How do you deal with a temperamental and argumentative 6 year old boy?

Answer 1

Ask yourself where he learned that behavior and change what he's modelling after. Could be you, could be the stupid TV shows (Watch one for a few minutes and note how many kids are portrayed as smarter-than-adults little wise-crackers. )
Oh yes, don't forget to actually try that thing called discipline. It really works.

Answer 2

It seems that your 6-year-old has enough intelligence to form his own opinions but not enough emotional restraint as of yet to voice them reasonably.
When my son was that age, I told him that I was the head of the household because being older I had more experience and knowledge than he, and that therefore my word would be the final decision. I also told him that some day he would have the same role, and that therefore he should try to think about things from both his and my perspective.
I set aside time each Saturday to resolve differences that could not be addressed in a hurry during the week (I worked away from home). I told him that if he could present good reasons for changing a decision I had made, I would listen and even change my mind. The rules for presenting his arguments were: 1. Stay calm, 2. Stay with the subject, 3. Stay polite.
Temper tantrums were rewarded with being sent to 'time-out'. I would, however, make time to go over the reasons for his dissatisfaction as much as possible to let him know he would be listened to as well, and that his opinion did count.
Ok, so I raised a 'lawyer' who tried to argue with me at every turn and about almost everything, but I raised a man who could think for himself and is now proving it by leading a very successful life.
Argument itself is not bad. It proves that the youngster is thinking, and that's GOOD. There are, however, rules to successful argument. It would be good to separate conduct and presentation from the idea of 'Mom is always right and you're always wrong'.
It takes more effort to raise a kid that way, but he'll be a more powerful and intelligent adult for it.

Answer 3

She's one hundred% pushing your buttons and searching for interest/administration What you want to do is supply her a decision yet enable her understand your in administration besides. for instance lets say she argues about going to mattress, your reaction should be "you may both bypass get in mattress now or you'd be grounded all day tommorow" this facilitates her to make the alternative on her personal, this facilitates her to have a say, yet not the superb note. also attempt to %. your battles, like dont argue over some thing so ridiculous like if she says the skys blue, dont reply with its' pink. Small arguments are basically a waiste of time and power.

Answer 4

Temperamental and argumentative are normal for a six year old (and seven, eight, nine, etc).

As long as he is not being disrespectful or willfully disobedient I would not worry about it. If he is, react in a way appropriate to his personality. Each child is different.

Answer 5

I have a little girl with the same problems. Smacking...doesn't work. Giving consequences doesn't work.

I think that ignoring the child may be the best thing. What you say has to be the final word. You have to show him this. So...as you say no...and they continue to speak....tell him one time...that that is it. He can use his reasoning to figure out whatever he wants....without you. If he continues....then send him to his room.
Set down rules: 1. he can ask you questions but once you tell him..that's it..there's no debate..and he can only ask once. If he gives you trouble after to answer him once...then answers stop and there's no room for discussion on that particular topic.

I think that sometimes, parents want to encourage children to ask questions and challenge things...and that is good. But sometimes, this gets out of hand and regardless of the questioning ability of your child, they also have to understand that there are rules and boundaries...and you have to be the person to instill that as well.

Either way, in the end: WHAT YOU SAY HAS TO GO. Encourage the child to ask questions about other things other than your orders....and engage in meaningful curiosity with them apart from what you lay down as law.

Answer 6

my boy just started first grade right well for some reason on Tuesdays he needs a trip to the principal anyways when he doesn t want to do something is the end of the world. i take things away i spank him i yell i do everything and he still gets upset he talks back mocks screams cries over literally nothing. its really hard to explain but also when he is in the daycare after school he becomes violent towards the other kids. im so lost i don t want to ask for help cuz i don t need the judgement feeling that just makes me feel worse about disciplining him. oh did i mention he is a red head!!!!!!

Answer 7

You must be talking about my kid! ha! I think they are starting to assert some independance and learning things at school doesn't help either. Just lay some ground rules and keep on top of it. My mom always told me if they run over you as a child it will only be worse when they are teenagers.

Answer 8

Show him appropriate consequence for his actions or refusal to do things. If the kid doesn't want to clean a mess up, don't send him to his room and clean it up. Don't let him do anything else till it's done. Approach him frequently in a kind, unintimidating manner and ask him if he wants to clean it up. Make it his decision. Make it feel like he had a choice to begin with, and that he's "outsmarting" you by choosing the right thing. All he wants is independence in the form of allowing him to make choices by himself. whole rebellion stage of childhood.

Answer 9

When he argues with you...take something away that he likes to do or likes to play with. He will eventually stop arguing. I would also tell him why you are taking stuff away from him so he knows what he is doing wrong. Explain things and he will know that arguing is not appropriate.

Answer 10

You spank him hard enough to know your serious . Put some fear in the kid then you sit him down and tell him you love him and that hes going to be punished every time he acts up. Also reward him for good behavior