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I was once told that if after 4 years if you still had feelings for someone that you believed you really loved then you truly were in love.
Has anyone heared of this kind of thing before and do they know if its true to any degree?
2006-12-27 05:47:13 · 13 answers · asked by Music fan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it depends on what your feelings are now (like do you still feel that you love the person)and what you base them on. Do you have a relationship at all still with this person? Are you still friends? If you don't have a relationship with them any more you could be just in love with your memories, but if you are still around this person and feel the same way, I would think that you must really love them.
2006-12-27 05:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive hear that... but i dont think its neccessarily true. you can truly be in love with someone after a month or 4 months or a year. there are certain degrees to being in love, its not a black and white line that divides "love" from "like a lot" you can't really decide you're truly in love with someone based on something that people say, because it might not be true for you. love isnt something that's that simple. you have to decide for yourself whether you're truly in love and not judge by someone else's guidelines.
2006-12-27 13:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by harpielingo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's kind of a long time. But it's a good indicator, after that long of a relationship you pretty much get to see every bit of a person, through their up's and down's. I think maybe two years is a good length. I know some people that get married after just a couple of months of dating, and I don't think that's long enough because you really don't know that person very well.
2006-12-27 13:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by MegW12 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not true. It is a saying devised to help you emotionally recover. Kinda like the saying, If you love something set it free if it returns it was meant to be. I learned these theories in Psychosocial Life Patterns when I was pre-med at Harvard. Good luck.
2006-12-27 13:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by mumra_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you were just sulking around the whole time.
A better rule of thumb is You go through 10 other relationships, and then you will know more if you were truely in love.
2006-12-27 13:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Akshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no certain "time frame" on love. When you know, You know. And no one can tell you its love but yourself. You know how you feel whether it happens in 4 min or 4 years. You just need to look inside yourself for answers like these.
2006-12-27 13:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by Lil Sexy Biker Chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol no, thats the stupidest thing ive ever heard, you cant put a time restraint on love, its just a feeling! christ thats like saying i can't truley have an erecti.on for 4 years, but i can kind of get hard LoL!!! thats not true at all
2006-12-27 13:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That could just be a physical attraction. That means nothing. If you hit it off again then well you do still have something. But remember you both have changed.
2006-12-27 13:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by afj60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of that. You cannot assign a time period to love. Are you really in love or can you just not get over it?
2006-12-27 13:51:16 · answer #9 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i doubt its true if it is how can we justify people who get divorced after being married for 30 odd years?
2006-12-27 13:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by missree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋