so, they're unreliable, not worth waiting for etc.. but why oh why do they all turn up at once?
here's the story, i've been single since june, split with my ex.. my decision, and i've enjoyed single life since then.. had a few dates, but there's man number 1.. let's call him S, who i've grown really close to and we've seen each other a few times and i'm not sure, but i may not be single much longer...
on the other hand, there's man number 2... let's call him C, ex colleague,never thought i would have touched him with a bargepole, but got to know him and think he's a really genuine, swee, funny guy. he left my work in august.. anyway, he ended up at the xmas party last week, and everyone seemed to be hooked on fixing the two of us up, and i wasn't gonna say no to a xmas kiss so flirted with him all night.. anyway, nothing happened, but we've been flirting ever since..
my dilemma.. i want man number 1... but how do i tell man number 2 i don't want him when i've been leading him on..
2006-12-27 04:18:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i wasn't stringing him along, just got a little caught up in it i guess, we always liked each other.. but the timing's all wrong now..
2006-12-27 04:25:16 · update #1
Gilligan!! How rude!
2006-12-27 04:32:51 · update #2
There is no way to do it and it not hurt! but just remember that men are resilient....we move on much quicker than gals....what ever you do, DO NOT say "lets be friends" that is the most horrible thing a guy could here, but say something like "lets stay in touch"....... just be diplomatic and explain....tell him his plus points and what you like and why you can not be at this time, say you have a history with "s" and he makes you feel so special, not that "c" doesn't but only there is no real spark........good luck
2006-12-27 04:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by JackLove 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just be up front and honest, make your decision and stick to it. Man #2 won't hang about waiting but you'll have to deal with that, you are ready to get into a relationship with Man #1 so that's what you'll do, Man #2 is just around at the wrong time.
2006-12-27 13:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by NM 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need time off!You need meditation...go home after work...put on some nice calm music...take a bath...light some candles...relax...Next few days do the same thing...your answer will click up easily...believe me!
After that...number 2, number 3 or any other number will understand it was just a flirt!Good luck!
2006-12-27 12:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by jokersmile 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry too much, you'll probably be wanting Man Number 3 next week.
2006-12-27 12:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you slate us men when you have been stringing number 2 all along! That's abit hypocritical don't you think?
2006-12-27 12:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell C that he's a real nice guy, but you're very attracted to another guy and want to make that work. Be upfront with him, it may hurt his feelings but it's best for him if he knows where he stands.
2006-12-27 13:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by F 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Simple! just tell guy number "1" how you feel and guy number "2" it was just abit of fun and just want to be friends!
2006-12-27 12:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by red devil 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'm big, red, smoky upstairs and littered with sweet wrappers.
2006-12-27 12:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just bit the bullet... and decide what you want...
2006-12-27 12:58:45 · answer #9 · answered by =) 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
run
2006-12-27 12:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by wrfab 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋