Im a 23 year old woman trying to decide between 2 guys. They are both in their early 30s.
Guy #1- he cooks for me, very sweet, very attentive. Comes over quite often and finds fun stuff for us to do even went out with his parents.My close girl friend just told me he has feelings for me.But i dont feel the same for him as he does for me.
Guy #2- Really nice,very sweet, affectionate and kind only thing is he keeps telling me he loves me and I only found out about his feelings for me a few days ago. I didnt even know he had any interest in me like that. But he keeps saying I love u after every conversation we have and I don't know what to say. But he is very interesting.
My biggest dilemma is trying to figure out which of the 2 i should consider dating.. #1 has insecurities while #2 constantly tells me he loves me both of which are some what turning me off.. none the less both of them deserve an opportunity but which one should I go for?
2006-12-27 08:08:42 · 14 answers · asked by minime 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Neither one of them. They may deserve an opportunity, but not from you if you don't like either one of them.
2006-12-27 08:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by shoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well when it all boils down you will be the only who can make an honest decesion. From what you just described if I were in your situation I probably wouldn't date either one. Because it seems like one is moving too fast and the other you said you didn't feel the same for him as he did for you. I think my only advice at this time would be to tell the one that keeps using the "L" word how you feel. Just let him know that it's kinda a turn off and maybe he needs to slow down. Communicaion is the key be truthful to yourself and the two friends and you can't go wrong. And if you feel that both of the guys deserve a chance then continue to be FRIENDS with both, get to know them a little better and let it go from there. Time should tell who should be with. I hope this helps. You will know if you are compatible with someone or not.
2006-12-27 08:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by xblackxtigerx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you date both of them before making that decision? That's what dating is supposed to be for. To determine who you want to build a relationship with and maybe a life together. If both of them deserve the opportunity then give them both the opportunity. Why start off the dating process with an "exclusive" relationship? You could miss out on Mr. Right like that.
2006-12-27 08:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that when a guy has two women to choose from, he is a pig, while on the other hand, it's okay for you?
I think you need to chose one and work with that. You can't keep comparing the both of them. Seems as if you want them both, that's why it's so "hard" for you to pick one. I know, I went through what you are going through. It was a very stressful time for me. It will begin to be for you too if you don't pick one soon or continue to wait on the one that you require. You need to make a decision. No one on this site can help you with this. Only you.
2006-12-27 08:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by Leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DATE both of them, but be upfront about it. That is what is great about dating. There is no reason to blow one off just to get to know someone. Since you don't have strong feelings for either one at this point, it would give you the opportunity to get to know them and something may develope. If that happens then you wont have any problems deciding which one to pick.
2006-12-27 08:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by FlyinSolo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If #2 is already telling you that he loves you then girl you need to RUN....means he will be clingy, controlling and jealous.....noone and i mean NOONE knows that fast that they love someone unless you just gave birth than it IS love at first sight. But anyway. If I were you I would go with #1 cause he's showing you that he cares about you and that if you have a relationship with him it's not just gonna be a one way relationship(his way) He's already cooking for ya and I can almost guarantee that he washes his own clothes. NUMBER 1
2006-12-27 08:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by todayillsee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither, unless you are ready to get married soon! LOL. Guy #1 takes you out with his parents, and guy #2 tells you he loves you? They both sound like they are into you waaaay more than you are into them. Just be friends with both of them for a while.
2006-12-27 08:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take guy # 1 he's a little insecure , but at least he kind and you can have fun
guy # 2 they become possessive, your trying to date and this guy is telling you he in love you.
at your age you should be going out and having fun, without some guy trying to controll you over time
the truth is you need to stick with your guns, and don't necessary settle for anything .
your responabilty is yourself . an you dont need to decide
2006-12-27 08:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by tommytwotone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there turning you off already chances are neither are for you. I say if your going to choose one go with the first one, the other one is to eager to say I love you before you even went out which means he is just looking or trying to hard for something
2006-12-27 08:12:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy #1 as he has introduce you to the parents and most guys will not do this unless he is definietly interested in you.
2006-12-27 08:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋