Wedding Thank You Notes?

Question

My husband and I got married on August 26, 2006. We still haven't sent out thank you notes. We have a 20 month old daughter together and my husband works 12 hour days so it's SO hard to try to sit down and write thank you notes while a toddler is getting into everything and tearing up the papers (I know this from doing the invitations). Then we went to finally sit down and do our thank yous and all of the addresses were erased off of our computer! My question is... What would I say in the thank you since it is so late. How should I apologize? Or should we just not send them at all since it's so late? I feel so horrible for them being so late!

Answer 1

I understand that its hard, but you just have to send them. I would say something like

dear john and jane.

Thank you so much for the ______you gave us for our wedding. We apologize for the delay in letting you know just how much we appreciate it. It was so nice of you to think about us on out special day. We are forever grateful!

Thanks again!
Love, you and your husband

Maybe this will help. Good luck!

Answer 2

I totally feel your pain. My husband and I had around 300 thank-yous to write and it felt very overwhelming to us. I would give the following tips:

1) Allot yourself 4 or 5 a night, each to do. You will be amazed at how quickly you get through the list. If you have plans on a given night, you can give yourself a pass, but hold yourself to the allotment every night.

2) I don't think you need to apologize but if you do, be very brief about it. You can put something at the end like "Sorry so late!"

3) It's not the end of the world to get them out late. People were still sending us wedding presents well after the 1-yr timeframe. I didn't dwell on it -- I understood that it wasn't their top priority and your guests should understand that writing thank-yous hasn't been your top priority. I mean, anyone who dwells on not getting a thank-you...? Your friends are your friends no matter what (that said, I would still say you should send them)

Answer 3

I am almost in the same boat as you. I lost my job right after we got married August 19 and to be honest, money went to food on the table & bills & mortgage to keep a roof over our heads rather than stamps for notes. (and I'll admit a bit of depression in there too) Then we thought we would send thank you pictures...but again, no budget. So now it is after Christmas....

I still plan on sending thank you notes. I think the gifts still deserve to be recognized. People who know my husband and I well enough to have given us gifts, also know about our recent monetary struggles. I dont plan on apologizing for the lateness...better late than never and apologizing would just hilight the lateness.

We may get slammed for not doing proper "ettiquette"...but I think people these days also factor in the practicalties of this day and age too. Things happen, bills have to be paid, and people work long hours where time available goes to family.

Good luck....and I'll race you to get the notes done before Valentine's Day. (just kidding!)

Btw Congrats to you and the other girl who shares my anniversary of August 19

Answer 4

You need to send those thank you notes, find those addresses, if your toddler is getting into stuff let her smear a little paint or whatever on the on the notes, enclose a small picture of your daughter with a face and hands full of whatever she might smear on your notes, and explain to them that's why you were late sending them out. Your friends and family will probably find that hiliarious and the picture of your daughter will just be another keepsake for them to have of your new life.

Answer 5

I believe the etiquette rule is that you have 1 year to write your thank you notes. That being said, you should try to get them out sooner rather than later. Rather than tackling all of them at once, try to do something like 5 a day until you get them done. No apologies are necessary, just thank them for their gift or attendance. Once you get started, it won't seem as daunting because they'll all basically be the same. Once the baby goes to sleep for a nap or bed, just sit down and tackle a few at a time.

Answer 6

ACKKK!!! You MUST send out your thank you notes! There is no excuse on earth not to acknowledge people giving you gifts. It is not too late at all. True, you are "tardy" but it's not as if you are a year late. You and your fiance need to hire a baby sitter for a few hours and get them DONE. At the very least do a few a day and send them. I know it's hard having a toddler, and life gets in the way of your best intentions at times, but seriously, there is no excuse.

Answer 7

I'm in the same boat. We were married on the 12th of August, and just started sending ours out. I've heard you have a year to get them out. Send them as soon as you can, and dont apologize, people will be happy that they recieved them. Dont stress and just take your time. Your guests will understand the busy lives of newly weds, especially since you have a child.

Answer 8

I agree that you should send them. It's extremely bad form not to. People spent a great deal of time and money to attend your wedding and get you a gift. The least you should do is send a simple thank you.

I would apologize first off by saying something like "We're so sorry that this is getting to you so late, but, we would like to extend our sincerest thank you for you lovely ______."

Now, just sit down and do it, don;t put it off any longer.

Answer 9

You have to send them... Older people really get weird about thank you cards. I have a daughter the same age so I fully understand but all you have to do is have a friend or two come over to help. It won't take long but the longer you put it off the harder it gets. Just do it.. Tomorrow!!

Answer 10

You have a one year window they say. Basically it would look like this.

Dear Uncle Remus and Aunt Daisy Mae
That you very much for the NASCAR shot glass set. It will make a very nice addition to our new home together. We were so glad you could join us at the wedding. It was really wonderful to see you again. (or Sorry that you couldn't make it to our wedding. We would love a chance to see you in the near future though). Hope to see you soon.
Love
Fernando and Lola

Doesn't have to be much.
I took on the ones from my family and she did the ones for hers. Its a good activity to do on a vacation together. Congratulations.