with my ex. We have been broken up for almost 2 years. Over the summer we starting talking again. He just walked away when we broke up, no official we are broken up or anything. Just ended all contact. I had met his friends and family and everything went well, his parents even hugged me goodbye. When he got back in contact with me, he said he missed me and he knew he was horrible. He just had issues that he needed to straighten out (they mostly had to do with committment). I had gotten over him but when he came back into my life it changed. What do I do? We are trying to be friends because we were friends before. He always contacts me when something bad happens in his life, i think i'm just confusing what used to be there with friendship.
2006-12-27 04:17:42 · 7 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He contacts me when good things happen too and just to see how i am. He's even asked me to a few of his softball games.
2006-12-27 04:23:56 · update #1
Im not sure if I would consider getting back involved with the person because it is very likely the pattern will continue. What happens when he comes across another personal issue is he still going to walk away without first coming to you? These are some questions I would ask myself. If he loves you why did he abandon you would he do this to his children? This man sounds like he has many more issues besides just commitment.
2006-12-27 04:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by renew69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu need to be careful that he is not using your love and care for him. YOu said that he always contacts you after bad. Don't be someone's prop!! You are worth more. I understand that you care for him but bbeing a prop is no way to continue in life.
My first bf and I did that all the time, run to each other everytime we were disappointed in any way for mutual comfort. I put an end to it, as hard as it was because I knew I wanted something permanent.
2006-12-27 12:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that both of you still need each other very much. Both you and he feel that there's a hole in your life that only when you are toghether is filled. You should ask him if he still feels the same way so that you could be toghether instead of beating it around the bush, be straight forward.
2006-12-27 12:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by lunytunes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart is breaking for you. This is what I suggest. Bring yourself back to the moment he left you without giving you closure. The days you stayed up waiting for his call, crying because you felt (played). Now tell the loser to get lost. Move on with your life, he's not a friend, he wants you to be his dumping pad, someone he can come running to when he's going through obstacles in his life, you deserve someone who respects and loves you. (NOT) him.
2006-12-27 12:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start over on a blank slate, pretend like you never had met him before. That way, you can start out as friends first, then work your way up from there. Good luck!
2006-12-27 12:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by Brooke W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he only contacts you when there's something bad in his life? Sounds like you're just a friend to him.
2006-12-27 12:20:22 · answer #6 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey ur question is very long....i want to sleep
2006-12-27 12:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by cat c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋