With who should i stay?

Question

I have a boyfriend of 2 months that i [think] i love... but he has done may things bad to me like [cheat] and even [stop talking] to me. But he is a very nice guy.. [now] everything i want i [get].
I have this other guy that i [liked] for the longest.. He is telling me to be with him and in one year will get marry if everything goes good... but he has also done a couple of [bad] things.. like talk to his ex-girlfriend but [never] when back with her...
my [now] boyfriend has also told me that he wants to marry me
and i just dont know what to do....
CAN YA' HELP OUT LIKE WITH THINGS TO THINK ABOUT TO SEE WITH WHO TO STAY... PLEASE HELP ME
THANKS TO ALL...

Answer 1

I certainly wouldn't marry either of them. 2 months id NOT long enough to know if you love someone and if he has already done all these "bad" things in two months time you should dump him NOW. Give the ex a chance, but don't just marry him right off, date him for a year at least and then have a years engagement.

Answer 2

Honey, love him or not, he did cheat on you. And if you stay with him he will think that he can do it again because he got away with it the first time, and what makes you think he won't do it again? Marriage won't change the way he is. Yeah he tells you he won't, but then what will you be thinking when he is late for dinner, or he doesn't come straight home after work one night? And the other guy doesn't sound so bad, I mean talking to his ex isn't doing bad things, they are just talking not dating again. If I were you, I would dump the cheater and try it out with this other guy, maybe after you and he make a relationship with each other he will stop talking to the ex and you can start the rest of your lives together.....happily!

Answer 3

Girl, why on earth would you choose to stay with someone who doesn't respect you and mistreats you? Don't mistake being given things for love. Dating is a time to learn who is a keeper and who is not.

Here's what you do... Forget about both guys for a minute and write out a list of all the qualities you absolutely cannot live without in a man. Then, make another list of things you absolutely refuse to live with in a man. After you're done, compare both guys to the list.

If either man has any of the traits on the "can't live with" list, then that's a dealbreaker, no matter how many of the traits on the good list he has.

Whatever you do, don't settle. There are plenty of good men out there if you're just willing to take the time to find them and not take a bad one because you're afraid you won't find someone better.

Answer 4

Hmm. ok. So if the NOW b/f cheated on you~ that should be your answer right there. no. And if something went wrong with the other one, and that is why you used the word "liked" insead of "like" then maybe going back to that wouldent be smart. But then again, maybe you just needed a break from each other. Maybe going back to him now would be fine. That all depends on you. I strongly think that you should not become engaged to the NOW b/f. That is just my opionion. I do belive that you should do what your heart tells you to do. even if that means to leave them both without you.

Answer 5

personally, if a guy cheats on me there's no second chance. because if he cheated on me once, what's the chance that he won't again? and i don't want to live and share a life with someone i can't trust. as for the other guy i don't think talking to your ex is nessessary bad. but what do you mean by "but [never] when back with her" do you mean when he's back with her, he stops talking to her, if that's what you mean, then i know if it was me, i'd hate a guy who doesn't talk to me and ignores me. so tha'ts my opinion but the real decision lies with you, we (the Yahoo community) can only do so much but in the end, it's up to you. so, i suggest to have some time and think about it and maybe neither are for you. remember, if they don't fit you, if they don't meet your standards in what you're looking for in a guy, don't marry them, you'll only be living a life wondering if you could've done better. you never know, maybe you'll meet someone else, so take your time if they truly love you, they'll wait (for a reasonable amount of time of course). good luck with your decision!!!

Answer 6

People who cheat don't do it because of who they are with, they do it because they think it will make them feel better about themselves. So, if your [now] boyfriend has cheated on you ALREADY and you've only been going out for 2 months, then you can bet he will continue to cheat on you. Your decision is pretty simple. It sounds like you like NOW better than BEFORE but that BEFORE is a better man. If you can deal with being cheated on for the rest of your life go with the NOW guy. If you want someone who's more honest, go with Mr. BEFORE.

Answer 7

If you have any reservations about either of them then you need to wait. It has been my experience that once a guy or girl cheats they keeps doing it through the years. 2 months is an awful short time to form a lsting relationship.

Answer 8

To tell you quite honestly, both these guys don't seem like much of a catch. I am assuming you are quite young. Frankly, you shouldn't stay with anybody. I am a big advocate of independence before settling down with a partner. Get your own place and support yourself for a while. Get a taste of what life is first..

Answer 9

Sounds like you should cut these two Bozos loose and start with a truly nice guy who isn't interested in cheating on you, or giving you the cold shoulder! Truly nice guys don't do things like that.

Answer 10

I personallt think you need to sit back and weigh your options. Don't let either one of these guys pressure you in to anything. Especially marriage. I say you take time and vent, and while you're venting this should give you enough time to know who you want to be with. Like I said MARRIAGE is a serious decision and if you do not LOVE this person it will be a HORRIBLE mistake of your LIFE!~!!