do any other moms here scream and shout?

Question

I really cant help it, the smallest thing seems so big and im like..OMG what the F**K is this doing on the floor!!!!!!!!! Ive been like this since my son was 5. Am i depressed or is this normal?

Answer 1

my mom used to yell at the smaller things but for her it was because there were other bigger things that were bothering her or lots of small things added up. I would say try and find an outlet and maybe talk to a friend or if you feel comfortable a counsulor. Being stressed out for long periods of time does have the potential of causing depression. Anger steals your energy. Maybe be a little more selfish and get some "you" time. Once you get the chance to relax and open up you can figure out what is really bothering you. good luck.

Answer 2

All parents, even the best parents, can lose their tempers at times. But if this is a common thing then no, it's not normal. I'm just curious, but did one or both of your parents react in this way when you were growing up.?Sometimes this type of behavior is learned and sometimes it can be a symptom of a disorder such as depression. It can also be a reaction to extreme stress, low self-esteem, anxiety or a myriad of other things.

Either way you really should seek some kind of help. Parenting can be extremely stressful and if you don't have a good support system such as friends, family and outside interests, the stresses can be overwhelming. Talk to your doctor about this and they can refer you to a therapist who can help you find out why you're reacting in these ways. Also you may want to go to parenting classes which are usually offered through local schools and community centers. Some of these classes are very helpful with ways to cope with stress and how to discipline children without losing your temper.

Not to sound mean, but you need to think of your son too, for this type of behavior can be emotionally harmful to a child. He will also end up seeing this type of behavior as acceptable and end up reacting in this way too when he feels angry. Get some help for your own good and for your son's.

I wish you all the best

Answer 3

You really really need to calm yourself down. Because your children should not have to grow up in a home where there is constant screaming. It's not healthy... for you or your family. It doesn't sound like depression, but it sounds like your stress level is high. I would definately see a counselor. Maybe you need some Zoloft just to help calm down your emotions and anxiety. You should see a counselor... it will help both you and your family out. If your children are young, I wouldn't swear at them! Being too verbal could really get you into big trouble. You never ever want to verbally abuse the people that you live with. It's great that you know that screaming like this is not normal, and that you are seeking help. Get into some counseling, and hopefully your emotions will calm down. Good luck with this!

Answer 4

This is what a normal mom does, you don't have to worry.
Most of mothers care too much like you, & that's normal.
But, you should keep your voice normal so that your son does not thik that all other mothers might be better than you, because you scream too much, you should scold him for wrong things & love him for the good or creative things that he does. And do not worry, you're a normal mother like others.

Answer 5

Knowing & Understanding: There's A Difference

Swami Sukhabodhananda
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A man with eight PhDs - he was proud of his achievement - met a monk. The monk asked him, "Why have you been so foolish in life?" The man said: "But I have eight PhDs!"

"I have understood you; it is foolish to spend the best part of life reading instead of enjoying the birds, stars and the moon", said the monk.

"You may have knowledge but not clarity; you may know a lot and yet understand nothing".

What does one have to understand about life?

You have many centres: Intellectual centre, an emotional centre and a body centre. In each centre, there is a mechanical and magnetic part. The mechanical part acts like a machine while the magnetic part acts with ore awareness.

You have to transform yourself. Your mechanical movements and thinking have to change. Your mechanical emotions like jea- lousy and hatred have to be overcome. You can do this by bringing in more awareness.

Then a complete being will emerge. When you increase awareness, even poison can turn into medicine; and with no awareness, medicine can become poison.

Why are we so mechanical?

A king dreamt that he was a beggar. His guru, in his dreams, told him the truth that he was a king and not a beggar. Now was he to argue with his guru or just wake up?

The question of "why" cannot be answered. When did time begin? You cannot answer such a question. Which came first, egg or hen? There is a logical fallacy in the very question. Realise that we are mechanical. Bring in more awareness and see the life-transformation.

Even inert objects have life. Treat any object with loving awareness and it will guide you mysteriously. Your intuition and purity have to increase to receive this message. When you bathe, lovingly talk to water.

In a relationship, is it not necessary to judge? >>

In a relationship, is it not necessary to judge?

Keep yourself relaxed. Increase your awareness and love. Not to judge should not be a conclusion. Don't make it a demand or compulsion. Let there be a choice. There is a difference between "should' and "choice'.

"Should' creates stress; it limits you to only one option. Choose not to judge. It is not a demand but a wise choice.

The danger of judgment is that you stop seeing the object of judgment and you are more in your judgment.

In life, you have to make judgments, but don't be a victim of your judgments. Suppose a thief enters your house, you have to judge him but then, be open to the possibility that he could change.

Suppose you meet him after 10 years, see if he has changed or not. Do you still judge from the memory that he has been a thief? If you do not have this awareness, you will not see the change in a person even if he has changed.

What should one be really aware of?

Negative emotions poison. Like avoiding poisonous food, avoid negative emotions. Don't identify with them. Don't participate in them. Choose to create a new will, not be driven by negative emotions.

They deplete your energy. They keep you asleep. They are harmful and heavy. They make your life complicated. For example somebody's success should not be your failure. We define our failure by somebody's success.

We feel jealous seeing someone successful. Jealousy is a great poison.

Compete with your potential. Even if you compete with others, enjoy it. See beauty all around. Do not define your success and failure by someone's success and failure.

Answer 6

You are probably depressed or stressed out. I used to be a real screamer. Therapy and meds helped me. the yelling over small things really was a symptom of depression for me.
I still get irritated easily at times, but I don't yell nearly as much.
Get a referal to a good therapist and then they can tell you whether they think you need meds or not, and refer you to a psychiatrist for them. it may seem drastic, but it's not, and it will definitely help you and your whole family.
Good luck, and with therapy, your life will improve!

Answer 7

No, you should seek help. Little things shouldn't bother you especially if you're a mom. See a psychiatrist (sp?) a few times a month and see if that helps. Good luck. :o)

Answer 8

My mom screams and shouts as well, usually i just leave or put on the headphone

Answer 9

I do, but if its over a small thing, you may be under to much stress.