Looking at all of the questions guys answered they always mention looks as the first thing they look for in a girl. I mean is there anything else guys look at/for?
Second part: Everyone at school (i'm a jr.) says me and this guy should date because we are both big church kids, play 3 sports, popular, do well and school and pretty much have EVERYTHING in common. I've liked him since the day i've met him but idk how he feels. Hes never dated anyone (either have i) and I was wondering if i should make a move or something. Or is there a reason he isn't making a move. His family already loves me so I'm not really sure.
2006-12-27 06:30:47 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I cant answer for every guy but personally no, looks are never everything although I believe to have a successful relationship you have to at least be attracted to you partner. Personality is always what mattered most to me from the time i started dating to today and its paid off because women dont want a man that only wants her for her looks.
And about your crisis at school...do what you want to do, do what you feel is right. If you want to consider dating him then talk to him about it because maybe he feels the same and is too shy to say anything to you first. If you're unsure about something, ask, just like you did here. Communication is always the key.
2006-12-27 06:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by JMan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't lie, many guys (not ALL) do consider looks when they see a girl, but in many cases, personality does play a large part. Some guys come to find that a pretty girl may not be able to hold up a conversation. After a while, looks wear away, and what's left? Personality does matter, despite what the majority may say. Guys just rank that lower than looks. This guy you're referring to may just be shy. He may be wondering the same thing you are. Putting yourself out on the line can be a tough thing to do. We've all been there, but that's a chance you may have to take. If he's truly a nice person and a good friend, he won't let things be awkward if he doesn't feel the same way. You shouldn't be ashamed of your feelings if he doesn't reciprocate them. Who knows, he may feel the same way! Sometimes feelings change, he may get to know you a little better and feelings could arise. Good luck chica!
2006-12-27 06:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello
Men are visual, some more than others but not all guys are attracted to looks at first glance.
Second part: Do you want to get in a dating relationship with this guy because it feels right or because most people at your school think you should date?
If you are good friends with him, sit him down and tell him how you feel, your reason for wanting to be with him should not be because of anything else other than you love him and want to be with him. Him not making a move might be because he is thinking the same as you are; he might value you as a friend and not want to mess that up; but you will never know what's going on if you don't address the issue.
Good luck, I hope things work out in your favor.
2006-12-27 06:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by dymps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay so sometimes u have to know that u cant let everyone decide that u should date someone because u have so much in common i mean u guys probably arent right for eachother. but if u like this kid and u have much in common and his family loves u why dont u make a move, ask him if he wants to watch a movie or something but dont make it too obvious that u like him or else he might get scared so play it cool.,
and to answer the furst question i dont think all guys are attracted to only the looks, i mean of course everyone would prefer people who look attractive but remember different guys are attracted to different things. Like this kid i know he was attracted to flat chested girls that was the first one i ever heard of, and others are attracted the girls with nice legs, so basically u cant please everyone. but the most importantt thing a girl can have is the beauty of her inside and how her personality is. im sure a guy wouldnt date a hot gurl with a nastyy attitude. so if u let the guy that u like see how u are on the inside i dont think looks would matter that much anymore. good luck and i hope i helped!
2006-12-27 06:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give much credit to the responses you see here (or anywhere else, for that matter). Lots of kids, lots of immaturity. Even if you find what they say to be true now, you won't later in life.
Physical attraction certainly plays a part in relationships, but you'll find it's less important than you may have thought the older you grow and the more experiences you enjoy. What one person finds attractive another person won't. There really is someone for everyone... alot of someones for everyone.
Attraction is much more than skin deep. Who you are as a person can literally make you more physically beautiful than someone blessed with better physical attributes. A warm smile that comes from the heart can make virtually any woman beautiful. Conversely, a rotten attitude on what would otherwise be a georgeous woman can make her ugly.
Make yourself what you want you to be... love yourself. Eat well for you, stay active for you, and do what's best for you. Place your self respect as your utmost priority. Don't worry about what other people will find attractive. If you love yourself, then you won't accept anyone that doesn't love you the way you are.
2006-12-27 06:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by Just Some Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have found that both guys and gals focus on looks to a degree.
We're built that way - it's genetic.
But we also have brains, and should use them! As time goes on, both men and women realize that the whole package - personality, common interests, etc. - is what's important.
Unfortunately, it takes a long time to learn this. Some, not until the second marriage! Or not even then . . .
I would say that if you really, really want to date this guy you could indeed bring it up. But if you are happy being friends you might not want to risk messing that up either.
There's a right person for everyone. Good luck!
2006-12-27 06:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, looks are not everything, though it never hurts to find someone nice to look at. However, what's on the outside will change every day, and what's on the inside, the heart and core of the person, is far more important.
Exploring the possibilities with the young man you're interested in is certainly not a bad idea. The worst that can happen is that he's not interested, in which you're no worse off than where you are now.
Life is not a dress rehearsal.
Live it.
2006-12-27 06:35:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every girl knows that guys are first attracted by looks. Some call it eye candy. But consider this.
When you look around and see couples that are married...how many of the women are knockouts? More are not than are right?
As guys age they soon begin to understand that looks....while nice to look at.....are not what makes a women the kind of woman he would marry. Personality is much more important.
But in high school guys are not looking to get married and so they are attracted by looks.
The guy you are talking about may not be trying to date you because he is not sure of what you will say. And guys do not like to take a chance of rejection of someone they like.
If his family already likes you you have a big foot in the door. Just let it be known that you like him and you may see his interest change overnight.
2006-12-27 06:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy doesn't find your looks attractive, then he won't be able to fall in love with you even if the two of you are compatible in every other way.
But there is not single standard of what is attractive and what is not. One man's Beauty may be another man's Witch. Men are born with a variety of preferences for women's looks. And if one man doesn't find you attractive, then perhaps there are a dozen other men who will find you attractive.
I suggest that you keep an open mind and don't fall in love too much without knowing whether the guy likes you or not. You don't want to set yourself up for a big disappointment.
2006-12-27 06:45:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of guys are drawn to looks at first, which makes sense, since on most occasions, the first feature you are exposed to about someone, is physical appearance.
If you really want to hook up with this guy, take it easy, don't feel pressured because everyone else suggest that you should hook up because of other reasons than your own. Remember, you're the only one that's gonna walk in your shoes, not other people.
Make decisions that you are comfortable with and can live with.
2006-12-27 06:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by hirofuri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋