I received an email from a friend chiding me for not sending him a thank you note. This friend, whom I shall call "Mickey" made a number of laminated bookmarks from a piece of Photoshop art that I had created. "Mickey" then sent these bookmarks out as Christmas gifts to our group of friends, myself included.
Today "Mickey" sent this email to our group: "To those who thanked me for the photo print images I sent for Xmas, 'Thanks for the thank you. You rock!' To those who didn't, I'm not going to go all Miss Manners on your *** but you should really click here
I replied snarkily with "Thanks for the gift and for telling me how to thank you for it."
Nonetheless, I believe that it is far, far ruder to send a group email reproaching friends for not yet sending a thank you note (after all, it is only 2 days past Christmas) than to have not sent the note at all.
Any comments?
2006-12-27 07:22:08 · 16 answers · asked by EdwinaTrout 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
He probably should have waited at least a week to send out any email like that, you can't expect people to have written and sent Thank you notes on Christmas Day. Also, he could have worded that email much more politely. However, it is always necessary to send a thank you note, even if you think the gift is cheap. The only time you don't need to send a note is if it is a friend or very close relative and you opened the gift in front of them.
2006-12-27 07:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by Avon 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your friend "mickey" is a crass individual. Most people, including Miss Manners, would give you 30 days to respond with a thank you note.
And seriously, why should you thank someone for sending you a laminated piece of YOUR OWN WORK????
This guy obviously has no idea what manners are, what a present is, or how to approach other people about an issue. I'd dump his as* asap.
ROFLMAO @ eXie's remark!!!!
I think you should forward all of these answers to dear ol' Mickey!!
2006-12-27 16:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL, I agree with you as far as the fact that HE sent tacky thank you cards EVERYONE, including those who DID NOT respond. However, 2 days after Christmas? Whats the major deal in sending an email the day after Christmas, its more considerate.. Especially if this person is a CLOSE friend!!!
2006-12-27 16:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by peacfulwar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously. It's December 27, and I haven't even finished DIGESTING Christmas Dinner.
I personally KNOW that some of the later cards I sent out haven't gotten to their recipients yet, and vice versa. Not to mention that half of the people who sent cards, and gifts and all manner of joyous festive tidings to their friends and loved ones will not even be HOME until after the New Year...and since most people I know still consider the New Year to be PART of the "Holiday Season" I'm going to go out on a limb and state that you have at least a month to get all of your holiday "Thank You" cards, notes, post-its and carrier pigeons to where they need to be.
For all of the aforementioned reasons I have penned a small note to "Mickey" in the hopes that you will pass it along to him:
Dearest Mickey,
I want to thank you for the thoughtful gift of seeing my own artwork immortalized as a laminated bookmark.
I must apoligize for my tardiness in thanking you for such an extravagant gift. Unfortunately, I mistakenly sent a thank-you to my seven year old nephew for the lovely gift. Apparently, I have mortally wounded him, since as a wise-and-mighty-third-grader I should have known that the bookmark was a "baby idea" and that his gift was the hand-made and laminated "Free Hug" card.
I thank you again Mickey for such a wondrous gift. You clearly took months to think, plan and execute this little miracle of holiday cheer, and I cannot bear to have one more day pass without thanking you from the bottom of my heart for your generous and thought provoking gift.
2006-12-27 15:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by eXie 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Reply to all and bring up the fact that he made it out of something that YOU created.
"No problem, Mickey. I see the artwork I made out of Photoshop turned out very nicely on those laminated bookmarks."
2006-12-27 20:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has no social graces whatsoever. Anyway, a thank you note should be written within a two week window, regardless of the occasion. On his birthday, maybe a Miss Manners book would be appropriate and helpful.
2006-12-27 18:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mickey is definitely being rude here. Especially, since you created the photo art originally. Did you give you any credit for the creation during his chastising? I think not!
2006-12-27 15:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What a dork!
I give him 2 candycanes up for sending the gift. (cheezy as it was it was still a gift)
One lump of coal to you for not sending a thank you. (Although I imagine you would have if given time)
And 4 lumps of coal to Mickey for his extremely rude note.
2006-12-27 17:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Agree with you that Mickey was rude and childish to comment to those who didnt thank him for the gift.
Most of all, being sacartic about it.
2006-12-27 22:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by gs04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two thumbs down for Mickey's rudeness, but I give you a thumbs up for the snarky remark!
He's also rude in "stealing" the artwork that YOU created to give as gifts he made. (I'm assuming that he didn't give you proper credit for the creative artwork).
2006-12-27 15:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by BB 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋