Plz frnds go thru my problem, my problem is genuine & i need a solution .i was in love with a guy named Amit &really wanted to marry him at the earliest, he too loved me like carzy.we were in a relationship for 4.5 yrs, due to his job comitmnts &other family related issues our marriage got delayed & we started arguing over marriage and this led to a miscommunication & we werent on talking terms for over 3 months.&during this time i really got maad at him for not returning my calls/emails, i asked a very good frnd of mine if he was willing to marry me (im under tremendous pressure from my family to get married) my frnd knew all abt my relationship and he knew it wanst working since the last 4-5 months &said yes to me..Later i informed Amit abt my decison & he is very sad for ignoring me & wants to get back to me.I cant see him cry.i luv him way toomch 2 c him cry.the guys in my life are very very good,and the worst part is parents of both the guys know abt me.plzz help!suggest a soln
2006-12-27 05:32:47 · 15 answers · asked by sofia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Eeny meeny miney moe.
2006-12-27 05:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Trollbuster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage should be based on mutual love and respect, not on the pressure of the family. Marriage should be based on life goals and mutual respect. Marriage is for a life time!
After four years plus if Amit let job and family interfere, I would be walking, no running away and not stopping. His lack of contact during those months says more than you may realize ---- you are NOT the most important thing in his life and never will be.
But I also would not be marrying someone else because of family pressure. It could be your cultural heritage to marry and that is hard, but to marry just to marry could be a disaster. And to marry someone when you cannot easily and quickly pick one, added the parental issues, you are heading for a married life of stress, torment and unhappiness.
STOP. Think. There are hordes of males out there and the right one will come along in time. My father always said that you will know the right person when you meet him. When I met the man of my dreams, my soul mate, I was dating several people. But suddenly there was NO question that this was the man with whom I wanted to spend my life. Five months after we met, not years, later we were married and neither of us has ever regretted that lifetime commitment.
2006-12-27 05:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi sofia,
lookin at your state i can suggest you to marry your friend and not amit because marriage is not a joke its the decision that makes two futures into one. And do you think you can trust amit what if some other time he again turns his back on some other things after marriage, then what do you do.and there is a very simple rule of love dear " either you love some one and be happy, or let someone else love you and find your happiness in him." And your other friend is a great guy even after knowing about your past relation he is willing to marry you "i think he truly loves you " And as far as families are concerned time heals everything so they can heal relations as well .
2006-12-27 09:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by Prashant P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shud marry amit.. coz he's the one u really loved.. n u still love him..u'll never get over him.. by marrying ur friend... u'll make life miserable for both of u..
The reason amit stopped talking to u, was becoz he wanted to get over u.. may be he dint have the guts to face the situation, That was a cowardly thing to do on his part, but then it happens with many ppl. So i feel u shud forget abt it. Also, when he came to know that ur getting married to someone else, he realised that he cant let u be anyone elses and wants to marry u.
Abt the parents, dont worry. they'll understand
U talk with Amit and make sure that he's really for sure going to marry u
Then u tell ur friend everything n say ur sorry.
Be open abt everything.. and things will fall into place.
Dont worry.
2006-12-27 06:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know who you are or what you want, how can you even think about getting married? I suggest you finish High School first. (Oh, and, concentrate on spelling and grammar, sew U cn cmmnicate betr.) After you graduate, get a job so you can support yourself, move out and eliminate the "family pressure" to get married. Then get a life.
Otherwise, the next question you'll be asking us to help you decide is if you want to get divorced.
2006-12-27 05:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by bearcruiser1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care what your family wants? You should not marry your friend just to get married; it will never work. You need to seriously rethink your situation.
2006-12-27 05:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never get married just to please someone else. Surely the person who is the one is the person you wake up thinking about abd continue thinking about all day. neither of these guys sound like that happens.
2006-12-27 06:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by pinkflamingorain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
blech, neither of them sound like good matches. why is your family so unresonable? go with the one you like to hang out with better, that's really the most important thing in a relationship.
2006-12-27 05:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by cadillacrazy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry the guy u love apologise to another one for dragging him between
but r u sure to get married so soon i mean u behaved so childish
god bless you
2006-12-27 18:40:23 · answer #9 · answered by shabana o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I 100% endorse what 'banananos' has answered.
2006-12-27 06:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by the Tramp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋