I was with my ex about 2 years, and most of the time we were so happy, and then it started getting bad. We took a "break" for a month, but we were both so miserable & got back together. We were back together for about 6 months when we started to have problems again. We brokeup once again, for good, or so we thought. I ended seeing this guy I knew from mutual friends.And We connected in so many ways & not to mention I was on a re-bound, but it just seemed so right. I was happy being with him for the first time i have been with anyone in a long time. Then my ex calls me up, and we talked for hours, about everything. He wants me back, and i miss him also & I know we can work through what problems we do have, but here's the problem. The man i'm with now is awesome. He treats me right. (not that my ex didn't) I'm confused & dont wanna hurt anyone. I have so much feelings 4 both of them, but I'm in-love with my ex, but I know i could just as easily fall in love with this man, what do i do?
2006-12-27 07:48:35 · 15 answers · asked by teeny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you have issues with committment and you obviously don't love either of them enough to be with them because you're asking us for an opinion. Personally, I think you should tell them both to get lost while you learn to love yourself for awhile.
2006-12-27 07:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by It's Me 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I woldn't go back with your ex. Stay with this awesome guy that you just found. Your ex is probably a nice guy, but you two go on and off, and he likes that. You're always there for him because you come back to him whenever he wants you back..it's like you two are living a relationship controlled by him...it's on again and off again according to his schedule. Who knows what he could be doing when you two are on a break? I'm sure when you two get together he's faithful..but then he gets his fill and dumps you..and then expects to get back with you again?..thats not right! you should be treated better than that...like how this new guy is treating you. He seems aewesome...he likes you for you..i wouldnt throw that away. I'm sure your ex is equally amaxing but you two have had your time(s) i think it's time for something new, fresh and wonderful..like this new guy.
i hope this helps! and i hope you can get everything worked out okay!
2006-12-27 07:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by thappygolucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously you need to take a break from both of them. Take some time for yourself and figure out who you are and what you want. By not seeing either of them eventually it will surface who it is you really want to be with. A few months alone could make a difference down the road and save you heartache. It is obvious you are not in touch with yourself and until you are you will never be happy in any relationship. If eventually you do choose your ex you could probably both benefit from couples counseling.
2006-12-27 07:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to do some soul searching and figure out which one you feel would make you the happiest. You have tried so many times with your ex-boyfriend and things have never worked out. Do you honestly think that things will change in your relationship if you get back together? It sounds like you truly care about the man that you are with now and it sounds like you would probably be happier in the long run if you stay with him. Good Luck to you!
2006-12-27 07:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex is so great, why can't you two make it. Something was wrong in that relationship and it still is. Hear this, when they see you with someone else, they often want to get in on the action. Don't ruin the chance to move on with someone who really cares about you.
2006-12-27 07:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your name, you are still a teen. If so, you have not finished developing as a person. When you do you will be able to better judge who is good for you in the long term.
Instead of limiting your choices, date around some more. See what the world holds for you.
2006-12-27 07:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should stay with the new guy. You seem like you were having to many problems with the first
2006-12-27 07:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by cherokeegrl26 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my vote (in THIS situation.... don't get me started....) is that you should go be with your ex.
let the other guy down gently, but it really sounds like you and your ex should be together, especially because you said, 'I know we can work through what problems we do have', right there, thats key, and it sounds like you DO love him.
best of luck in life!
2006-12-27 07:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
your ex had his chance. why dont u givethis new guy one? im not telling u to pick one just now, i just mean take some time and really think. and who knows ur ex might just break up with u again.
2006-12-27 07:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by Vanessa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello =)
My advice is not to burn any bridges at all...
Keep them both for now.....let your emotions decide over time....
Guys have been doing this since the stone age.....I don't know why women don't try it.
Namaste, and Happy New Year!!
--Tom
2006-12-27 07:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋