i'm 20 and never had a boyfriend...its not like I havent beenkissed or im a slut, I'm really shy and I dont think I'm pretty at all. I dont smile much because I feel like an idiot and get nervous making eye contact with a guy. How do I become less shy and is it weird that I am 20 and never been in a relationship?
2006-12-27 07:51:09 · 15 answers · asked by Tina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it's not weird that you are 20 and haven't been in a relationship. You've just listed why you haven't. You have to love yourself before you can become a part of a relationship and love someone else. Work on the things that are bothering you about yourself. Look in the mirror EVERY morning and loudly say "I love me!" It really works. Put a song in your head and walk to...your confidence will show. Work on yourself first.
2006-12-27 07:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by Cream4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you, I am 18 and never been in a relationship, I am also extremely shy, but I am kind of getting better. You just have to know that everyone is all the same, people all have to do the same things, (like fart, burp and stuff)
People will not laugh at you for doing something stupid, or even if they do it doesnt matter anyway, because it will not harm you in any way. I am still a little shy, but I am much better than I used to be last year. I just learned that even if someone thinks you are an idiot it doesnt matter anyway, but most likely they dont think that. If you dont get out of being shy you are going to miss out on a lot of fun opportunitities and I decided I didnt wanna do that. Well I hope I helped you in some way, Good Luck.
2006-12-27 16:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bored&Broken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably nothing wrong with you and nothing weird. But something is being perceived incorrectly by the guys you come in contact with. So let's get out our checklist.
First, you gotta look and act like a girly girl. Assess your clothes and your attitude. Look in the mirror and visualize making slight improvements to your hair, your makeup, how you stand, how you walk, how you TALK. Then:
1. Groom immaculately
2. Dress nicely
3. Smile
4. Spend an hour a day in the library
5. Spend an hour a day at the gym
6. Honor your parents
7. Get involved in a community function
8. Volunteer a few hours a week for a worthy cause
9. Help someone every day
10.Go to Church
11.Invite your friends to Church
12.Take group dance lessons
Good Luck
2006-12-27 15:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a boyfriend because of your lack of confidence. I don't think it is weird, I think a lot of girls are like you. I didn't have my first bf until I was 18. I was very shy then but now I am much more confident. Don't worry about feeling like an idiot, just be yourself. You need to believe in yourself. Go buy youself an outfit that makes you feel good and go out and believe you are worth every single guys attention, they will see your confidence and approach you.
2006-12-27 15:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by strtat2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't strange at all and the fact that you haven't may have more to do with your shyness and self confidence than anything else. don't worry about your appearance necessarily, although a good makeover may help with your confidence. We had a friend at our site - everydaywomeneverywhere.org - who had an avature which stated that she was in a shell - not confident at all - and not she is as outgoing as the rest of us who supported her, so get yourself a support group of friends who will help you build up that confidence whether in real life or onlne -join us at EWE if you would like- and build up your confidence until you find a person good enough to call a boyfriend but don't settle for less as some do.
2006-12-27 16:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start liking yourself, if you think about yourself that you are not pretty, and that you are dumb looking, that is what other people will think about you because you give them that idea, what you need is to take a look at yourself in the mirror, and accept you the way you are, and learn to live and love yourself, its not easy, but once you do it, things flow so much easier in your life, especially if you want to have a boyfriend or some kind of a serious relationship.
2006-12-27 15:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by nadie entendia mi nick asi que lo cambie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being shy its not bad... Its your confidence in who you are! I was shy for many years. I still am alittle but you'll find out that people or humanity is not scary. i thought people would hurt me. so, I became fearful of every one and soon your alone. In my mid 20's some how i just got myself over that fear. I am sure you will to some day. Hope you had a good christmas!
2006-12-27 15:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to feel confident about yourself and strut your stuff because when you show you care about yourself the you make and appearance on a guy. Try not to be so picky either, if you are give some guys a chance date...then you will see what you like and more of that type of man will be attracted to you
2006-12-27 15:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by knows her stuff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not weird. You just have to get out of being shy. I was shy once. Then I joined the Army. And the rest is history
2006-12-27 15:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get makeover! New look and a new attitude! You'll be amazed out how people will treat the new you! You need to show them, that you are interested in people. If you don't look anyone in the eye, that comes off as rude and insecure. The opposite of what your trying to accomplish.
2006-12-27 15:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋