Ok, here's the story. I'm dating two girls and I'm at a bind of whether to choose one of them or date neither. The first one is a past girlfriend and I broke up with her to see what else was out there. Well, I started to date another girl and now I backed off on her too. But all in all, I am currently dating both. The one has a wonderful personality and I really connect with her but some times she feels more like a friend because I'm not highly attracted to her. The other girl has a good personality but not as good as the first girl but i'm much more attracted to her. I don't get a long with her family though. How much should looks and sexual attractioin count towards a relationship? Should I pick one or should I venture on to try and find someone else? Thanks.
2006-12-27 08:10:46 · 29 answers · asked by Jack W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say move on. If you don't know which one you would rather be with, you probably don't want to be with either one all that much.
See who else is out there. You'll find that one that you can both have those long chats with, as well as being attracted to. Don't drag these girls along while you debate.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 08:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great man, Jimmy Soul, once spoke these words:
" If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wide, so from my personal point of view, get an ugly girl to marry you. "
Sexual attraction is a very low aspect in a relationship that is going to WORK. Its all about bonding. Hey, If theres a girl your sexually attracted to a lot and you bond with her well, HOLD ON TO HER!
However, I can relate to you circumstance. I too have noticed that its usually a one or the other situation- you never get a nice girl that looks good or a good looking girl thats nice. But in a lasting relationship, its all about connecting, not just about what helps you pitch a tent.
Hope this helps,
Steve
2006-12-27 16:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by sicksteveweed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest trying out the first girl that you already have dated prior to this time . If you are dating her again there is a attraction there. If you are thinking long term wise attraction is going to fade no matter who it is you need a stronger connection than that. I say give the first girl a chance without any competition. just date one .
2006-12-27 16:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should pick one of them. You know the idiom: "A bird in the hand is better than two in the bush." <3
Looks and sexual attraction are quite essential in a relationship, but keep in mind that dating and relationships are not directly aiming at sexuality. In my opinion, dating somebody who you connect and get along with in a friendly manner outscores dating something who you are sexually attracted to her. The "getting along with family" should take toll also unless she is very distant from her parents and that the two of you wishes to never get in connection with her parents (which I do not recommend).
The first sounds like a much better option.
2006-12-27 16:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by Pariah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do both of them know that you are dating another person.
It might take time to make up your mind. however they might make it up for you. I don't know what the set up is.
Choosing can be difficult when you have the most of both worlds.
its hard to decide. I hope that you have good luck
I just hope that they know about each other.
Do they know they are in competition with the other.
You can always tell the one that is a really good friend that you want to remain good friends. That can be you know
Or on the other hand you can give them both up
try someone new that is just right for you
2006-12-27 16:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personality will win over in a car ride or at home, looks can improve in time. Remember, it might look like a duck but it don't mean it can "quack" like one. Make sure it is the real thing before you make a mistake. There are many good woman out there but it seems as if all of the a**holes have them. Good luck.
2006-12-27 16:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the truth - it is neither. When you are with the right one, you don't need to ask. My guess - it is someone who has the same qualities you see in both these girls. Date - don't commit and be honest with both that you are dating.
2006-12-27 16:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by Monkey's uncle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think you should be with just one woman. If you broke off with the first one just to see what else is out there, and now you're back with her, that should tell you something right there. Either stick with the first girl of break it off with both. It's not fair to either one of them to string them along.
2006-12-27 16:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find a good balance of both. I wouldn't date eaither one. I dated a guy who was wonderful who I didn't have the spark for, I thought it would come later and it didn't. So I wouldn't date eaither one. Just have a clean break so as not to lead them on. Good Luck!
2006-12-27 16:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.u need to check who understands you more? this is most significant from my experience about life. if neither one fits, u should leave both. understanding you is most important
2.physical attraction is important. but only physical attraction without mutual understanding(by this i mean, you both understand each other well), has no value in the long run. this is because, we are human being with mind, not just like animals with only physical desire, we are more mindful creatures than just being animals. if there is lack of physical compatibility, that can be compensated with mental compatibility, but not the other way round.
2006-12-27 16:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by calcutta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋