Has anyone been in a situation where their boyfriend or girlfriend wants a break for a while? Yesterday my boyfriend said he wants a break he doesn't know what he wants. Sometimes i want the same thing. Is this a sign that my boyfriend may be breaking up with me? or does it mean that it's just a break up for a while. This is the first time i've dated so i've never been in this situation.
2006-12-27 04:51:13 · 21 answers · asked by Melanie P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to be fair, sometimes its jus cos being new to it, he dosnt like the change, but if he left you he mite well realise he preffered being with you.. some relationships take time
2006-12-27 04:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI
It doesn't necessarily mean that he is breaking up with you just that he needs time off and maybe you do too. Just to be able to explore other possibilities or just take some time from being with each other all the time.
If he doesn't know what he wants its a good way to do this.
Instead of cheating behind your back which would not be an honest way to do it.
When you love someone set them free if they come back they are yours if they don't your heart may be sad for a time however you are not hurt for a lifetime.
taking time off gives you both a chance to go out and have fun with friends and maybe if the opportunity presents itself meet with other males/females as well without the additional feeling guilty.
take the time it sometimes helps.
Go easy and slow and maybe in a few weeks things will all be relaxed. again
Good Luck
2006-12-27 04:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaks SUCK!! I am not a believer in breaks b/c Lord knows what could happen while you guys are on break. I think that the best thing to do is BREAK Up and figure out what you both want. Breaks are not all they are cracked up to be. A break means you can see other people, mess with other people or even date other people. You do not want to put yourself on the back burner while he figures out what he wants. Go out there and find someone who knows what they want and what they want is you!! I think it is time to move on and yes it will be hard b/c it is your first boyfriend but rem. all things happen for a reason. A reason we may never know!
2006-12-27 04:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by lizzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the first time that you've dated, then it's probably a good thing to take a break for awhile. Even if you do get back together after awhile, then you each will have had an opportunity to test the waters. That will give you a better idea whether you are right for each other or not.
2006-12-27 04:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by hotgramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to realize is that YOU are very important and special and should never have to FORCE your company on anyone. If your company isnt wanted you should accept. Dont worry about what it means. Take it as it is given. Just ask him to be honest because the truth hurts less than finding out later that it was a lie. But just accept the fact that he needs time away. If hes really yours he wont go anywhere. Besides if you move on without him, youll see how much happier youll be because youve learned to "Never let your happiness be determined by others."
2006-12-27 04:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by Nyana 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously neither your boyfriend or you are ready for a serious commitment or you may not be right for one another, no big deal, take the time off the relationship to think by yourself or to date other people. Never settle for something you are not sure about because it will end up in a breakup anyway,
Good Luck
2006-12-27 04:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Typically a break ends up being a break-up. Be prepared for this to be the end of your relationship. Some people use 'break' because they are too cowardly to just go ahead and end it, but figure that you'll get the hint after a while...when there's no talk of getting back together.
2006-12-27 04:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Taking a break" is just an easy way to break up with someone. Enjoy it! If this is the first time you have dated, then go date some more! You'll be glad you did!
2006-12-27 05:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by firedncer80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanting a "break" is the same thing as breaking up. A guy did the same thing to me. I caught him completely off guard by telling him that I would give him all the break that he needed and promptly broke up with him. He was a tad stunned.
2006-12-27 04:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by Lilith 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first time every dated, so you have to be fairly young. It means he is confused and doesn't know what he wants. Just let him go his own way. You have time to find other boyfriends. And several more will come and go (hopefully) before you settle on one man in your life.
Take your time, boys are confusing and men are worse! It all comes together and works out though.
2006-12-27 04:54:17 · answer #10 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont put yourself thru this..if he love you and you love him there shouldnt be any breaks you know right then and there if you want to be with a person, what he want a break for..to see other people so that way you can never say he messed around on you becuase there was abreak between you two..thats bull..either your happy or your not!! Please dont let this man hurt you!!
2006-12-27 04:54:44 · answer #11 · answered by T-MAC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋