My so called "boy"friend seems to be getting home late, not spending time with me, and WORST of all, (people get ready) he just got fired b/c he was late and/or tardy 9 times! He has been very moody lately and is turning into a messy slob! What should I do? Take the high road and kick his sorry a*s to the curb, go to a counsler to seek help, or tell him the advice you might give? I'm willing to help him get back on his feet, but if this goes on any longer I'll have to leave him...
2006-12-27 05:46:10 · 9 answers · asked by ♥Sunset♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'd kick his *** to the curb..
2006-12-27 05:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥Jade♥~ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communication is the only solution you can't ask us what we think because you don't even know whats going on. I know what your feeling but you have to do your own leg work.
He should have plenty of time to talk now that he is not working.
Be cool at all times. No fighting just talk. The cooler you are the more willing he should be to talk. Remember, Christmas time is rough on people, sometimes very depressing for no reason what so ever. Depressed people tend to forget what is important to them and throw caution to the wind. Don't let it drag you down if your positive at all times he maybe more inclined to reach out.
But don't let yourself be beat down by his behavior, stand your ground firmly but tactfully. True help come from helping someone help themselves. If he wants help, support, be there if he refuses then there is no use standing him up he maybe be spiteful towards you for pushing.
DON'T kick him to the curb, anger and pride have no place in a relationship. Give him a simple choice to start with, something that should be easy for him to do to see if he wants help. Don't tell him to change his whole life this second or hes gone. I'd leave out of principle.
Good luck, be true to yourself in always or you will never be happy and remember "kill them with kindness"
2006-12-27 06:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by Tim D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all he might going through some rough times, so the best thing to do if to have a talk with him. then u might want to check up on the people he is hanging out because he could be influenced by some of his friends. secondly, just like u said seek for professional help. if these don't work well i guess u would have to leave him before he gets sloppier than now.
2006-12-27 05:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and have a heart to heart talk - let him know you want to help him...thats all you can do - the rest is up to him...he must want to do better. Are you sure he is not messing around?Everyone has bad times and maybe he is in need a a change..but being understanding and supportive can only go so far...if your relationship does not improve....kick him to the curb, girlfriend!!!!
2006-12-27 05:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since there was a lag of two minutes from the time you wrote this until the time I started this response, I'm guessing by now you've already wised up and kicked his lazy butt out for good. Don't worry - it's not you, he sounds like he's lazy and discounting in all that he does.
2006-12-27 05:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by Ketel One Up 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every one in the world can give you their opinion on what to do. Truth is only you know what is best for your life.
Stay strong and you will figure out what path to take.
2006-12-27 06:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by milky_cali_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now girl in my opinion the only way he was late 4 work was if he had car problems. Or then again it could be stress. Or the last thing is that he could be cheating on you the reason he is gettin in so late. I think you should probably sit and talk to him about wat is going on or if that dont work and if he dont make a change then girl you already know wat you have to do.
2006-12-27 06:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by candylicker_2010 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really like him, you'd try to help him...so maybe talk to him and see whats really going on...if he denys some things, or if he just says that nothin is going on...trust him..a relationship is based on trust...then if u find out he lied, kick his sorry *** to the curb and move on sista!!
2006-12-27 05:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and see wut the problem is. if he tells you try to help him but if you can't help then try to get him help from some1 more exspierenced or if he won't tell u whats wrong then leave him.....HEY!you tried
2006-12-27 05:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋