I have a guy friend that is black and he is so into a friend of mine. She really likes him, but she is scared of what her family and friends will think because she has been raised against interacial dating. I don't know what to tell her, can anyone provide advice on what to let my friend know?
2006-12-27 04:36:29 · 14 answers · asked by In love with Life 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing wrong with inter-racial relationship or marriage - if they do hook up, there kids will be gorgeous.
If she knows her family and friends would be against this relationship she really has to decide she can handle possibly isolating herself from her friends and family. Is this guy worth it. If he is and she loves him and is willing to fight for him - then she go for it.
She should also keep in mind, if his family and friends are NOT against the idea of inter-racial relationships, then she will be making all the sacrifices not him. So if the relationship doesn't work, she can end up being totally alone.
I wish her luck.
2006-12-27 05:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interracial dating is mostly about sex that is "forbidden"... If your friend wants to alienate her family, then that's her decision to make...
Many believe that the races were seperated for a reason and the Bible stated that God wanted the Jews not to mix with the gentile. However, I've never found any evidence except to say that He did not want the Jew taking up with a false god of the gentiles.
As far as the sex thing, men get more positive out of it than the women. She'll be used like a toy and when he gets finished, she'll be cast aside for a new toy.
I'd advise her not to do it. I've seen too many girls, black and white, that were used and abused. The children suffer the worst.
2006-12-27 12:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue is what will the family do if they dated? Will they kick her out. will there be violence.
:Love it or not, you cannot come between someone and thier family! Its a losing situation. Thats her desicion to make. She will have to suffer what ever penalty her family deals her. He'll feel some of the wrath, but it's her family. When/if they stop dating he'll be gone, but she will still have to deal with her family.
Romeo & Juliette was a romantic tale, but this is real life. Until such time as she decides that she doesn't want to have her family in her life, she may have to abide by thier feelings..right or wrong.
She may want to do ahead and see what they will do. If they are really decent people, they will still love her even though they may not agree with her.
Are these people going to vocally protest or physically protest?
2006-12-27 12:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Socially speaking it is very difficult to swim upstream. There are lots of obstacles that will be encountered. It is easy to say that your friend has to live and deal with it and the others be darned, but without being in her shoes that is meaningless. If I were her, I'd be reluctant to do battle with her family and friends.
2006-12-27 12:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she like the her guy friend and a have a relationship then she should go for it and not worry about her parents and it is not her parent that is dating her and stuff so let her date him
2006-12-27 12:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot would depend on her age. If she is "legal" age, and likes him, I think she should go for it. If she is still at home and underage, it may cause more hassle and headache than is worth dealing with. I think she should be friends with him though.
2006-12-27 12:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her that if she really wants to date him she should. she shouldn't let her family get in her way. she doesn't have to be closed-minded because her family is.
2006-12-27 12:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by charletw2623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she lives at home, she must abide by the rules and wishes of her parents. If she lives on her own, she should follow her heart.
2006-12-27 13:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by lbuajlw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really likes him I say go for it and not tell her mom Or just forget about him if she really isn't allowed to date him.
2006-12-27 12:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by -katie- 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the family skin dosen't matter, It's all about their personality.
2006-12-27 12:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋