I was with this man for 5 years and broke up in Feb. but really had the "we wont talk anymore, good luck with life" in November. I have been seeing someone since July and its now getting serious.
I had not heard from ex since that decision in Nov. but just got an email that pretty much said "happy birthday, christmas, new year. I miss you. This has been the saddest two months of my life. I now realize how I messed up. I have no hope for us anymore and im sorry. I will always love you, hope youre well." Kind of thing.
The way he worded it I cried very hard and it depressed me for a long time. I feel very bad for the way our relationship went and will love him always, we were just not meant for eachother.
Do I respond to this email at all? Leave it go? Help!
2006-12-27 05:41:47 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
definately move on.....he's just trying to get back in your head because he's probably bored and alone. If you want to have a future with your current, don't respond.
2006-12-27 05:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have to laugh. There are a few smart guys left that answered this. Most of the women were right. NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. DO NOT RESPOND. Ex's are ex's for a reason. This man wants one thing: your attention. And he is putting you in this position to see if there is any hope to reconciliation. Not responding sends the message you are done. Any response, even a, "LEAVE ME THE F*** ALONE" is a maybe to a man. Delete it. Move on. And snuggle up to your current beau and have some good times. If he finds out you considered responding, you have a whole new problem than just a pesky ex.
2006-12-27 05:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by William H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you respond, you give him an opening to engage in further contact with you. Is this what you want?
If you think it would help, you might consider a short response telling him exactly what you said here: You don't like the way the relationship ended, you still care about him, but you don't feel that you are right for each other. If you think he will use that against you in any way, don't respond at all. But if you think it will help you both put closure on the relationship and help the two of you remain friends send the response.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 05:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by geekteacher1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying that you were not made for each other is a completely false statement. You ended up together for a reason. I think you should respond to him. Nothing provocative, and nothing that would give the clue that you still have feelings for him. BE NEUTRAL. It is acceptable to converse with him. It is not right to negotiate a return to being a couple while you are with another guy. Just play it cool. Five years is a long time, but you need to maintain control of your emotions. Good luck.
2006-12-27 05:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by mumra_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave it alone or else you will open awhole new can of worms. If you broke up in Feb and didn't really say bye till Nov. don't you think it has been dragged out long enough. Let it go and go on with your new relationship.
Unless you want him back, then well email him and tell him and break up with the new guy.
2006-12-27 05:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to tell you to let it go. You were together for 5 years so you must have shared a lot. Before you get serious with the new guy, think about how you feel about your ex. If you still love him, talk to him and don't string the new guy along.
2006-12-27 05:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should write him a short response. What you said here would be good "I will always love you, but we were just not meant for each other. I am in a relationship that is going well. I hope you find the right person for you." And then leave it alone after that.
2006-12-27 05:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let it go girlfriend!! You've moved on and he hasn't. Maybe he'd been drinking and feeling sorry for himself... but I've always said that an ex is an ex for a reason... there are too many fishies out there!! Good luck and continue your new relationship!!
2006-12-27 05:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by kellilicious5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want anything to do with him. Then leave it alone, if you don't and respond to somthing like ..."Hi, well I am happy now, with someone etc etc." Then that will lead him to think that he still has a chance, know what I mean. Just pray for him and let him go. Good Luck
2006-12-27 05:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by Shorty06 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your happy now and you dont want to mess it up so just let it go. i have been in position before and trust me dont let anything mess up the two of you. the past is better in the past. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-12-27 05:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋