How do I tell my parents?

Question

I found a facility to go to for counseling. My insurance will cover it and everything. It's even close to our house.
My Mom has always told me that doctors can't solve everything. She's even told me that all my feelings are in my head. She obviously doesn't want me to go. But I need to. I have to do someting. I have to talk to someone. And that someone isn't my mom. Why doesn't she want me to go and what can I say to her to allow me to go?

Answer 1

Explain to her that you know doctors can't solve everything. Explain you need to go to see for yourself if it helps. If she doesn't understand or really is against it, see if another family member will help get you to appointments.

Answer 2

If you are 18, your mom can make a big stink but that's about it...if you are under 18 then I suggest either getting a School Official involved (Nurse, Guidance, Dean, Principal) or another family member (Dad,Grandparents, etc) involved, but be discreet.
The way people are brought up during their childhood pretty much sets their lives as adults. There were certain things you just didn't talk about (sex, mental health, etc), so try to give your mom a break.
My mom was raised in the 40's ...by the time I was a teenager my mom was convinced that if you hid the past you were safe. Unfortunatly certain Mental Health issues can skip a generation or two and then come back to bite you in the rump.
Get yourself a journal and write down every day how you feel, what you feel,dreams, wishes, problems......the journal is yours and can help put things into perspective.
I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you get the help you need and want.

Answer 3

Mothers always think that they can help their kids with anything.. they try to be super mom to their best ability, and when they are faced with situations like the one you are in right now, the fact that she doesnt know what to do makes her unsure of herself as a mother. Talk to her, make her understand that you know she is there for you and that she would help you if she could, but that you need something more then that. If you tell her that you've been looking into it and found a facility near your house, and that your insurance will cover it maybe then it will hit her that you are very serious about this. Good luck with your mom and with the counseling! In no time, everything will be ok. :)

Answer 4

Sometimes mom's are afraid that they created the problem. When a mom loves her child to no end and she fears that she'd done something to damage them, she may try to avoid finding out that her fears are true. More than likely your mom has little if anything to do with your issues, and even if she did nothing is beyond repair.
A good thing to tell her is that this situation isn't about her, it's about you, and it would benefit everyone if she would support you in getting the help you believe you need.
As most everyone here has said, if you're under 18 and believe you need help you'll have to go to another source such as a school counselor or a teacher, aunt, uncle, grandparents, someone you know will listen to your dilemma with your mom and help you find a solution.
If you're over 18 do what you think is best and then deal with your mom. There will be plenty of time to help her understand why you did what you felt was best. Good luck and keep me updated (email) on your endeavor if you can.

Answer 5

Firstly, good for you! You (no matter how old you are - thats not relevant) are a mature adult! You are doing what is clearly best for you - so many people could learn from this mature attitude. If your mother is against this - she is being too narrow minded. You should have her full support as this is what you need its not always easy (I know) when you dont have your parents full support, but some day you will leave home and be making many decisions (unaided) by yourself - this is something you are already engaged in and the maturity seems to be bursting out of your question. If you really want and/or have to inform her let her know how you are doing something for you for a change and if she doesnt agree with that than so be it but you need to do this - you clearly value 'lifes little luxuries' and the minds well-being is one of these 'luxuries' I wish you the best of luck - you have my full support and can e-mail me at any time. I will listen. I care. You have my full support and backing.
Catherine

Answer 6

It sounds like your mother has old skool ways of thinking and she is in denial that your mental health issues are a valid illness. Alot of parents think that way including mine. They think that you can will yourself to stop thinking or behaving a certain way. They say it's all in your head and if you want it to stop you can make it stop. I know how frustrated and hopeless you must feel but you are doing a great thing by being proactive and finding a facility to seek treatment.

I think you should seek the help of your school guidance department if your mother will not help you get the professional help you need. That is one of the things counselors at school can do. They can intervene when there is an existing mental health concern and the family is not being supportive.

I am very proud of you that you have found help for yourself. I had to do the same thing but I suffered for years unnecessarily...I hope you get the help you need.

Take care...

Answer 7

Just go. Are you under 18? A minor? If you feel like you need some counseling, you probably need it and bravo to you finding the available resources. Maybe she doesn't want you to go because she's afraid of what a counselor might help you learn about yourself. who knows. she could probably use some counseling herself. Go alone if she won't allow it - or explain the situation to a school counselor and they can help you. Good luck!

Answer 8

how old are you? (if you just want someone to talk to - i mention that near the end of this, but read all of it anyways.)

if you are an adult, just go and deal with whatever she throws at you by knowing that you did what was best for yourself and your health.

if you are not an adult, then tell her that you really believe that you need this help and that keeping you away from something that even COULD help isn't doing you any good and is only prosponing a possible relief for you.

maybe your mother comes from a family where mental issues were signs of weakness (which I don't believe they are), whatever her problem is (and it would probably be best not to say "your problem" to her) shouldn't keep you from getting help.

if she doesn't let up, go to your family doctor for a "cold" and tell him/her what's up (in your head and w/ your mom). he can prescribe a medication for you. Now, if you just want someone to talk to - confide in a stranger or a friend. you could even find someone on yahoo!answers to listen to you.

if you want you can message me (click on my avatars face and there should be something there that says e-mail or something).

Answer 9

If you feel you need counseling there is no reason you shouldn't get it. Your mom may feel that if you go talk to someone else that she has failed in some way and that whoever you talk to will feel that way too. If it is something serious that you need counseling for she may feel that she will get in trouble if you talk to someone else. There may not be anything that you can say to her that will change her mind.

Answer 10

maybe because most of your feelings that you have are about your familt and shes afraid that you just might say something that can chang everything
most people who are afraid to let someone they care about to talk to a councellar because they feel there the problem, most of time they are. if it helps you out alot, talking to someone really does help expecally if you cant vent on your mom, who probebly is your problem for that reason.
brainwashimg is not cool, you have your own mind, and the feeling you feel arnt in your head, you know whats right and wrong, and talking to a professional is right.