I am a single mom that is pregnant with my second. I provide happy and good homes for my children.. My family disagrees, based on their religion. They would actaully say 'congradulations', IF I was married, even if unhappily married, and pregnant.
I would rather see kids raised in a happy home and provided for with one parent, then in a miseralbe home where they are emotinally abused with two parents.
What do you think
2006-12-27 07:45:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I grew up in an unhappy home. My dad was abusive to us and my mom, but she couldn't leave. I think growing up that way is wrong and is bad on the kids. I still have issues from childhood. I think if you can provide for your babies and everyone is happy then that is what you should do. I see no problem with being a single parent. Congrats on your new addition and just be happy. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks, just have a happy life and enjoy your babies.
2006-12-27 07:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with being a single mom, and you're absolutely right ... being in a two parent tension filled house is no way to bring up kids (how kids learn to relate is through the relationships they see around them) But the rules change as a single parent, dates shouldn't all be brought home - exposure should be left to the few and worthy. It's hard to work and raise kids but I've seen it done both right and not quite right ways. Not everyone is guarenteed we'll have a happy childhood just because we have 2 parents, that's why there's therapy to help you get over it - if that's what you need
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do whats in your heart, as long as you love, support and care for the kids you'll do fine.
2006-12-27 07:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Chele 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree. I am also a single mom for the same reasons. I grew up in a 2 parent household and my parents would fight constantly. It really does a number on a child when their parents are unhappy and argue alot. Only one person as the right to judge you and that is GOD himself. your family should look a little closer at themselves, than judging you for providing a good home for your children.
I wish that I could remember exactly what verse in the Bible this was but I can quote it "Judge not lest you be judged by the judgement which you judge"
2006-12-27 07:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a mom of 6, including my stepdaughter, I agree with you. I had two kids with my ex husband. My parents told us that we had to get married so we did and 3 yrs later we got a divorce. Family means a lot but there are times when you need to decide what's right for you because you're the one who's living your life and you're the one who will have to face the hard times when the babies get older and start asking about the fathers. So as long as you can keep being true to yourself and your kids keep on doing what ever it is that you are doing.
2006-12-27 07:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by missfinley2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard having just a mom or just a dad to raise you. But sometimes people get into marriages where the other spouse is abusive verbally or physically or just plain doesn't care about the family and walks out on them. At that point, then I believe that it's fine-if you've done all you can to try and fix the marriage then it's OK to divorce and be a single parent.
'Just my view though.
2006-12-27 07:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 12:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
True and false. I am 25years old I was raise w/ one parent because of a divorce. A family suppose to stick together in hard times. Your family is wrong for judging you. Remember that is going to be hard to raise kids with one parent not because of one parent because of emotional stability. When kids turn into teenagers....be prepare to be a mother and a father at the same time.
2006-12-27 07:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are doing a wonderful job. It also sounds like you are a very loving, caring mother. Don't listen to other people about this. True, it is difficult to do it all yourself, but it best for the children if the mother is happy. Keep up the good work.
2006-12-27 09:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by StormyC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say you are a good parent with such a great outlook on things, and your right. why any one would subject their kids to a nasty home life is beyond me. they are far better off in a positive home with a single parent then that.
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stay strong and stand your ground :)
2006-12-27 13:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can financially provide for and emotionally support 2 children on your own (with no government assistance; ie: food stamps, medical, cash assistance, etc) I'd say more power to you....2 kids are harder than one, though....sibling rivalry, and there will be some.
2006-12-27 09:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by Darth Darwin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋