I have a 21 month old girl. She is Always taking her diaper off, she will sit on the potty chair but won't go in it. When she has to go she gets up and hides. How do I get here to go in the potty? I have tried the Cheerios but I was told that was for boys to help tham aim better. What do i do?
2006-12-27 06:02:41 · 15 answers · asked by mattsgurl79 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
bribe her with candy
2006-12-27 06:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by narcissa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all taking her diaper off does not necessarily mean she is ready to potty train. It means she can get her diaper off.
Potty training is not about how old she is. It is about if her brain is recognizing the urge to urinate. Take her with you when you go. Let her sit on her chair. (bottoms on or not) When her body and brain are ready she will surprise you. Don't get frustrated and don't discipline for accidents. It will just set both of you back.
Since she is hiding, she is afraid or ashamed. Make sure that she isn't afraid of the toilet. And if she is the independent type, she may want her privacy. I have potty trained 4 children. 2 boys and 2 girls. Only 1 was mine, the others are friends kids.
I know it can get frustrating and messy. Believe it or not potty training is alot about their individual personality and each experience is different. Good luck and remember it really is about her brain and body working together. No amount of bribing or discipline is going to make it happen any faster.
2006-12-27 15:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by mommyoftwo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try giving her a sippy cup with water. She could even drink it while sitting on the potty. Meanwhile, sit in front of her and read her a story about using the potty or just read her her favorite books. Be very patient. You may be in there for like half an hour each time. Also take her to the bathroom with you everytime you have to use it so she sees mommy using the big potty. Be sure to reward her when she uses the potty. I did this with all my kids and they got potty trained in less than a week. Good luck and remember you must be very patient.
2006-12-27 14:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by Doll 101 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of parents find bribes work, some like singing potties (Yes they make those)
I have another suggestion for you: Ask her where she wants her potty, if she is really shy maybe she would be more comfortable in a closet? Bathrooms are also scary to some kids, maybe she would be happier in her room?
In any case, just because she is removing her diaper doesn't mean she is ready to potty train. You may just need to find a way to keep her diaper on. Turning potty training into a battle can just cause more problems.
2006-12-27 14:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think she is a little young to be successful at potty training. Her ability to remove her diaper is a sign of her mastery of fine motor skills and not a reliable indicator of readiness for using the toilet. Does she wake up from her nap dry? Does she have words in her vocabulary for toilet, urine, and bowel movement? Does she show an interest in what you are doing when you go to the bathroom? If not, then she is probably not ready to begin potty training. Potty training is a skill that requires lots of practice and consistency for both child and parent. If taking off her own diaper is the problem, come up with a solution that works for you to make her keep it on. Try using a onesie t-shirt that snaps at the crotch. If she can unsnap that, try putting her in overalls. You can also use a piece of duct tape over the tape tabs or try putting the diaper on backwards. I have used all of these methods with success. You will not be able to make her go in the potty until she is ready. If she is not ready, it will only make both of you frustrated.
2006-12-27 14:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this has really frazzled you. Stop, breathe and relax. When my daughter was learning to potty train, well lets just say, I didn't think she was so cute. Really though I have learned that if you make it more about mommy and her time things go alot easier. Try taking baby dolls into the bathroom with the two of you. Turn off the phones and hang a do not sisturb sign on the door. Along with the dolls, bring with you books to read and any thing else that will make the two of you comfortable without any outside distractions. I was able to explain the process much better without any outside distractions, and she mastered this skill over one weekend.
2006-12-27 14:13:22 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the potty chair too exposed for her? If she likes to be 'private' while going, create a 'hidden' place for her potty chair.
You can even drape a sheet over a couple of kitchen chairs and arrange them around the potty chair to give her a 'special' place to go potty. Make a big production when she uses it! Praise, praise, praise! Also, try to move the potty chair at least close to the places where she has been going.
After a while, this won't be necessary any longer.
It is easier to cater to a child's natural tendencies and bend them gently than to try to force 'adult' ways upon the child.
2006-12-27 14:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by flywho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, keeping her involved is key. 2 years old is a tough age to communicatre with when trying to get true feeling since they tend to change constantly. My son was almost 3 years to the day when he was really trined. We spent over 9 months trying to figure out why it wasn't working. Don't sweat it! We made it available to him however it was comfortable (as long as it was in the bathroom!). We did the sticker chart. We got really cool stickers (teacher ones say awesome! and great job!) and found free charts online. We put it on the wall next to the potty and kept the stickers in clear view. He got the one of his choice for pee and 2 for poop (always takes longer to get that part down) The big breakthrough was when his buddy at daycare started going on the potty and showed off is big boy undies(yes they do that!). He finally wanted some. Adter that day he was totally trained in less than a week. I drove myself nuts for nothing. Try to make it fun, try some simply stuff and don't worry. It will happen.
2006-12-27 15:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by tracy042972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Potty training is very tricky specially for boys but anyhow when the time is right she will do it. But in the mean time to help her out try every time you go to the bathroom take her in with you and show her how you go and than have her go. Every time she goes on her own give her a reward and after so many rewards she gets a trick whether its a toy or a special meal or whatever she likes. With my son we got a big piece of paper put it up on the fridge with his name. Every time he went to the bathroom on his own we have him a sticker to put on his broad after say 10 stickers he got a matchbox car, and than as he go the hang of it we moved the number up until he was completely trained. It took us to completely train him even at bed time until he was 3. You just have to find what works for her and stick with it. A potty sit that goes on the toilet might work too or if she has a favorite doll pretend she is potty training too. Good luck
2006-12-27 14:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by Marina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What worked with my two year old daughter. Together colour a poster with her name to put on the wall beside her potty. Hit the dollar store let her wild on stickers, stickers only when she goes no exceptions or it wont work.Good luck.
2006-12-27 15:58:16 · answer #10 · answered by les r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually sitting them on the pot several times a day usually works. But in your case you have to teach her a lesson. Let her know that big girls don't go to the bathroom on theirself. Try even letting her go to the bathroom with you. Now days kids are very observant and do everything they see mommy or daddy do. If that doesn't work then its time to pop her hands or behind until they know they going on theirself will get them a butwhooping!
2006-12-27 15:10:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋