When to yell at kids and when not to?

Answer 1

It's better if you can try not to yell most of the time. (This is a hard one some days!) But the less you yell, the more weight it will carry when you do really need to yell about something!

Answer 2

I've found that yelling, if done often, gets no results. The kids get used to hearing you raise your voice about everything, from "Do the dishes" to muddy foot prints to a broken window. They just get used to hearing it. I believe it's the consequences that have a lasting effect. Someone mentioned here the 1-2-3 method and I believe this works. I do a variation 1-2-3-4-5 when I've told one of the kids to do something and they're slow to start, or are ignoring me. They know when I start counting they better be working dilligently toward whatever task or instruction I'd just given them. And yelling certainly isn't something to be done as punishment. You break a window, you use your allowance to pay for it. You get muddy footprints on the kitchen floor and you bring out the mop and clean it up. You leave your toys out and don't pick them up after being told to do so, they go into a giant garbage bag and donated. It's all about consequences.

Then again, I will say I've yelled 'til I'm hoarse before. And most of the time it's out of my own frustrations and trying to express that I am really, really frustrated, than trying to get any results, though it would sure be nice if raising my voice got me more than a sore throat.

Answer 3

Yell when there awake, don't yell when there asleep.- just kidding.

If all your doing is yelling then your not really doing anything but hurting your own throat. Yelling without punishment is basically telling the kid "I know what you did I'm angry you did it, but I'm letting you get away with it." I believe there needs to be farther action, like a timeout, something taken away, a grounding or if necessary a spanking (once you have claimed down). If all you do is yell then your kids probably know that's all your going to do.

Answer 4

Take it from a natural-born yeller: It is not good to yell at kids. They habituate, and then you have to yell louder, and then when you can't yell any louder, you wonder what is the next step? In what language do I have to yell in NOW? Funny aside, I am being serious. Kids habituate, meaning they get used to it, and then it doesn't even phase them. It is irritating, to say the least, to be yelling at people who look bored with you. You get stressed, need more meds, lose your self-respect, and render yourself ineffective as a parent.
So I tried talking nice. That seems to scare them more. And if I add a smile, it makes them wonder.

Answer 5

I agree with momma2min the less you yell and get angry the more weight it will carry when that does happen. the kids won't take you as serious if all you do is yell at them. ex my 12 yr old stepdaughter and her mom got in the mother of all fights her mom took nothing away. however my stepdaughter gets grounded from her mom if she forgets to put in earrings. you have to pick your fights sometimes letting the small things go and focus on the main issues is the best i think

Answer 6

I used to yell at my children when they did something very wrong... but I found out that whatever they do, if you keep your temper under control and talk to them in a reasonable way, it works better and faster. So I would say: never yell!
Good luck!

Answer 7

My Mom used to count- 1-2-3
1-stop right now before it goes too far
2-you heard me the first time now your in trouble
3 too far gone,punishment happens.
I did the same. I only raised my voice to catch their attention at my anger or danger. I might yell "one" but like myself as a child, they knew to quit immediately or deal with consequences. In the public, you never yell. Simply put down your goods if youre in a store and take the child (children) out of the store and home and deal with it- we knew if Mom put her stuff down; to quit- we were "dead meat!" Guess what- I'm a full time Artist- my sister is vice president of a global satillite Co. My brother owns a web business- and we are all nice responsible people with nice responsible kids- 1-2-3 works! And love!

Answer 8

try not to yell when you're upset. you need to pick you fights. example clean room to getting homework done, stick with what you feel is most important or threatening. instead of yelling maybe try other things them writing out apologies,instead of saying it writing sentences about what they did (didn't) do, standing in a corner time out, so many minutes for age. 5 year old 5 minutes of complete quiet, they talk 2 min in time starts over.

Answer 9

I believe in spankings and punishments, but not yelling. (That's not to say I don't do it) but I try very hard not to. Unless your child is in danger. My dad use to beat our @sses when we got into trouble, but he never yelled. For some reason I always remembered that. Think about it, if someone is yelling at you, all it does is piss you off, and you don't want to listen to them....well same with your kids.

Answer 10

even though all of us have yelled at our kids out of frustration you should never yell at them unless they are about to get hurt, for example, about to run out in front of a car or put a hanger in a light socket, etc. yelling at children for anything and everything creates a child that basically ignores your tone and when tragedy is about to happen the child is deaf to your cries.