My sister has always been a bit rude and hurtful but for some reason it is escalating. This year when I shipped her Christmas gift, I decided to wait and see how long it would be before she contacted me to say she received it (in past years, I would call her to see if she got it okay). It took her three weeks! I can almost put this aside, except this year she didn't even call mom on Christmas. I kind of felt she wouldn't because she didn't call on mom's birthday either but this really peeves me off. My mother is trying to say it's no big deal but she is very hurt (she waited by the phone all day). Should I finally just lay it on the line and tell sis what I think?
2006-12-27 07:01:03 · 8 answers · asked by 4532 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, maybe she is going through something and talking about it might help-but if she's just begin rude for the sake of it then you should let her know it's not okay.
2006-12-27 07:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same dilema as you are. My mother is in a nursing home now for 5 years since my brother died suddenly @ age 49 in his sleep.My mother was medicated & because of this was falling so she ended up @ the nursing home. My well to do older sister & grown children with children of their own do not even send my Mom a card,,let alone a visit.Mom has never even met one of the great grandchildren.We all live relatively close to each other.I think it is sooooo very rude & selfish how they treat my Mom after all she has been thru & Mom has always been great to all of them.I almost called my sister to give her a peice of my mind but I didnt.This is the third year that they have not aknowledged her for Christmas or her Birthday.My Mom is slowly loosing interest,,I think that an occational visit or card could make a huge difference in her life.She is 87 but stilll sharp minded.Bless your heart for caring about your Mom's feelings & for being there for her.
2006-12-27 15:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is a big girl she knows whats wrong and right.
Your mother has to let go and allow her daughter to make her own decisions. I know it might be hurtful but let her go on her own and don't call see if eventually she does the calling.
In time she will come to her senses
or Did something happen to cause this friction between you.
Hope it all changes for the better.
2006-12-27 15:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister is the same way, never calls, no thank you's, I end up apologizing for her everywhere we go. There is no amount of talking you can do to solve the situation everyone knows how she is and your best bet is to blow it off be yourself and do what is right for you. Be the better person, the happier one, the nicer one. People will see that and all will be fine.
2006-12-27 15:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by spitfin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep I would. It will make you feel better anyways. Sure I think she will be mad about it for a while, but she will get over it. The tension she causes by being self absorbed is unnecessary, and she definitely needs to be confronted.
2006-12-27 15:08:03 · answer #5 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it wouldn't hurt to talk to her, however, i feel that there is some underlying reason for her behavior. like maybe some past arguments or abuse or something. I don't think people are rude just to be rude. if there are any outstanding issues, i would try and resolve them or talk to her about what would make her happy...good luck to you and your family.
2006-12-27 15:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course you should tell her how you feel. and find out how she feels. maybe she thinks you dont care or she is waiting for someone to call her or she feels awkward. but maybe she just doesnt care
2006-12-27 15:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by earthgirl766 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should at least let her know how you feel and how it's effecting your mom. after that, whatever she does is on her.
2006-12-27 16:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by so4reelz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋