Isn't it rude for a bride to only give some single guests the option to bring a guest, and other single guests no "& Guest" option? If you're going to give anyone the option to bring a guest, shouldn't you do that for everyone?I think it's so tacky and rude.. just wanted another opinion
2006-12-27 04:46:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
-In response to answers so far- haven't gotten the invite yet, but it's common knowledge that she is giving some people & guest, and not others- and it has nothing to do with budget- they aren't worried about that
2006-12-27 05:16:16 · update #1
if you've been the bride before, it's obvious that you're going to take the point of view that it should be all about the bride. That's not even the issue- if the bride would like people to enjoy themselves- she should give them all the same opportunity to do so
2006-12-27 05:32:37 · update #2
I think that it's bad etiquette for some invites to include "& guest" while others do not. However, if the bride and groom know unmarried couples, they can certainly include both names on the invite, while leaving other "singles" as solo.
Personally, I think that the whole "it's the Bride's Day" argument is a bunch of b.s. designed to allow brides unlimited access to very bad manners. A classy couple allows singles to bring a date, and if they can't afford to do that, I think they need to simplify the menu to stretch the budget or shorten the guest list to avoid being rude.
2006-12-27 05:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by ez_cheez 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
here a bride point of view. This has actually been a big issue and fight with me and my fiance. All of his dumb friends think they should be able to bring a date with them...... but I can only have 150 people at the place and it's what we can afford. If I invite 20 of his friends, then let them bring dates, that's 40 people. So I am going to have to cut out friends and family that I have known for my whole life for someone to bring complete strangers to my wedding??? It doesn't seem fair to me, plus the fact our wedding is like $90 per person. So I am paying for all $$ these people, I never meet, may never meet again or they just met at a bar this week. You might be feeling bad that your friend just invited you but maybe she can't afford to give you a guest and wouldn't you feel bad if she had to cut out a family member from going for you to bring a date?? Think about the other side of it. Why should I have to cut my cousin out of my wedding so these guys can bring some girls they are "dating" to my wedding.
2006-12-27 05:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of strange. It could be that the couple is trying to plan the right mix of people. People that they actually know and want to share in their day. I'm not entirely clear on the situation, but could it be that the "& Guest" invitations are going to friends who are currently attached to someone (ie. dating) and the other one is so people won't bring strangers to their wedding? Just a thought.
Maybe once you get the invite you can call and ask if you can bring a date. Perhaps you can tell them you'd be more comfortable not going alone...or whatever your reasons may be. I wouldn't take it personally, though. Planning a wedding can be extremely stressful AND expensive.
2006-12-27 05:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by coco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is rude to only offer the option to some. If it is offered to one guest it should be offered to all. Actually as far as I was told for my wedding it is always supposed to be offered when you have a single person to put "and guest". Just proper ettiquette.
Just curious...did someone send you an invitation and not put and guest?
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I saw you updated so I just wanted you to know that I was a bride in April this year but this newlywed agrees with you :)
2006-12-27 04:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by Chat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not received your invitation yet, do you know if you have a guest or not?
Perhaps (I don't know her or her guest list, or her hall, or her budget, or her family, blah...) she is only allowing guests to those that only have a significant other? For the single people who have no "other half" she didn't give a guest? This is a "normal" thing to do given the size of the church/hall.
2006-12-27 07:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I have to say its entirely up to the bride and what she wants. She may have to limit the amount of "...and guest" invites she gives do to her budget, the amount of space the at the church/reception hall, etc. Or perhaps she may not like the person she thinks you would probably bring with you. You may not like it, but again, its her day. Either go alone or don't go at all.
2006-12-27 04:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by Doogie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree fully and completely.
All single guests should be given the same option of having a guest. It is only proper etiquette and good form.
2006-12-27 04:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by D N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a newlywed myself I can completely understand where the bride is coming from. Most likely the deciding factor came down to money. It's her wedding day. Don't make a fuss. Or just don't go.
2006-12-27 05:07:20 · answer #8 · answered by jrbridget_bush 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very rude. Sounds like the bride is targeting specific people, not to bring their significant others. Strange.
2006-12-27 05:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 19:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋