How do I "not invite" family members to my daughters party?

Question

My daughter turns three in March and since we're going to Disney right after, we can't throw a big party. I thought of throwing a small princess party at our house this year and only inviting a few toddlers her age, their parents, and grandma and grandpa. Is it rude not to invite other adult family members and their older children? (we have ALOT of family on both sides and we invited them all last year. We also had it at the skating rink so it was big enough). So what would you do? Please Help!

Answer 1

If it was me and people are expecting an invite to something I would tell them due to a big family vacation this year we won't be having a "party" for our daughter's birthday. However we will be going to the local pizza parlor (or wherever) for a small celebration of pizza. If you would like to join us (give time and place) but also wanted to let you know everyone is responsible for their own meal and no presents are required. Just some nice conversation and happy visit for our daughter.

Answer 2

My sister has this problem due to her husband large family and what she does is schedules the party, only invites those she wants to and if someone says, why wasn't I invited, she says it was just for little kids, another thing she does is makes the party inconvenient for people to attend. She schedules it for right after school on a weekday so only those kids that are in my niece or nephews classes attend. You could also just be honest and say we don't have the money to throw a big party this year because we are going to Disneyland right after the party, so we can't invite everyone like we usually do. I hope you understand and the next time we have a larger party we would love to have you there!

Answer 3

They may be relieved to not have to come to a toddler's party, since they don't have toddlers. Contrary to what most people think, not everyone is thrilled with a small child's birthday party when you don't have small children yourself. But, be prepared to maybe not be invited to their birthday parties as well. I would think Disney would be enough birthday celebration for a 3 yr old and they wouldn't need ANOTHER party. Since you're going to Disney skip the princess party at your house and just have a party at Disney with whoever is privileged to go with you to Disney and tell everyone else there is no party this year because you will be at Disney for her party.

Answer 4

A lot of people have birthday parties for their young kids that turn into huge family barbecues. I think these events can be fun, but aren't really about your child. As she gets older, she's going to want her friends, cake, dress-up, etc...not her entire extended family!

Since you invited everyone last year, they may be hurt if you just don't tell them. Especially since you're leaving, just call and say you're skipping the large party and only having her friends over at your home. If some relatives especially want to come, invite them for the ice cream and cake part only.

Answer 5

I would maybe have a separate get together for family. When I was little, we usually had a "friends" party and a "family" party. The family party doesn't need to be a big, expensive party. Usually it was just cake and ice cream or dinner. You don't need to do the "theme" thing or have tons of stuff for that. Then people won't feel left out of your child's birthday. Or also, just don't tell about the other party, and explain that it was just for the kids if they find out.

Answer 6

Do whatever you want to do. Is your family super-sensitive? Is the whole family invited to everyone else's birthday every time?

You should reasonably be able to tell people that you are going to throw a small party this year and that next year you'll try to include the whole family (if you think you will). Tell them that it's "just too much" to have the whole family each time and that you're going to keep it oriented to children her age. They should hopefully understand.

Good luck.

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Answer 8

Send a letter to your family members telling them due you plans you have made to take your daughter to Disneyland for her birthday that you will be holding a family only party the weekend before for anyone who wishes to attend.

Let them know it will be a simple cake and ice cream affair, but that it will be a sitation where they will need to let you know if they can make it in advance so you can plan accordingly (give a cut off date). That way you can decide if anyone even whants to attend or not and yes you can get enough cake and ice-cream or whatever.

Then have a small gathering on her birthday for those who you choose this way no ones feelings will be hurt and your plans will not be upset.

Peace.

Answer 9

Tell the family that you're not having a big party because you're going to be leaving for your trip. You just want to keep it small this year because Disney is stressing you out. Just be honest, they should understand, and if they don't, they will get over it.

Answer 10

I do not think that it's rude- not to invite other family members, because it's the party arranged by you & you can choose that whom you should invite. Everyone has one's right to choose & to invite someone to a party or not to. This is not rude.