.

It seems like you are doing a good job with entertaining her and teaching her some educational lessons. At 2 1/2 years old, they are still learning...they are basically in the beginning stages of learning. Just give her time, she's developing her own personality as well. I say as long as you're showing her love and affection, teaching and disciplining her, then you have nothing to worry about. The one thing that seems to be missing is her father. If he's still in the picture...try to get him to spend more time with her. A child always needs both parents in their lives. Good luck with everything.

Answer 5

Number one thing you can give your children is love. As long as they know they are loved, then you've built a great foundation for learning and growth well into the future.

It sounds like you are already doing a good job, and will continue to grow and learn yourself. You've got the right attitude, and that's great. Keep trying, don't try to spoil your daughter with treats (except with love), keep to some structure and teaching good manners, and you will do fine.

Answer 6

do whatever fun stuff your daughter likes to do. try new things too, like coloring or puzzles with big pieces. make sure to set a good example, you're her best role model. and whether you know it or not she's always watching! use your instinct, if you feel like your doing a good job, you probably are. i'm a young mother too, and my mom didn't always do the best thing, but she always tried her best. you can only do what your capable of doing. have faith in yourself and your beliefs and you will do great!
just make sure that you balance the fun and discipline, you'll always "win" if your daughter knows that you are in charge! another fun thing you could try if a really easy recipe for cookies. preheat oven to 350 degress. take one box of cake mix (any flavor) add 2 eggs and 1/2 cup of oil. mix it together and then add 3/4 cup chocolate chips or whatever you like. roll into balls and put on a greased cookie sheet and bake for 12 minutes. you'll both enjoy making them and eating them. remember to let your daughter help stirring or adding stuff, but make sure she helps with the clean up part too. enjoy!!

Answer 7

give her time...she is only 2.5 she is still growing. Ever heard of the terrible twos??? My daughter is 3 and seems that she is still going through the terrible twos. They tend to act differently around each person. Just let her know how you feel...just because she is a child doesn't mean you cant talk to her like an adult. Let her know that her behavior is not acceptable.

Answer 8

the best way to teach your daughter is to not make the same mistakes your mother did.Children test limits with parents.your husband has shown how far your daughter can go before she gets punished. Your daughter can go farther with you because you are her mother and we do tend to let them get away with more than fathers do.So i suggest this set a limit and stick to it as painful to your heart as it can be at times.If you let her walk all over you now imagine how much worse it will get when she gets older. If you need my help write me at [e-mail]

Answer 9

I have learned that children learn what they live. They will really embrace what you model and then think that is the right way to go. So if you don't "behave" around your mother, your child will copy that.

Try, although I'm sure it will be difficult, to behave well around your mom. Then your child will follow suit.

Good luck.

Answer 10

sounds like your daughter is missing a father figure and is going through a daddy phase.
i wouldn't worry about it. give her love and attention and boundaries and she will be a great kid!

you sound like you are doing a great job with her and i wouldn't worry too much.

take care.