I have been going out with my bf 4 about 2 months. we were friends 1st, then mutrually became a couple.
we are in 1 class together, we hang out out of school, email, and talk on the phone.
when we r together, there are times i just wanna roll my eyes like "i can do WAY better than this"....there are many moments like that. i am his 1st gf, so i can understand that this is a learning process, but sometimes i can't help but to be annoyed. he is my 2nd bf....but my 1st was stupid, we barely saw each other, and he lives less then a mile away!
well......i am really getting sick of the stupid awkwardness. i don't get butterflies in my stomach when i see him, i can always breathe just fine....
should i break up with him?? he is so swet though, and i know he likes me. i like him too, but i don't know how much. we are the "popular couple" @ school, and everyone tells us " u r so cute together".
i really like him, but i am losing patients.
what should i do???
2006-12-27 06:35:21 · 24 answers · asked by ♥Charming's Princess♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm happy....but just @ certain moments. It seriously like a freaking rollercoaster...
2006-12-27 06:44:45 · update #1
Only you can decide what you should do. I wouldn't let anyone other than yourself influence you by listening to those kinds of statements from other's at school.
Sounds to me as if you are much more mature than your boyfriend. Maybe you should think on this for quite awhile like say a couple of weeks and then make a decision.
If it were me i'd dump him and go in search of someone older and more mature.
2006-12-27 06:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by ash84102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a teen going through some teen angst.
All I can offer you is to tell you that this doesn't matter, you don't love him and can't.
What is likely going on is that you are looking for the perfect man to fit your mold. There is no perfect person, that doesn't mean you should settle, but as a teen you don't have much experience with relationships and people and emotions. things that make you roll your eyes now, will in 10 years when you look back on it will likely seem that you were bieng ridiculously picky and bitchy now.
However, in order to get to that point, you need to grow emotionally for yourself. And do what makes you feel happy now, if you are so overwhelmed and upset now then you should talk to him about it, it is only 2 months, you can probably stop dating and recover your friendship over time. Learning means making many misteps along the way and reflecting on them.
You will learn what you really want either way, if you stay with him, you will learn what you can and can't put up with, if you break up with him, you will also learn that.
Odds are you are not going to marry this guy so don't overstress it. learn, live experience life, enjoy it now and use what you learn now to be a better person later.
2006-12-27 14:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by bluto blutarsky2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you need to break it off before it gets too far. It sounds like you're not really happy with him because you feel that you can do better and also you're being pushed into this by others telling you that you look good together. That's not right. It's the same as arranged marriage where everyone tries to set you up but they really don't care after you get married. So in this case don't do it because others saids so. They dont' live your life, you do!So do what is important to you and not for others when it comes to love and relationships. The sooner you break up the easier on both of you otherwise you'll get into that comfort zone and it will get harder to break up. And it's ok to be alone and single until you find the right guy. Trust me there are plenty of guys out there. Take care.
2006-12-27 14:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him!! I had the exact same problem two years ago. I probably did the wrong thing, but it worked. I was always in a bad mood towards him and he would always be so sweet and would ask me what was wrong and every time I would say nothing, but I would never be fun or want to kiss him back or anything. That lead him to the point of breaking up with me. Not until I got a boyfriend whom I love dearly did I realize that I didn't really like the first guy at all, I just thought I did.
2006-12-27 14:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by shoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you really like someone or really love someone, there isn'a any butterflies. butterflies is for crushes and those moments (only moments) when you are in deep love and you look at him and go, ". . . man, I really love him."
I don't see why it matters that you are the "popular couple" unless you are saying that maybe what everyone says is only to kiss butt to you two.
if he acts stupid or annoying at anytime, it's because he's young (you are too). don't stress the little things so much, after all he's a teenage guy. three years ago he probably put staws up his nose, three years from now, he'll still laugh at fart jokes.
anyway, if you "really like him" like you say you do, then don't break up because he acts his age ( you're probably more mature, though b/c girls mature faster)
2006-12-27 14:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important to get butterfly's and feel like you cant breath around someone even after 4 months so yes I would move on (plus its never fun to be with someone who has no experience in anything). besides if you are the popular girl at school no matter who you date you two will be the "popular couple"
2006-12-27 14:42:22 · answer #6 · answered by play hard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time and go out to lunch or dinner or somewhere and talk to him about it.Mayb he is trying to impress you && he thinks he is but he doesnt know how much it is bothering you.Dont break up with him cause every guy u are gonna met is gunna be at least a little annoying
2006-12-27 14:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by Angela G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you haver to break up with him hun. the point ofa relationship isb eing happy and not feeling annoyed. he can only learn if you explain to him. && if you dont want to break up then honestly talk to him. and try not to hold anythnig back because it will only hurt you. just tell him how you feel. and if he doesnt understand then you know you did all you could.
2006-12-27 14:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by Niko 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get one of your friends to straigten his @$$ out. I've been through this problem b4. He's just shy. Just tell him to his face. of get one of your friends. And just because your a cute couple doesnt mean your perfect for each other.
2006-12-27 14:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by 1m@ h3@rT Br3@k3r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u fill i had that same proplem. u dont want to leave him but u do want to with him. i dont give good avice but u shouldent be with him if you dont like him that way u should be with the guy who makes u fill pretty inside and u helped him learn so next time he will know what to do
2006-12-27 14:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by korin c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋