most times i feel he loves her more, he says he's happier with me cos he quarrels with her most times. but i feel so insecure with him cos i feel he is lying. but his actions towards me most times shows that he cares somehow. what i want to know is if i am doing the right thing by staying with him. then sometimes i feel guilty like i am hurting the other girl. i've talked to him about it but he says i shouldn't worry myself about her and that i am not hurting anybody. at first he said she had a boyfriend before him that's why he didn't mind dating her. but something keeps telling me its not through. i'm confused. i love him. should i let him go? or just keep waiting for him to finally leave her.?most times i just think he will not leave her cos they have been dating for 5years or so. what should i do?
2006-12-27 07:01:15 · 39 answers · asked by Datari e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OMG this guy sounds full of sh**. He seems as though he is keeping you both around, simply cuz he can - he is just being selfish, as he probably cares for both of you, and doesn't want to let either of you go. He is being selfish and you need to find someone better that doesn't have a girlfriend and who wouldn't think twice about being with you.
2006-12-27 07:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by Danru 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. He doesn't love you or he'd be with you and some lame excuse about he's been dating for so long is just a big line of bs. If he wanted to be with you, he would and no relationship would stop him. How would you feel if you found out he was running the same game on other girls too?
If he does this to his girl he will do this to you too so just leave him alone. You'll get over the heart break and realize that you're better off without him anyway.
Sounds like he wnats something on the side and just keeps you around for that. Love doesn't need to be tested...and he sounds like he's running game. Honestly if you want someone like that get your head examined. Please...
2006-12-27 07:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by clarnely_2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that if he has been with her for 5 years then he isnt telling you the truth. Most guys will tell a girl on the side that his relationship is not good, because that way it eases the girls intuition of cheating. He knows that be telling you he is unhappy it will paint the picture that he truly cares for you and that he is being the nice guy by not hurting her in a break up, but if he really was the nice guy then he would have ended it a long time ago, wether with you or with her. nice guys dont string along two females. I know this is gonna be a blow to the heart, but kick him to the curb the guys a player and if not then by kicking him to the curb he will be forced to realize he is being dumb.
2006-12-27 07:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by jackiemontgomer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a look at what you just typed. Evaluate it. They've been together 5 years-he's cheating on her with you-he's having his cake and eating it too. I don't think he's going to leave her. The only way that's happening is if she finds out about you. But if he's cheating on her, he'll do it to you. Trust me, I don't think you want to be in a full time serious relationship with this jerk. You'll end up hurting even more than you are right now. Plus, you better hope that karma doesn't rear end you down the road.
2006-12-27 07:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he leaves her for you...don't you think he would do that to you too? I mean, if he's been with a girl for 5 years, and leaves her to be with you....what if after only a few months or a year he decides to do the same thing to and leave you for the girl at the coffee shop that makes his Latte every morning? What I'm saying is....if it's a track record....it's not going to just stop with you. I would be really careful...I'm sure you could find better out there...give yourself some credit!
2006-12-27 07:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation as you, it is best to walk away, even if he leaves her for you, you'll never trust him cos he's cheated on her with you, your letting him get away with having 2 girls at once and as he see that your not going to end it, he'll let it carry on, how do you know he hasn't another girl in toe too, leave him and find someone who will be there for you, and only you
2006-12-27 07:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Natasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he is not right for you
1. you have to ask
2.. he has a girlfriend <- don't be a homewreaker
3... he is confuseing you and not be forward! <-- he just wants to keep you on the side so he will not be alone! there for he will tell you what you want to hear! becareful guys are noticing we notice so they will through that curve ball and say something sort of mean to make us want them even more!
4.... YOU feel he is lying! your most likely right!
5..... his actions are most likely based off of that side line thing so he will do what is need to keep you around!
6....... sorry you are hurting that girl and yourself! GET OUT NOW! let say he dumps her! now he is with you..... what happends if there is another you out there when he is with you now your in that girls spot how do you feel! sence your talking to him while he is with the other girl only shows me he is a cheater!
do you want to be with a cheater?
I dont think i need to continue if you can't see it by what i typed then your hopelessly in love and really blinded by it! <-- nothing is wrong with that it happends to the best of us! but you will only learn by doing staying with your emotions hopefully i have pulled off the nonsee threw glasses!
Best of luck!
only love those who are loving you back!
2006-12-27 07:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, he is only playing games with you. Don't let anyone treat you like this. He has no intention of leaving the other girl, and why should he? Your not giving him any reason why he should change anything. He gets to be with 2 different women. He is a jerk and you need to get rid of him, and find someone that will treat you right.
2006-12-27 07:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by TD R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You think you love him, may be yopu like him for his looks, but that is not love. You are just atracted to him. Now, you can't love a manipulator knowingly. Take care of yourself and don't get into a situation that will hurt you. I'm sure there is a deserving boy out there that you will meet, just be patient and make sure you make a wise decision for your future. God Bless.
2006-12-27 07:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by skydiver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an obvious answer to your question and you already know it you just want someone to tell you what you want to hear. You sound like a smart girl you know he isnt going to leave her or he already would have. (love doesnt need testing) I think he is just missing alittle something in the realationship at this time and he is getting it from you. (using you) Go find someone who would love you so full heartedly they would never test your love or disgrace you by sleeping around.
2006-12-27 07:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋