I wish I could, but it seems like I get involved with a guy, then after a week or two, I get bored, depressed, and am ready to move on, especially if I'm not getting as much attention as I would like. But then the cycle starts all over again.. I want to try again having a BF. Then I meet someone, and I almost regret meeting them because I know how I will react in the next few weeks. I feel more secure with friends than with someone who I like in a romantic way. Anyone else have this issue?
2006-12-27 06:41:13 · 20 answers · asked by supernaturaldj2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like me!
However i found someone who i'm compatable with without forcing it!
first thing you need to do is get that bs out of your head!
" almost regret meeting them because I know how I will react in the next few weeks."
You think you may know but plant negitive thoughts in your head!~
soon as i started to improve on my self my self growth things started to just go up and up and up :)
it's nice i'm 27 now still improving on self! you know like self help books! this site helped me start coping.org I never thought i had some issues but we all do and we are not bad people for them!
5 years ago i left a guy around xmas time! he was cool but like you Bored! well after him i took a break no more boyfriends! i told my self any anyone intrested in me! I worked in a bar so i had a lot of people who would sort of be into the female dj thing!
anyway! I told everyone straight out i don't want a boyfriend i will dump you in a few weeks anyway! but if you want to go on dates with me sweet!
and i dated a few guys mulitable times! but never asked to be boyfriend and girlfriend! no matter how much one of them wanted it! I said no!
well after some time yes it did get jelous of those with relationships! I took all that anger loneliness and fear and went to coping.org had to straighten myself out even though i really didn't need much of anything but the soul searching just opened my eyes to a lot that i just tended to over look or just seen but passed on acknowledgement!
Now it has been 1 year sence i found my mate! :) He is right for me he knows how to keep me intrestest in him so it's always alike new! sence i dug the NEW feeling so much with dating someone new all the time! He some how does it for me! I would never want anyone else and it feels good to be able to say that!
give it some time sweetie! and play the feild don't try to tie yourself down right now! your subconsiouse is telling you that by making you get bored! just HAVE FUN! :)\
2006-12-27 06:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to have this problem but only cause i didn't want to get hurt and lose someone i really cared about. So after about a week i would make my self feel that i was tired of the person. What ever your doing wrong with all the other boys try to do something different with the next one. Try to do different things so you won't get bored.. I'm sure you will find someone that catchs your eye. Are you scared of long term relationships?
2006-12-27 06:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this issue until I was 22. It just seemed like I would meet the guy of my dreams and two weeks later I was bored with it and wanted something else! I met someone that I never expected to be "the one" and wasn't really even looking for someone and we have been together ever since! Perhaps you just haven't met the right person yet. It's not necessarily your fault!
2006-12-27 06:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by melspags6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever been dumped or treated badly? Did you parents get divorced when you were young. Maybe you have a relationship phobia, fear of getting close. If none of this has happened maybe you NEED to get dumped to know how the it makes the other person feel. Then, next time, you will have more energy to try to actually make a relationship work after all the fun and butterflies go away.
2006-12-27 06:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by ErinRae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay single for a while and see how you like it. You sound like you just want to have fun right now and since you always feel more comforable with friends than with bf just hang out with your freinds and dont get into a relationship. Being single is not bad at all even if you are single for years at a time. At least you are having fun and exploring. Go to clubs and Partys and just have a good time for yourself not anyone eles.
2006-12-27 07:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by play hard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did untill i found the girl that i feel in love with see the thing is you want certain parts of a relationship but not a full on relationship.... So for now go with the flow you will know when you want to settle believe me and don't push anything let things happen on there own
2006-12-27 06:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a bit of a commitment problem, you have to get past the "bored" stage in the relationship by focusing on doing different things, like activities that you can learn from with each other, and if you feel your getting bored, spice things up, go on a trip or work on a project together, everyone gets bored by themselves and in relationships, the key is commit to something and stick to it.
(With the sense that you are compatible with that person)
2006-12-27 06:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by sarabmw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do know someone like that...no names or anything, but i'll tell you this...it may be fun now (or not, depending on how you feel dumping the guys), but eventually, it's gonna hurt and you'll be unable to ever settle. my advice is to set goals. try to be with the guy for at least two weeks, then three, then four...eventually, you'll extend the period of time you can stay interested. eventually, you'll be able to have one set bf.
2006-12-27 06:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by Luv Docta Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you find the right guy you will know. you won't be settling. you will be ready and willing to let all others go and to be with just him.
I used to be like that. I would get bored very easily and move from guy to guy. I eventually found the right one. you will too.
2006-12-27 06:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by Photochic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer yourself. You are still in a "wish" stage. Your not ready to commit and that's ok. Continue to sew your wild oats (just like guys do), until one day you'll know that you don't want to move on because your happy with the one your with. Until then, continue to date, date, date and enjoy yourself!
2006-12-27 06:45:26 · answer #10 · answered by spitfire7611 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋