Should my mother break up with her boyfriend?

Question

Ok i rele need ur help now. My mothers boyfriend lives with us in our house with his 15 yr old son. His son is an complete asshole to us, and his father doesn't care he just says that we are being mean to him, which we are not! He tells my mother wat to do, and he doesn't do anything. All he does is eat and lay around and complain. Mom's boyfriend won't let her go out unless he knows exactly where she is going, and he goes out every day without letting her know. He says he loves us, but sumtimes he doesn't show it. They fight all the time, and most of the time it's over his son. he doesn't get my mother anything for Christmas or even her birthday. I'm tired of seeing her hurt, and I wish she would break up with him. He uses my mom's money for everything, and never uses his. He never does anything to his son, and he gets on to us all the time. mom says that he won't leave so we just jave to deal with it, but I think that is bullshit. Mom won't ask anybody about, so i'm asking you guys.

Well he has been with my mother for 7 yrs because he has been with my mother ever since I was 6 or 7. She doesn't do anything, I mean she complains about it and everything but like I said she doesn't do anything. My dad died when I was 6 so I have no where to go. I know my mother will say that I won't understand, since i'm only 13. I hate seeing my mother upset all the time. How can I make my mom see that she is way to good for him and kick him out? With eveything that is happening it has taken a big toll on my life and my brother's as well.

Answer 1

Ok,I really have to say something here,the question really hits home for me and here is why...My mother had a live in boyfriend for 7 years,he was mentally and physically abusive to my brother and myself,my brother couldn't take it anymore and moved in with our father,her boyfriend's goal was to make both of us leave and,mom thought my brother was just acting out and jealous...He started being very controlling over my mother,demanding and cursing at her,I refused to let her take the brunt,so I did...The mental and physical abuse almost got the best of me...I always told my mom he was hurting her emotionally but,she wouldn't listen....She let him "deal with me" thinking I was an out of control teen...I was too scared to tell her the truth...Long story short,he ended up taking his own life after he asked my forgiveness one last time,he said some key words that said he was going to die but,I kept it to myself,a week later,I found out he killed himself 2 days after he saw me....You have to tell your mom your scared and your not trying to be controlling over her but,you see some very disturbing things....Talk with her outside the house in a public place where the both of you can't raise your voice...Tell her my story if you think it would help....I will keep you in my prayers.....

Answer 2

Isn't it sad that you, the child, are the most mature of the bunch -- that you have to act like the adult. Yes, it does not sound like a good situation. I am sure that that is not news to your mother. Yet is she doing anything about it? Try to convince your mother. If it does not work, let her know that this is a bad situation for you to grow up in and try to move in with your father or other sane family members.

Statistics show that you may grow up to repeat her mistakes, possibly because you won't know any other way or that you deserve better. She deserves better and you definitely do to!!

Answer 3

He sounds like a first class abuser. Your mom is probably not going tobreak up with him, but you can call the police every time they fight and say your afraid of him. They tell your mom how to get away from him. Abusers always get worse and treatment seldom helps. Don't put it off.

Answer 4

Yes your mom should break up with him you have enough evidence for it. The father doesn't try to communicate to resolve things, he sounds very controlling, and he is abusing the household. If everybody refuses to communicate to resolve it then you should runaway.

Answer 5

if she isn't breaking up with him or kicking him out because he won't leave then maybe she feels threatened. she should pile his crap in the front yard and tell him to leave. if he doesn't she should call the police. if he is living in Her house she has every right to tell him to get the hell out! if you're living in his house then you guys should leave.

Answer 6

Well how old are you? Maybe try talking to her boyfriend as well and let them know you are uncomfortable. I don't know it's seems complicated. Your Mom should be more supportive.:)

Answer 7

with everything you just said, it is definitely obvious she should dump him.