How long to wait before having sex?

Question

I met someone about a year ago he lives in a different town than I do and I really didn't think it would go anywhere but it did. We ended up really liking eachother talking on the phone every night for hours he calls me mostly everyday I know him more than my previous boyfriends that I saw every week. The thing is since he lives so far I've only been out with him in person about twice. I feel really confortable around him and i know its strange but my feelings for him are really strong.

So my question is how long should I wait before having sex with him. Even though I've been talking to him about a year I've only seen him twice. Also, I'm a virgin, and just so no one thinks I'm like 12 playing around I'm 19 and I don't want to seem like a slut or easy I don't know. I'm also aware of birth control, std's and the dangers of pregnancy and the best thing to do is wait for marriage so please leave that out of your answers.

Answer 1

This is one of the hardest questions in life. THe truth is that having sex for the first time is very consequential in many respects. Can you live with yourself if he rejects you later? Is he really a good man that you know and can trust? You sound very mature and very knowledgable and that is great at such a young age. Giving yourself freely and so completely is more about you and how you are feeling about yourself. It is a step in growth as a woman and as a person. If you are ready and you want to do this for the right reasons then I think you are ready. Protection and birthcontrol should be covered ahead of time. You have that knowledge too, so the question is are you ready for the next step. The first time can be a very beautiful experience when you are ready. Think about it and trust in yourself. You know the right answer ...now go for it girl. Good luck .

Answer 2

I would say not to do it. Really it doesnt seem like you have a serious relationship with this person even though you two seem close. My husband and I lived 4 and 1/2 hours away and I saw him every weekend. I just dont think this is the one for you. Ultimately its up to you but I say no. Sex is something that is important but only when its meaningful and only when you are ready and sure about it. If you are asking for an opinion I dont think you are. Just wait until someone really special comes along where both people have expressed love not just strong feelings. I just dont want you to regret anything. Really just wait, and if you can wait till marriage then its better.

Answer 3

Well, I would suggest waiting until marriage, but you said leave that out. What I would do is wait til y'all have seen each other more than a/b 10 times. I had a boyfriend who only lived 15 minutes away and I saw him AT LEAST twice a week sometimes 3 times a week and we were together for 9 months and we had sex at a/b 6-8 months and now we're broke up and I'm going to have to explain to my future husband that I stupidly gave that up to someone else and hope he understands and accepts that. I would still suggest waiting until marriage if not wait A LONG TIME and BE SURE TO USE PROTECTION(NOT JUS BIRTH CONTROL BUT CONDOMS TOO). Hope this helps.

Answer 4

hmm, sounds like a relationship I went through when I was 17, I never did sleep with him, I was glad, because I found out that he had another girlfriend, at the time, he was 20, and I was about to turn 18. Now listen this guy could be just like this guy i was speaking of, could be just another sweet talking guy, and when would u want to lose it the second u see him, how do u know that he is telling the truth? I'd wait...... and if u do lose it and then u find out hes another a22hole then you'll be attached and all..... Id wait until i was 2000% sure that he was telling the truth.


Have A HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!

Answer 5

For one's sex is game, for others - just a name, for hores - it's just work..
From teh point i see ur relationship, is that he's been very patient all thsi year and he doesn't sound to be just a guy for fun. u already said ur comfortable with him so i suupse, the best time for sex is whenever u guys meet and feel horny! ;)
Just use a candom, a guy will know how to use it.
and to make u feel better - the'res always a literature to read about how sex is done.
Just don't forget - u don'tt have to do things u don't like.

And sex after marriage is just a myth or in case u want to end up things after u get married. 'cause sexual llife is very important when having a serious relationship.
onother thing - maybe u guys woudl like to move to teh same town one day, but life goes on, and it goes fast.
don't waist ur life thinking. feel it.
good luck! :)

Answer 6

Virgins are beautiful and very rare at your age. If you really want to experience the most wonderful thing in the world. Wait until you are married to your true love before you have sex.

You will be more fullfilled if you wait until you are married.

Please wait, i realize the hormones are raging but please wait until you are married. it's the right thing to do, I wish i had waited until i married.

Answer 7

What is your hurry to bed this dude? A relationship is not or should not revolve around rolling in the sack. Why would you be so willing to just toss all your morals, standards and beliefs out the window just to lose your virginity? Ask yourself is it worth it?

Answer 8

If you want to know if a guy really loves you don't have sex with him for about a year but you have to be with him to make sure hes not messing around on you, if after a year hes still with you and hasn't put a ton of pressure on you to have sex with him, its true love.

Answer 9

Wait until you feel youree absolutely ready. Ask yourself is this the person I want to remember for the rest of my life? Just always be safe.

Answer 10

Only seen him twice and your ready to jump dembones, ok but it seems a little slu&&y.

Work your way up to it. on the next visit just foll around and stop befofore sex. That shows interest but you have respect for yourself.