I've been with my boyfriend since I was 15 yrs old. I'm 22 now. We're waiting to get married until after we buy a house and are financially stable. His sister and I have never been the best of friends and she's always been hateful towards me. It always feels like she's trying to be better than me and everything is a competition. She is 21 and her boyfriend of 3 yrs is 20. They just got engaged on Christmas. I am so jealous of her right now I can't stand it. How am I going to get over this and stay mature when she starts planning her wedding and talking non stop about it? My boyfriend and I are so shocked that his little sister is going to get married before us. Why is this happenning this way?
2006-12-27 07:22:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My God you're still young. First off, his little sister is an idiot for getting married too young. Don't worry, they'll divorce as soon as you can say "congratulations." Marriage at such a young age is foolish, because its your hormones that are making you believe that you need to be together. Its a tough world out there and you need to experience it first before you make any kind of leaps. Trust me.
2006-12-27 07:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by kokubenji 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Surprisngly, I can imagine what your going through even though Ive never experienced it. Probably because the same thing happened to my mom. Except it wasnt just my dad's sister that hated her, it was his whole family! The best thing you could do (gonna sound cliche) is to Kill her with kindness! Just try it, atleast and see if it works. Although that might make you feel as if shes taking advantage of you while your being sweet and kind to her. But it will pay off in the end. Let her talk non-stop about her wedding. Go to her wedding and note every small detail. Then when its time to plan your own wedding, make it 1000 times better than hers. Eventually, if you continue being nice to her, she'll feel guilty for everything shes ever done to you...Hope it works out :)
2006-12-27 07:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Satellite Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you jealous of the girl or the shown fact that your "guy" is talking to a woman? Take a type and locate out approximately your self! you will no longer provide up being jealous till you already know why you're this way. some women persons are jealous because of the fact while they have been youthful their dad cheated on their mom and that they are nonetheless coping with it. For others it must be a real physiological subject ie stockers or abusers. yet, if his physique language is telling you that there is something between him and this lady, then you certainly ought to observe this lady.
2016-11-23 20:00:35 · answer #3 · answered by stansel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be positive!! you are acting a lot more intelligent by waiting until you have a house and are financially stable, do they have a house?? money?? probably not! soon they will start having babies and you will see them straggle and probably ask you and your boyfriend for help, i don't know how spiritual you are but i believe that GOD is watching and he doesn't like you to have those kinds of feelings in your heart, remember that he will multiply you whatever you wish on someone else. So let it go for your own good, be happy for her, be Strong cause you are going to get married too, and trust me you are a lot smarter by getting yours first,try to even help her with her wedding, you may get or learn something that is going to help you with your own wedding!Be happy sweetheart and congratulations!!
2006-12-27 07:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by mamachula01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family competition can be very tricky; I have been a part of it for several years. My way to stop being jealous? Well, I decided what was important to me and as long as you believe in your goals, nothing your "future" sister-in-law can do will hurt you.
That said, are you jealous because you want to be married sooner or just before she gets married? Also, use this as a learning experience and let her wedding planning guide you in what you want out of your wedding.
2006-12-27 07:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by Karenlee P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are jealous over the notion of someone else getting married, this tells me that you still have a lot of growing up to do.
Whether you like her or not, you should be happy for her and keep it moving. If you really wanna be superficial, let her get married, see how it turns out, then top their wedding. Like I said that is if you wanna be superficial.
I am not your therapist, but you guys are to young to get married. How do I know, it is called life exprience. Things have not been broke for 7 years so why break it now by getting married?
2006-12-27 07:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is NO BIG DEAL. So what! You should only be concerned with your own life plans and not someone else's. I would suppose she (they) are doing this on purpose to make you jealous and you let it work. I hope you and your boyfriend are not getting married soon because you need to really grow up and get real about what is important. You are too immature if you are still jealous of other people.
2006-12-27 07:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by diturtlelady2004 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋