Problem is, she knows me too well, she knows me so well that she knows I've slept with her best friend and enemy (we had a circle of close friends)...well, i've kinda fallen for her, and we are great friends i think, we get along, and she has had a string of back luck with guys treating her like **** and I think I would be the perfect mate for her, except for the problem I just mentioned. I'm very mature for her and she is exceptionally mature compared to her friends....problem is, she doesn't know I have feelings for her, and I think she probably doesn't feel the same way, but is there any method on how to block this or to pass through it? Is there any chance? I think we'd be great, but I believe there isnt' any hope because she knows me too well, and I guess I'm a hypocrite myself because I've done the same thing with a best friend of mine, not dating her because I knew too much about her. My question is, is there any chance for us, any tricks to getting this girl? females help!!
2006-12-27 05:29:36 · 6 answers · asked by chrisj7682 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, the honest truth is that u cant make someone like you. just get to know her a little bit better and bring it up in a round-about manner. this way it doesnt freak her out but she doesnt exactly know what you mean! hope this helps!
2006-12-27 05:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try flirting with her a little more and see how she responds to it or you could also try the more blunt and honest approach by just telling her how you feel. The only stipulation with the latter is that if she doesn't return the feelings, you could be placed in an awkward position that might impede on the friendship. However if your feelings are that strong for her (and by your explanation to your question, it is pretty evident that they are), I think just finding out by being honest is the best option because you find out right there and then and do not spend your days wondering 'what if?' and having regrets for not taking the risk. Knowing someone too well shouldn't be a catalyst for not dating them but to me would more likely be a great option for someone that I was going to date. You already know them and have established a bond that proceeded the whole physical side to the relationship, which is definitely a plus because you kind of already know that you guys are compatible. I don't think that there are any schemes or tricks that will actually work to persuade her to like you because she either does or doesn't and I think she probably already has some sort of assessment on how she feels based on the fact that you guys already know each other so well. So if you think this girl is worth the effort and you want to pursue something more with her that goes beyond the actual context of platonic friends, be honest and let her know how you feel. You'll never know what could transpire between you two if you aren't willing to take the risk. Good luck and take care :)
2006-12-27 05:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, this should help......
Get yourself out there and let the world know you're available! Maybe the girl you're crushing on is crushing on you too, but thinks you're taken. Drop hints that you like her or just bluntly say so. Get involved in activities. Girls like guys that are doing things - especially sports. And on the plus side, if you join a school team, more girls will notice you so you have more options.
Be bold. Girls always like confidence, so tell her what you have to say. There is always a time for subtleties later.
Humor is always a great way to win over girls. By doing this you make that special someone feel more comfortable around you. Try to avoid dirty jokes and such (ie, jokes that your guy friends would find funny), and mostly go on wit and quips.
Be romantic and sweet to her.
Be yourself. Girls like boys who are themselves. And make sure you know the girl! While girls appreciate an honest boy, if who "you" are is not what the girl is into, you're not going to get very far...If she won't like you for who you truly are, she's not worth it.
Talk to her about stuff she is interested in - such as music she likes. Most importantly, try to get her to talk about herself, then build on that. People are naturally more comfortable talking about themselves anyway. Think of it as an opportunity to find out more about this girl so you can determine if you want to pursue her further. Also, if you are stuck on some conversation starters, remember the two starters that always seems to work: food and weather. Be funny and crack a joke every now and then or tell a girl an embarrassing story, but don't gossip! Most girls hate guys who gossip, but love guys who are funny.
Call her and ask to hang out. If you get to know each other better you may end up going out or you may end up realizing she wasn't the girl for you anyways.
Always be polite. Take into consideration the girl's feelings.
Be a gentleman. Open the door for her, pull out her chair before she sits down, don't interrupt, etc. Those things show a poised, graceful man, and girls like that. You can't act like you do around your male friends.
Compliment her. Just make sure that you are sincere, don't just make something up- if you look for something that really makes you like her, she'll know that you're interested in getting to know her better. Also, know the right ways to compliment. Some girls like it if you say "DAAAAMMMNNN!!" when they walk into the room, but some would be really offended. To be safe, be nice, cute, and above all, not creepy. Leering is a definite turn-off.
Don't be too clingy. Give her space.
2006-12-27 05:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by Boss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, not female, but here's some help.
As you already know her, get her to go with you somewhere where you can both have fun. Find the right moment and kiss her. Then, the talking begins and my help becomes useless.
2006-12-27 05:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Sarab s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can trick your girl by asking your friends to help you. They can take her some where, even shopping and you can go to her home make a wonderful dinner and tell her.
2006-12-27 05:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by chocolate~bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to discover a female pal? you will be desperate. Anyhoo, in basic terms be your self. If she would not like that, then she's no longer appropriate for you. Be your self guy!!! females love adult adult males who're continuously their selves. good luck!!!!
2016-10-19 01:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋