I'm seeing a guy, we're very close. He has two kids to two different women but they're living with their mother's in the states. This guy has never told me he loves me, but he told me the other night that he wants me to have his baby. Which I was shocked to hear, but pleasantly surprised. (Hes not the only man to ask me this). He wants a kid in the next two yrs, but I wanna wait until I finish my studies which will mean he's gonna be 43. I'm curious if he's just using me to have a baby wit him cuz he getting on or if he loves me and really wants ME to be the mother of his kid. PLEASE HELP.......thanks in advance. xx
2006-12-27 04:57:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
he is a ******.IM SORRY but saying i want to have your baby is a step u would take after saying i love you at least 300000 times.&& if he had 2 kids with 2 diffrent women how does he treat those kids.Cause some guys hate women and it could be hard to belive but he could be one of those who like the pleasure of unprotected sex [[&& tells u he wants ur kid when its just the pleasure that he really wants]] and then will leave you.I say you leave him.It may sound harsh but something creepy is goin on in his head.Get in contact wit his other 2 kids mothers && ask them about their relasionship mayb they told them the same thing he told you.GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-27 05:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by Angela G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a lot of things. I have felt something like this before, but I knew it was wrong. I felt like it with a girl who wouldn't hold still ( I knew she had some issues with space. She couldn't handle any bit of distance in a relationship or she would get scared and leave.). I did truly love her. I thought that would help her understand that I wasn't going to reject her ever and also that I loved her enough to have a child with her. For me it was the wrong girl. I have also heard of guys doing that for other reasons. At 43 he should have his head a little more together than I did at that time I was in my relationship. He needs to be strong enough to tell you he loves you ( and to really mean it). Don't accept anything short of this. Unless you have been giving him signals that would indicate insecurity.
2006-12-27 05:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by Damon S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the guy likes kids, but not commitment and responsibility. You need to know that you and your child will be properly taken care of in the long term. If he's had kids with other women and has never married them, steer clear of this one. He just likes MAKING babies, not being responsible for another human life in the world. "All ya need is love, love...Love is all ya need!" Catchy lyrics until you're up to your bum in dirty diapers!
2006-12-27 05:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by piper54alpha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you he would ask you to marry him not just have my baby. Remember love is a action word. He should love you enough not to put you in the position of becoming a unwed mother. Children are not pauns to be used to hold on to someone they are "A GIFT FROM GOD". So please think carefully.
2006-12-27 05:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy who asks you to have his babies out of wedlock is worthless and weird.
Doesnt it mean anything to you that you'd be the third of his baby's momma's? Who is this guy? An emporor? trying to create his own personal race of people?
Ick. You must be stupid to even consider it. What a nightmare.
2006-12-27 05:01:38 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUN FAR FAR AWAY!!!!!!
Finish your studies and find a real man who doesn't have a bunch of kids from other women running around!!!!!
2006-12-27 05:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by Zeida98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's your answer in a nutshell......
K-FED!!!
Look at that fiasco. He has 4 kids and can't afford to pay child support to either mother.
2006-12-27 05:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop dating him! Run the other way!
Something has to be wrong... What happened w/ the other relationships?
2006-12-27 05:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by MsLadie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are even having doubts I suggest you run away from this guy.
2006-12-27 05:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by sugarcarat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but he sounds like bad news to me.
2006-12-27 05:05:53 · answer #10 · answered by my brain hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋