i have been wit my bf for 2 yrs n sum months. i dunno y but im still so shy wit him n i kno thats not normal. i love him wit everything but im so shy i dunno y. like there are so many parts of me that he has not seen cuz im uncomfortable showin it to him cuz im so shy. y am i so shy n wat can i do to overcome this because i love him so much. now his prom is comin up soon i am 2 yrs older than him i didnt go to my own wit him cuz i was too shy im not a dancer n im not really into it. i kno hes gonna wanna go to his but im too shy to go. im fine wit everyone else but wit him for sum reason im so shy. y wit him am i only shy. wat do i do bout prom? how do i overcome bein shy around him n be myself? is this normal cuz i dont think so. plz help wit real answers only.
2006-12-27 05:17:10 · 19 answers · asked by Fahion_Gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-27 05:22:46 · answer #1 · answered by soccer kisses!!!!!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really have been with him for 2 years there is no reason for you to be shy around him. He obviously loves you because most men these days just want a one night stand. I would try to tell yourself that you have nothing to worry about. If you do show the parts of you that you haven't shown him and he does not like them then he doesn't love the person that you really are. You need to show him the whole you before your relationship goes to the next level and you get engaged or something. That isn't fair to him because he will believe that you are this person when really you might a completely different person. If you love him as much as you say that you do then you need to suck it up and show him the true you. About prom, If it is important to him then you need to go. I'm sure he has probably done things for you in the past that he necessarily did not want to do. If your not a dancer then just go and try to have a good time. At most proms there is other stuff to do then just dance. I think if you just loosen up you might have a great time. Good luck!
2006-12-27 05:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello
Shyness, (sometimes inaccurately called 'social phobia'), affects most people at some time in their life. Young people in particular find overcoming shyness difficult as they improve their social skills. And for some, shyness seems to persist into adult life, almost as if it has become a 'habit'.
Shyness has its roots in self consciousness and usually dissipates as people mature and become more experienced. However, for some it can 'stick', and then action is required.
Although most people think in terms of 'overcoming shyness', it is more likely that you will become comfortable in social situations by learning the strategies of self confidence along with social skills. Then, shyness is no longer the issue, as social nerves will melt away as a new 'habit' takes their place.
Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere. Like on imagining what it will be like to really enjoy the social event, on how it will feel to be full of energy, or to be having a great conversation with someone.
Overcoming shyness is about doing the things that allow you to enjoy social situations, not wondering why you feel shy!
For more information concerning overcoming shyness check out the link provided.
Good luck, and I hope things work okay for you.
2006-12-27 06:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by dymps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand, I used to be really shy. You are shy around him and not everyone else because you really care about what he thinks of you. Just remember he is with you because he likes everything about you. If he sees your inner beauty (which he must because he is with you and hasn't even seen all parts of you) then he will definately see your outer beauty. Have you ever thought that he might be just as shy as you? Just relax, know that he loves you and sharing everything about each other will bring you even closer together! So go ahead and take that plunge!
2006-12-27 05:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by rachel_ksr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good day! rule1#- dont pressure!!! i recognize what ur feeling, reason I actually have an same problem! each and every guy i'm loopy about, and we commence having something that resembles a relationship- i panic and run away. possibly itz not an same problem..yet itz close. newayz, i recognize you need to be inlove with ur guy, i propose u were with him for 2 yrs. shyness ability not something about how a lot u love him...and basically undergo in concepts that. about the promenade- i imagine the first step u might want to take is to finish somewhat buddy analyze. locate out who his friends are, even perchance verify with them a tiny bit, so it wont be thoroughly awkward on the promenade. then- that's gonna sound loopy 2 u, yet u gotta: bypass out with ur bf to someplace the position u can dance.there is not something like prepare. and basically undergo in concepts- he's with u. he loves u the way you're! and that is the authentic problem, to really, dont sweat it a lot- yet do dance. even tho itz complicated. i imagine itz basically your self esteem. d-o-n-t s-w-e-a-t i-t!!!!! u will be large, desirable! right here 4 you all alwayz
2016-10-16 21:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said the words im so shy about 10 times. not trying to be afendant but i think you want to be shy. if you dont feel comfterbul its simple. dont do anything. it doesnt matter if its 2 days 2 minites 2 years. just think a minnute about how cant you trust someone you claim you care? cause its all about trust
2006-12-27 05:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by Reitchel G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I was shy too, but you get a lot more tail when your not, so im not anymore, you need to loosen up and stop caring what people think. I hope he's at least seen your butt.
2006-12-27 05:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by doctorslapnut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im shy too but i think since you have been with him for over 2 years he wouldnt care if you were shy or not i mean you obviously love him and he loves you so he should be fine with yo ubeing shy. just tell him that you are kinda shy around him and that its not his fault thats just how you are.
2006-12-27 05:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by julia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plain and simple. you are a shy person. people are shy for many reasons. most of the time is because of insecurities. you will have to make a great effort to take yourself out of your comfort zone. take baby steps and go from there. it will not hurt for you to see a counsilor. i think it will help you a lot.
2006-12-27 05:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shyness is a state of being uncomfortable with yourself. Your boyfriend has been with you and trusts you. Your feelings of shyness may be a turn-on for him, but at this stage, you may try asking yourself if you feel comfortable with you you are. Try living "outside yourself"....being that confident person you want to be...if nowhere else, in your room...but your boyfriend should be able to see that side of you too!
2006-12-27 05:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him girl go deal with it, and stop been shy you will lose him... And you should do real things to show him that you love him. Is your boyfriend for 2 years and still shy? WTF Girl star reading Woman are from Venus and Men from Mars... That will help you to understand the males
2006-12-27 05:22:32 · answer #11 · answered by Pilar T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋