I will be getting married and if I choose to put an announcement in the paper I am not sure what to write. My mother is deceased and I have not spoken to my dad in 9 years. Would it be rude to leave him out of it? Should i just not even bother putting one in the paper? I don't even want to put the place of the wedding in it for fear that my dad would show up and ruin my wedding. I don't know what to do!!!!
2006-12-27 07:09:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You could leave him out. Also, if you want to only name the city/town you are going to be married, it's good.
Jane Smith, daughter of the late Jan Smith, of Hereweare, NJ, announces her engagement to John Doe, son of Jim and Sue Doe of Therewewere, NJ. Jane is a chemical engineer for McDonald's in Eastbum and John is the CEO of CoffeeCup United. A June wedding is planned.
CONGRATULATIONS, by the way. :Þ
2006-12-27 07:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no requirement that you place an ad in the newspaper. You cannot control who reads the paper, so yes, you are taking a chance of your father seeing it and inappropriately appearing. If you want to place an ad in the paper you can place it after the fact. That is, "Jane Doe and John Roe were married Friday, December 29, 2006 at....." As far as anything pre-wedding, limit the notice to the invitations themselves. That way you can control who is invited. You are not required to put parents' names on invitations either. Just say, "Jane ane Joe invite you to share in their happiness...." yada, yada, yada. If your fiance wants to include his parents, do so after your names. Wedding invitations have become very flexible in today's world of nuclear relationships.
2006-12-27 15:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Venice Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not need to put the location of the wedding in the announcements. All I did for mine was "they are planning a spring 2008 wedding".
If you haven't spoken to your father do not put him in the announcements.
Congrats on the engagement!
Edit: I like wbjalb620's response.
2006-12-27 16:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really up to you. If you are not speaking with your father I don't think you should feel obligated to put his name in there. If you want to share that you are engaged then put in a brief announcement with no actualy details of the wedding. It's your annoucnement and your day, don't let your father ruin it for you.
2006-12-27 15:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by strtat2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have a photo of your and your fiance put in the paper, and simply state, "John Smith and Jane Doe were married on Day, Month, Year at Such and Such Church."
2006-12-27 15:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by rtlsimpson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To avoid any sort of unwanted guests: Don't post it in the newspaper. Better safe than sorry. Of course, if you want to be in the paper, just don't mention anything about your parentage. Just your fiancee's.
Good luck and congrats!
2006-12-27 15:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by pounding_silence 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd just not bother putting it in the paper. You'll be sending invitations to the people who matter to you anyway, so don't worry about it.
2006-12-27 15:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Use the classifieds looking for wedding guest
2006-12-27 15:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by won_fulano 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you are conceited to think that anbody would care about you announcement.
2006-12-27 16:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋