My son father is trying to get back with me, we have not been together since my son was about 2 and now he's 7, he has always been there off and on..but if we are cool he does everything..he is currently living with his other kids mom and says he;s not happy..Should I consider on taking him back just for my son sake..because I really dont want to be with him but just want him there for my kid more than he was before
2006-12-27 05:00:34 · 14 answers · asked by T-MAC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know the answer to this. Do you honestly think that he won't do the same to you when he gets tired of you? I'm sure he'll tell the other woman with his "other" kids the same thing about you once he gets what he wants. My advice to you is to move on. Chances are it will only hurt your son more when he decides to leave again. If he hasn't really be involved with your son fulltime, then he's not about to change.
2006-12-27 05:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Lilith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. This guy is not going to commit. He's in the process of destabilizing the lives of these other kids. And chances are that in a few years (or maybe just months), he would disappoint your son too.
The fathers rights people have all these mothers totally in a dither about catering to every sperm donor. Your kid needs love and stability more than he needs this particular "father."
2006-12-27 13:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being with him for your sons sake is NOT a good idea. Just because you two have a child, doesnt mean you should be together. Life is too short to be unhappy. Find someone who makes you happy. Good luck
2006-12-27 13:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. What happens when the two of you have a falling out. Would he be cool knowing that he is only there for the child? Ask him, I'll lay odds he just wants back in the sack with the "baby's mama". If he says he's alright with it, tell him ok well I've goota date tonight, see what his reaction is...
2006-12-27 13:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by angrycelt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. do not be in this situation because obviously he may just be using u for a break form his other relationship, it seems convenient for him to do so. and if you do not want to be with him it will effect everyone, especially you son in a very negative way.
If he wants to be there for your son, then he will make the time to do so. You and him are over, done, history.
Be smart, good luck
2006-12-27 13:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BIG MISTAKE, don't do that. If it's not in your heart to do because you are in love with him then don't do that. What happens if he becomes unhappy with you and the living arrangements? Don't confuse your son like that, you have to lead by example. It looks like you are settling and that's the weak way out.
2006-12-27 13:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, NO,NO, NO......You will not be happy if you aren't getting back with him for love. Move on, quickly. Just tell him that he still needs to be involved with your son.
2006-12-27 13:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to take him back just for your son, I wouldn;t you would have to take him back if you want him back. he can be in his sons life weather he lives with you or not. and tell him that you want him in his son life more than he is now. but there is no means to have him back in your life or take him in . if you don't want him.
2006-12-27 13:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him, he needs to respect that fact. If your ex isn't happy with his marrige, then he might as well divorce, but if you don't love him, you don't have to take him back.
2006-12-27 13:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"...because I really dont want to be with him but just want him there for my kid more than he was before"
dont do it,if your heart isnt there it wont work
2006-12-27 13:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by BEAVIS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋