I AM IN A RELATION SHIP WITH A 56 YEAR OLD MAN. SOMETIMES EVERYTHING IS GOOD BUT. HE SAYS THAT HE TRUSTS ME BUT THE QUESTIONBS HE ASKS MAKE ME FEEL LIKE HE WAITING FOR ME TO MESS UP. I CARE ABOUT HIM BUT I HAVE DOUBTS ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP BEING LONG TERM IF HE DOES NOT LOSEN UP.
2006-12-27 04:40:41 · 24 answers · asked by amazinblazinbrat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it can,but he will peter out on you because of his age. As far as the questions just ignore him, that's what my wife of 30 yrs had done.
2006-12-27 04:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this is only because I know, having been there on the
other end of the age stick.. I married a man 15 yrs. my jr. We
stayed married for 5yrs. Then he decided that he had more oats
to sew. Up until then, we had a pretty good relationship.. He
got bored w/ only one lover & decided to explore other options.
I, during that time, had some cancer surgery... I was stuck at
home recouperating, he went out for a pk of cigs. & never came
back to me again.... This is your choice, but if you think that you
can be faithful to him for a really LONG time, go ahead. How-
ever know this... He is 56 & very settled down & I don't think that
at your age that you are done w/ exploring life. Hey, if you want to
give him up~ You can always send him to me! He's 56 & I'm
53...... That would work! Hah! Good Luck w/ your dicision &
have a good New Year! SINCERLY....................................
2006-12-27 05:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by Debi B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My biggest question with that is... how long do you think this can last?
I mean, lets say you make a serious commitment... and marry him.
How long is he going to live? 65? 70? Maybe 75? That's 19 years from now.
You're going to be 50 then, widowed, alone. You're going to need time to move on, and then you're going to be past your dating prime and lonely. Is this really worth it?
I understand that a lot of women have these "father figure" things, where they date a lot older... but I think for the good of your own life, you need to let this one go and find a guy a little younger.
Plus... sexually... how much longer is he going to be able to perform? Do you want to be 40 years old and completely nookie-less? I think that would present a problem.
2006-12-27 04:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I had an aunt who at 21 fell inlove with my uncle who was then 56. They had a happy 30 yrs together b4 he passed away. My parents on the other hand are the 'desired' 4 yrs apart and are still miserable after 32 yrs!!!
Maybe age is not the issue but past experience, the doubt in himself that he can start over and actually be happy at his age, the unbelieve that you really care for him, etc.
2006-12-27 04:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by stacy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
most of the time know, because men start to slow down in alot of area at that age and start becoming home bound not wanting to go out much or be as active as a young girl does. Lets just say they are to mature and a 31 year old have alot more time to become that way. A mans body iand mostly his health is starting to go down hill at that age as well and by the time he hits 60 to 62 he starts having alot of problems health wise. It really is better to grow old together. I am a 59 year old women single and looking and have not been able to find a healthy man to date. And know lots of other women in the same boat so to speak. So find someone you can grow old with and be sick with at the same time.
2006-12-27 04:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by sharon w 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why would you be in a relationship with someone so much older? Well anyway it dosen't sound as if you are in love with him so whats the problem? And your having doubts about long term so just get out and find someone else. Sounds like your wasting your life on someone you don't love when you could be finding true love elewhere.
2006-12-27 04:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It most certainly can work if both parties are willing. He's just scared because of your age and he doesn't want to lose you. You need to sit him down and MAKE IT VERY CLEAR that his jealousy and non trust will end up putting an irreversible wedge between the two of you. Reassure him of your feelings and tell him he needs to relax and enjoy life if he wants to keep you.
2006-12-27 04:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a significant age difference. You are both at very different stages in your lives, and therefore have profoundly different interests and needs.
Relationships like this can sometimes work if both people are mature and willing to compromise, but it is very rare. I would personally recommend breaking it off and finding someone closer to your age.
2006-12-27 04:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well to be honest you never expressed any specific details about these questions he asks you. The only thing that I can tell you is to allow yourself to be hurt and dont be afraid because whatever happens you can handle it. To give into fear is to give away the right to live life on your terms. So just step through this fear knowing you can handle it on the otherside!
2006-12-27 04:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by renew69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problems in your relationship have nothing to do with the age difference. It is a trust issue.
2006-12-27 04:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋