I feel that this is keeping me from wanting to get closer--physically and emotionally. I feel like I'm hiding this big secret from guys that I date. I'm afraid that they will lose interest in me for not being experienced.
2006-12-27 06:12:23 · 8 answers · asked by sugar1973 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is something you should discuss as soon as possible in the relationship- do not be afraid of them losing interest because if sex is all they wanted in the first place then he will be exposed for the loser her really is.. just let them know where u stand on the sex issue and how far you are comfortable going with him- maybe he is up for the challenge so to speak and will do whatever it is (including waiting til u are totally comfortable and ready ) to be that 'special' one.
Communication is always the key to any relationship. once the lines of communication are open then u will become emotionally closer to your bf.
2006-12-27 06:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by thatsmystory&imstickin2it 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if they lose interest because of that, then why would you want to be with them in the first place?
In every relationship, the "sex talk" will invariable come up. That's when you can tell them. If they get indignant and ask why you never told them, explain they never asked.
I have several friends that have been in "Virginal" relationships and been very happy for the length of those relationships. You just need to find someone who doesn't care about things like that (which, admittedly, will be somewhat difficult). Don't settle for less than you deserve in a guy and you'll be much happier in the long run.
2006-12-27 14:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by Takfam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you're in an adult relationship, the topic of sex will come up eventually. if you're a teen and a virgin, you should discuss it when it feels right to do so. if you're afraid that the guy your with is going to lose interest because of that status, then he's probably not the guy you want to be with anyway. and if you're lying to these guys, that's not the way to go either. they should like you for who you are, not because of your sexual experience.
2006-12-27 14:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when my first experience happened, i didn't let the guy know until after he was done and remarked that i had just started my menstrual, you should have seen the look on his face when i said "no silly, i didn't start my menstrual, i was a virgin"... i've never seen a man run that fast ever again!
so out of my own personal experience, i'd say, tell him before hand.
2006-12-27 14:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by ღсяаՀу∙թіхіе∙ժմѕτღ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you first start going together is is a good idea to tel lthe person then because he will not be trying to do anything, but then again he may. but its good to be upfront about it
2006-12-27 14:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should tell him the moment u think he trying to bust a move.
2006-12-27 14:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by sevi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him now. every relationship does'nt need sex.
2006-12-27 14:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by Babycakes 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
when you get married
2006-12-27 14:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋