she says that she doesn't wanna be physical cause she doesn't want that to define our relationship, ok i understand that. the most we've done is make out and that's about it. in case you're wondering, i'm 20 and she's 19. she just says that she doesn't wanna feel dirty. and we have a long distance relationship (we just started long distance when she moved away a couple of months ago). she comes down once a month for a weekend and we're excited to see each other but nothin happens. we hang out and have a good time and she also stays wit me when she's down here but yet nothing physical. and she's always been like this since day 1. she tells me to wait but how long do i have to wait??? i mean i love her but i have needs to. and my patience is running out. right now i'd rate us a PG-13, man what i'd give to be rated R. i've tried talkin to her but nothing changin her mind. man i don't know, what do y'all think??? what should i do??? am i just bein too horny??? help me!!!
2006-12-27 04:34:43 · 16 answers · asked by are_three 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-27 04:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she thinks of making love as being dirty than maybe she has some issues of sexual abuse in her past that she has not yet overcome. Or maybe she is a dying breed of girls with morals. But 2 years is a long time to keep waiting. I don't know do you think it is worth the wait or that it will ever happen? Ask her these things and see what she says. Is she a virgin? If she is then at least you know she is not out cheating on you with some one else. If she loves you then why would you touching her make her feel dirty? I don't get it but then again I am not 19 and unexperienced either. Talk to her and let her know how you feel and tell her that you want to share your love with her and when if ever is this going to happen.
2006-12-27 04:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro i think it just your raging hormones...and corrupt society that we live in...SEX is in everything!!!from advertising to the zoo...your perception is that its not normal not to get physical after a period of time,because thats what everyone say (society).Seriously if this is the person you LOVE respect her wishes...honestly i wish there were people like her.Plus this is a plus for you,specially that your in a long distance relationship,because if you both were sexually active imagine not seeing for a couple of months, you both want SEX but your not there...use you imagination on that what do you think will happen...but since shes saving herself now what do you think will happen the next time you see each other...Anyways if you really love wait,you have something special anyone can get physical but it takes a special person to be able to connect with another person emotionally and have that person accept you for who you are and all your faults...Consider yourself lucky.
P.S.Dont think i am looking down on you... i KNEW how you feel its normal,but once you get physical the relationship will NEVER be the same anymore...are you ready for that GIGANTIC change...please listen from someone whos had some experince...RESPECT her wishes and continue to have a happy relationship....Good luck!!!
~Pyro23~
2006-12-28 17:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by pyro23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being just horny. Its hard to have a long distance relationship AND not be intimate. I honestly think she may be having sex with someone else...but if you say she has always been like this then I don't know. Its tough but you should definitely tell her that it is hurting your feelings and the relationship. Be honest..even if you have to write a letter (which is easier to approach a difficult situation) Then she will either call you to talk or write you back.. No matter what just be honest about how you feel. She needs to compromise. I am in a little situation with my boyfriend..he won't have sex at all and it is driving me crazy!!!!!
2006-12-27 04:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, for every ones FYI, we did a little more than just make out, (I'm not tryin to brag, just saying the truth.) and I'm 18 not 19.
>> I wanna start by telling you that I do love you, and you know I do.
>> But what do you want from me...no, wait I know what you want....what i mean is your driving me crazy. If you knew I didn't want a physical relationship in the first place then why are you still with me, go find another hoe who will give you what you want. But just know that they will never love you as much as I do, I don't know maybe that doesn't mean anything to you. And if you say you love me so much then why don't you respect how I feel???
>> and no I don't want to feel dirty. I don't want to feel like what I just did was wrong, and maybe regret it later on. Is it wrong that I have morales, and a conscious????
>> Good things come to those who wait!
No mas quiero que sepas que aunque tu no me ames tanto para respetar me, yo siempre te voy amar.
~ I still love you ~
2006-12-27 19:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by karina s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on Brother, you are not going to get any, find a different girl you will thank me later. Girls always say "if you love her then do what she said" what about if she loves you she will give you some? these kinds of girls are just selfish and are probably bad in bed anyways maybe they are afraid that if they do something and they sux you wont marry them. Good luck Man!!!
2006-12-27 04:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by woodtigerdp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be a good guy, waiting that long. However, if she isn't ready there is nothing that you can do about it. You either love her enough to be patient with her, and commited or you start over. I think it's your hormones running wild, and curiosity because she hasn't let you have any. Good Luck.
2006-12-27 04:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay
1. If you love her, you'll wait. It'll be worth it more later.
2.Maybe she's scared that you may "get what you want" and leave.(not saying you will but some females have that fear)
3.Maybe she's scared in general.
4. If she's Christian(or if she's not) she may believe that premarital sex is wrong and be scared to tell you because sometimes people get picked on for that belief.
5.Maybe she truly does not want y'all to have a physical relationship. (Personally, I want a relationship built on feelings, emotions, trust, honesty, etc.)
Hope al lthis helps.
2006-12-27 04:43:39 · answer #8 · answered by princessdez122008 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really love her then you will wait. I know guys have their needs and everything but so do girls. If she wants to stay celibate you should respect that choice. I think that's it's good, because I believe sex is something that is very special only to be shared between husband and wife.
2006-12-27 04:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by LikeItsMyLast 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when many relationships get physical, it ruins it, sometimes. but if you both have an amazing connection, i don't see why it would ruin it. did she have a bad childhood expierence or something? i would express how i feel..you can tell her it doesn't have to be something that we do all the time, but we should at least try it. i don't know, lol good luck.
2006-12-27 04:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by Kell Bell 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i tink itz nice to hav a relationship which is not just based on the physical factors. Evn im lik tat with my guy, but he understands , but the we are sri lankans so our culture is vry different from yours............ well dude try understanding her
2006-12-27 04:41:23 · answer #11 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋