WHAT SHOULD I DO TO STOP MY SON FROM USING DRUGS LIKE Cristal, marijuana, heroin?

Question

MY SON START USING DRUGS WITHOUT MY KNOLEDGE AT 14 AND AT 19 I SAW HIM BY ACCIDENT USING THE NEEDLE WHEN SAW HIM MY BLOOD WENT COLD AND WEAK
I TOLK HIM I DON'T WANT TO SEE HIM THIS WAY AND TO STOP USING THEM OR LEAVE AND HE LEFT AND LITTLE BY LITTE HE STOLE AND SOLD ALOT OF MY STUFF LIKE SPEAKERS VIDEO CAMARA ETC............................. ALL TO KEEP BUYING AND USING DRUGS ......................... SINCE THEN HIS DON'T HAVE A JOB AND A HOME HE IS 20YRS AND HE IS A SUPER LIER
BECAUSE HE DON'T WANT TO BE IN REHABILIETATION

Answer 1

I'm so sorry that you're going through this; I'm a mom too and if this happened to one of my kids I would be devestated.

Sadly there isn't any way that you can stop your son from taking drugs. He has to want to stop, there is no way that someone can force him to do this. I've heard of interventions that sometimes work but the people that it works for are usually more willing to get help in the first place. Your son says that he doesn't want to go to rehab so I don't see how it could help.

What's really important right now, especially since he's stolen from you, is that you don't enable him in any way. This means do not support him financially or bail him out of jail if he happens to get arrested. If he's living at home right now you're going to have to ask him to leave and I know this will be really hard but it could end up saving his life. Once some addicts realize that a person isn't going to help them out so that they can continue taking drugs or alcohol then they may begin to see things differently and decide to go into rehab and clean up their life.
If you do ask him to leave and he becomes violent or threatening please call the police. Being arrested wouldn't be a tragedy because first of all you wouldn't want to get hurt and second of all many addicts who are arrested are given a court order to go into rehab.

I know that you may think these things are cruel but sometimes it takes drastic measures before an addict reaches bottom and decides to make changes. Really it's up to them whether they want to get help and begin to understand why it is that they're escaping from their life through drugs. There's no way that you can force your son to come to this realization.

I'd highly suggest that you go to Al-Anon meetings which is a 12 step program for family members of alcoholics. Even though it's geared toward family members who drink, it's also helpful for people who have family members who are drug addicts too.

The site for Al-Anon can be found at http://www.al-anon.org/ They usually have meetings in almost every community; you can look through your local paper or in the phone book. You can also call 1-888-4AL-ANON (1-888-425-2666) Monday through Friday, 8:00am to 6:00pm ET for more information.

Addictions affect more than just the addict, it affects their family and friends too so please find some good support for yourself.

I wish you all the best, take care.

Answer 2

He is an adult and does not want help. There really isn't much you can do for him. You should actually, kick him out and bring him to a homeless shelter. If there isn't any drug intervention program available (which there may not be any in your area) you could contact the police station and find a way to have him arrested, that way he could be Forced to clean up without rehabilitation's help.

Unfortunately even if a person wants to get help, health insurance is so expensive in many parts of the country and people are unable to pay for Rehabilitation. However there are new grants that hopefully will be available for people who want to get help and are not able to.

Things will only get worse if you do not take care of yourself. Again, your son is an adult. My husband is in prison due to past drug use as a teenager. His mother tried to get help for him, but there wasn't enough services available for him. But now he is in prison, before he went he was doing very well, but his past caught up with him.

In about a year he will be home again. But the true test will be then. He knows I will help him if he meets me halfway. But he also knows if he goes back to his old ways, like when he was a kid, I will leave him and he is on his own. Fortunately he is doing well and serving his time.

Answer 3

I don't think legalization has much to do with trying different drugs. Weed is illegal and has been for ages, yet people still use it. Same with other, harder drugs. Just because it's not socially acceptable doesn't mean it's hard to get or hard to get away with. If someone wants to get high or strung out, they're going to make it happen. If someone wants to use heroin, they won't accept weed as a substitute just because it's legal (should it be legalized). Also, weed is only a "gateway" drug because those who deal / know where to find weed often know where to find other / harder drugs as well.

Answer 4

Addictions are not formed overnight. An addiction connotes a mental habit of becoming attached to something on which you have become dependent. We commonly think of drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, coffee etc. to be objects of addiction.

However, a habit can be as addictive; be it playing cards, sex, watching TV, gossiping, or anything else that you cannot help but do. If for some reason you are unable to indulge in the habit or activity to which you are addicted, it leads to tremendous discomfort, frustration, anger, or even unbearable physical pain (as in drug addiction).

Needless to say, all addictions are undesirable. Addiction builds its fetters around you making you an inmate in your self-created prison. If a simple thing like not having tea or coffee can spoil your day and make you unfit for efficient work, then whither enlightenment? When you give in to addictions, you give up freedom.

Habits or addictions spring from constant repetition of certain actions. These actions may have been repeatedly performed due to ignorance or under the influence of wrong judgement. Sometimes simple actions too have a snowballing effect. Habits become ingrained in the mind depending on how often they are repeated as well as the will of the person. A weak-willed person becomes a slave of habit sooner than a strong-willed person.

In order to overcome an addiction or undesirable habit, we have to adopt a 'contrary' approach. Here one needs to understand how an action that is opposite in nature to the pertinent habit will help. It may be next to impossible to wipe out a habit and let a vacuum or void take its place. In the beginning, we should strive to replace it with something positive.

For instance, if you smoke, it may a good idea to bite into a piece of clove or candy or something harmless instead. True freedom will never entail replacing a greater evil by a lesser evil, and yet practically, this may be very difficult to achieve except by a select few.

Let us also remember the basic facts about thoughts that influence action. In fact all action springs from thoughts. That is the seed and the cause to the effect.

The fact that every action is repeated is an indicator of the fact that the thought or thoughts behind it are repeated too. Thus to revert an action we have to revert our thoughts. By reiterating a positive thought we move easily towards the corresponding actions.

Thus, at a basic level we need to dive deep into the mind from where thoughts emerge. We need to consciously imbue the mind with positive thoughts or affirmations. To overcome a particular habit or addiction you need to formulate an appropriate affirmation which strengthens the corresponding positive qualities.

For instance, if you want to give up smoking, think of the positive state you would be in, when you are free of this habit. Say to yourself: "I am free. I am happy, healthy and poised. I can do whatever I want, whenever I wish, independently." If you are given top frivolous gossiping and now feel it is time to shed this habit, affirm to yourself: "I am calm and filled with s deep silence. I turn inward to discover joy and freedom. I radiate friendliness and love to all."

Repeat this regularly following the rules of affirmation outlined in this section, until it melts into your subconscious, from where by penetrating your superconscious it will automatically bounce back to start influencing your conscious physical and mental habits and thought patterns.

Answer 5

I KNOW THIS ALL IS GOING TO SOUND VERY HARD AND MEAN BUT THIS IS COMING FROM SOMEONE THAT DID DRUGS FOR YEARS AND IF IT WAS IF MY BABYS I WOULD HAVE DIED. YOU NEED TO STOP TALKING TO YOU SON GIVE NO MORE MONEY NO PLACE TO SLEEP IF HE DOES BECAUSE THAT GIVE HIM A PLACE TO DO DRUG. YOU WALK AWAY. YOUR SON AS YOU KNOW HIM IS DEAD. NOW THE PERSON YOU HAVE IS THE PERSON YOU SEE ON T.V.IF HE COME TO YOUR HOME DON'T OPEN YOUR DOOR CALL THE COPS. IF HE CALLS BLOCK IT FROM EVERY NUMBER. THIS IS NOT BEING A BAD MOM THIS IS BEING A MOM. IF YOU NEED HELP WITH IT CALL ON OF THE REHAB AND THEY WILL HELP YOU ON YOUR PART OF IT OR TELL YOU WERE YOU NEED TO GO AND THEIR ARE GOUPS FOR PARENTS WITH KIDS ON DRUGS TO HELP YOU THOUGH THIS SO YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE YOU'RE ALL BY YOURSELF.AND THE REHAB CAN HELP YOU WITH THAT TO

Answer 6

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listen its really hard to tell a drug addict to quit doing drugs its like taking a toy from a baby, trust me hun, its hard. intervention does work but he may relaps.
its really his choise.
i quit cold turky after my mom died and ive been clean for a year now. after 8 years of my life down the hole i realized that i need to change so i did. i locked my doors, my work let me stay home for two weeks, with pay, coz my boss knew and wanted me to help myself, then i unplugged my phone and never left the house for two weeks straight, and it worked. for a year and im proud of myself
but for your son you must take action it seems like he dont want help and hes living on the streets, you must do something thats your son and you cant give up, trust my words one day he'll be fine ok, without your help you might not see him anymore, im not trying to sound mean but im just saying how it is.
find him even if you have to drag him put him in the car and send him to rehab, its the only way, if you dont do, then sertainally he aint gonna do it., im sorry but now this is your decision.
yes i know a ex addict is givong you advice but i like help and i believe you can save your son

god bless you and your family

Answer 7

Report him to the police. Try to save his life. It's hard to do, but he's got to realise sometime that what he's doing is destroying his family.

Remember too... it's not your fault... I really feel for you as a parent. All the best...

Answer 8

its going to be hard but you have got to cut him out of your life, totally. hes 20 and will not change until he wants too, there is nothing you can do too make him stop, unless he wants too. tell him about the long time that he is going to be locked up, with really nice people. theres hep c, aids its very easy too get sticking needlels in your arm. he is not lost forever, pray. hes got too live his life what ever that is and except consequinses. anyway with my familys prays and growing up i stoped. it took 35 years of hell, tell him he does not have to wait that long. get him court ordered for his own safety and yours. maybe hearing different ideas might make him think, hopefully. thats got too be very hard for you. god bless you all. good luck.

Answer 9

take him up to the mountains and leave him there with enough food and shelter for a few months. this is extreme, but if nothing else works,. this will force him to be alone with himself so that he can work out his issues without blocking off his feelings by numbing them. he will have no influence but his own.

Answer 10

dont get rid of him , he has a problem , try talking to him , and if he is selling it, or you knwo he has it, the best thing to do is to send his *** to jail, mabey he needs an awakening and that may do it, but if not then , ask him to go to church with you ., and if he is living with you ., he is under your roof and needs to follow your rules, lets think about this , what if he is using dirtty needles? he could easily catch something, and possibly give it to you and the rest of your family