I met a guy who acted like a complete bachelor, but then found out that he is in a relationship. He only flirts with me, so nothing happened. I was just wondering how to react to him saying that he's not happy with her & wants someone he is attracted to? It's not wrong at all to flirt, correct ?Please no rude remarks because as I already stated I would not interfere - that's why I am asking for advice! Thanks!
2006-12-27 04:18:39 · 24 answers · asked by molly s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he probably told you open relationship cos he is not into his gf anymore so he wants to be able to flirt and see how its with other girls that he likes..so i think go ahead and flirt with him..it is not really up to you to think bout his relationship with his gf so let him worry about that. i think once he realises he likes someone else other than the gf now he ll move on.so enjoy your time..take it easy and just be prepared if he cant do a relationship with you at the moment..
2006-12-27 04:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by bellavit4 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Open relationship means both parties know the other sees other people. If he told you hes "not happy with her" that kinda implies not an open relationship, but that he's cheating or looking to cheat...she may well not be aware they have an "open relationship".
Flirting is fine, it's the intent behind it and the actions that follow it, that have more meaning. If this guy isn't happy with the woman he's with, then why is he with her? People in open relationships typically care about one another, but want more variety...
If I were you, I'd stay away from him. If you are interested, tell him if he and she ever part ways, then he can contact you...but until then, he's off limits.
2006-12-27 12:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, such relationships do exist, but before getting involved casually, clearly it would be prudent to ask his girlfriend. If he seems in any way reluctant to allow this, or makes the excuse that 'my girlfriend is ok with as long as she doesnt know', then he's not in an 'open' relationship - he's just cheating!
Flirting is fine - I actually think it's healthy. Nothing has to come of it, and people want to feel attractive to others. Besides, if you know he's already involved you know how far you can go!
2006-12-27 12:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by prusec_int 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that flirting is not acceptable in this situation. Flirting can lead this guy on and put you in a triangle that you do not want to be a part of. I would just stay away from this situation as I can see the problems forth coming already. Men will tell you anything to get what they want (women do it too). He is probably telling his girl something totally different. My advice to you is to stay out of this mess.
2006-12-27 12:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even flirting with this guy? He sounds like a lame a$$hole. So he is attracted to you and you like the attention. Don't you feel their is more to you than what's on the surface? Do compliments from a guy like this actually mean something to you? You have met a player, his game is to compliment and con, to conquer as much coochie as he can, to brag about it to his boys, to lie to his girl and think all of this makes him a man.
I say blow him off, he isn't even a good person.
2006-12-27 12:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a liar and cheat! I'm willing to bet he's the only one in his current relationshp who knows it's "open". Flirting is fine, but going any further with this guy will get your heart broken (and probably your nose when the "Mrs." finds out.)
Besides, it's just skanky to be with a guy who is in a relationship (open or not) already! Do you want that kind of reputation?
2006-12-27 12:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting with a married or committed male in my book is a no-no.
Change places with his significant other, if your mate went around flirting with women and telling them he was not interested, happy, etc.. with you (which I'm certain she does not know).
From what I've heard "Open relationships" are both ends open, she sees other people and he sees other people.
Do you really want to be involved in this? What if you develop feelings for him, he has no respect for his partner and/or relationships.
2006-12-27 12:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by prayingangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then u need to tell him he needs to break up with his girl, because a relationship is not out there to be open..u get into one because u want it that way..if hes not happy with her he should've already broken up with her..For u to flirt with him, knowing he has a girl is wrong...for him to flirt with u knowing HE has a girl is completely foolish..
2006-12-27 12:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes a PIG! Thats all.... no more, no less. He is the type of guy that even if he really is unhappy, WHICH I DOUBT HE IS, he wont leave her. Its like he's almost telling you that hes not going to leave her, but he wants someone else. I wouldnt flirt with him, In fact, I wouldnt even be friends with a guy like that.... I dont associate with guys or girls who act like this. Its disturbing.
2006-12-27 12:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is his wife/SO in this so-called "open relationship", too? I've met tons of guys who say that but the woman is sitting at home clueless! Just be his friend. Anything more is dangerous.
2006-12-27 12:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋