I have a very complicated life, but to make a long story short, the same family adopted my biological brother and me. It was very rough and I ended up having a very strained relationship with my parents and not even seeing my brother again until I was 21, when he came back from his 2nd tour in Iraq. He doesn’t talk to our parents at all but my relationship with my parents is now phenomenal. I planned on getting married this spring. I would like my father, who is a judge, to officiate the ceremony instead of walk me down the isle. I wanted my brother to walk down me down the isle. The problem I am having is that my brother is going back to Iraq (yeah the 3rd time) in January. It means so much to me to have my brother be apart of my wedding. I feel like I can’t get married without my brother being there. Is it wrong of me to postpone my wedding just for my big brother? Please help me sort out my feelings. (On a side note- instead of the traditional wedding march, I want to walk to Imagine by John Lennon, is that not an appropriate song for a wedding?)
2006-12-27 06:00:20 · 21 answers · asked by roxie2k3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
it is perfectly understandable. my sister invited my dad to her wedding but asked my brother to walk her down the aisle because he was more of a father to us- still is!!
your wedding is YOUR day (well urs and the groom). once he is willing to wait and i don't see why not, you should. maybe ur bro can schedule just like a weekend leave? i have o idea about that so don't knock my ignorance on that score.
i am sure ur wedding day is going to be just as special for your brother because in your case you really got each other.
2006-12-27 06:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by stacy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding is your day. You should do what is right for you. I think that if you did not wait for you brother you will regret this forever. Is there a reason the wedding has to be done at the time you are planning? If your groom loves you he will want to wait for your brother so that you are happy. The wedding sets the marriage, if you are not happy at your wedding then you will have regrets about the marriage.
2006-12-27 14:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mike E 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does your fiance mind? I think you should wait because your brother has always been there for each other even if not for years later and your parents haven't. I would wait I t would mean the world to both of you but make sure it's alright with you hubby because I can tell you don't need any more problems.
2006-12-27 14:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your day. If you want to wait until he comes back from Iraq then you should. What ever song you pick is OK since you are not doing a traditional wedding. Follow your heart.
2006-12-27 14:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tought one...while I can understand you wanting your brother there, its going to be hard to plan a wedding around when he will be there if he keeps up and leaving. also, its not right to keep making your fiance wait for your brother. talk to your brother about it. maybe he can find a way to come back for the wedding. or put off going until after the wedding.
2006-12-27 14:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want your brother there, then, by all means wait for him. If you don't, you may always regret it. Also, ask him if it is at all possible for him to take leave to be at your wedding. Sometimes they are allowed to, depending on the situation.
2006-12-27 14:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by Lilly Jones-Fair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your brother and your love what they think. Your brother will say to not worry about it that he will be fine obviously, but tell your lover that it's important that he's there to you, but if they want, they can have the ceremony w/o brother. Will guilt your love into waiting.
2006-12-27 14:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id wait for you brother...its the right thing to do..postpone it (your wedding) till your bro gets home...its the right thing to do...it wont hrm anything to postpone..but it will harm you feelings if your bro isnt there for you and with you on this very special day...you would never forgive yourself if you got married and your brother is not there...do the right thing....ITS UP TO YOU WHICH SONG YOU WOULD LIKE AT YOUR WEDDING..ITS YOUR CHOICE..NO-ONE ELSES.have a lovely married life
2006-12-27 14:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by free-spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should wait for your brother, it'll make him so happy to be a part of your wedding. If you're fiancee doesn't agree then he doesn't care what you want.
2006-12-27 14:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by Loving Life, Always, and Forever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would mean so much to him if you postponed. I know my husband would be heart broken to miss his little sisters wedding.
2006-12-27 23:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋