he is the sweetest person ever! but everyone hates him and it hurts me!
iv just split out with my boyfriend not to long ago we still talk but he has problems of his own! he drinks alot and then he get violent but not towards me! when he drinks alot he starts being nasty to my friends but he doesnt mean to! i dont know what to do!!!!! i do love him and i know he loves me but everyone hates him even my family! what do u think i should do?
should i get back with him or should i let him go?!
2006-12-27 04:14:04 · 32 answers · asked by Erin R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a total arsehole. Ditch him. If you stay with him it won't be long till he's violent with you.
2006-12-27 04:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. He drinks a lot.
2. When he's drunk, he gets violent.
3. He is nasty to your friends.
4. Everyone hates him.
Why do you describe him as "the sweetest person ever"?
Listen to yourself making excuses for him. He does all these horrible things but "he doesn't mean to"? You shouldn't have to make excuses for someone's behaviour! When you find yourself doing that, it's a sign of a serious problem.
You "know" he loves you, well I'm guessing by your phrasing that he doesn't show it in any meaningful way. You want to fix him, sorry, it can't be done. The love of a good woman does NOT make everything alright. He can fix himself, if he wants to badly enough. If he doesn't want to change - and you've said nothing that makes me think he does - then nothing you can do will make it happen. You will waste your life and end up hurt.
Let him go.
2006-12-27 04:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by Snakey B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 01:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL WHAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP DO U THINK U R GOING TO HAVE WITH A MAN THAT DRINKS AND BECOMES VIOLENT. I UNDERSTAND HE IS NOT LIKE THAT WITH U BUT WHAT KIND OF LIFE IS THAT U CAN'T HAVE ANY FRIENDS AROUND BECAUSE HE IS NASTY. U NEED 2 REALLY THINK ABOUT THIS BECAUSE IF U DO GO BACK WITH HIM U CAN SAY GOOD BYE 2 UR FRIENDS AND IF HE REALLY DOES LOVE U THEN U NEED 2 TELL HIM 2 STOP DRINKING OR ITS REALLY OVER.
2006-12-27 04:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go! You say he gets nasty with your friends, but "doesn't mean to". If his behaivor is poor when he drinks and he cannot control it, then he needs to control how much he drinks. Your friends and family see what you cannot, love is blind. He may not have gotten violent with you yet, but note the key word here is YET. Chances are that he will, and you don't want to subject yourself to an abusive relationship.
2006-12-27 04:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well , if you love him then yes you should , after he get´s himself sorted out . he´s drinking to much , he need´s help, you say he is not violent to you , but thing´s could change , and violence , is bad in it´s self but with drink worse, what happen´s when he has no one else to take his bad temper out on , yes your first in line. I have seen this many time´s my uncle was the sweetest nicest person in the world as you put it without drink, but as soon as he drank ,he was like a wild animal with rabies, so if he is willing to seek help , then yes go back to him other wise , carry on with your life , good luck & Happy New Year
2006-12-27 04:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BIG WARNING!!!!!!!! He is violent so have nothing more to do with him. Sounds like your friends and family are right. And why are your friends not important enough that you would want to protect him rather than them?
Drinking and violence are not a good combination. Does he love you enough to give it up? I doubt that.
2006-12-27 04:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get his drinking and other problems under control first. If he is rude to everyone even if he is drinking why would anyone like him! Your friends and family probably feel you can do better.
2006-12-27 04:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by MusicWoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! You just described my ex- husband to a tee!! Run girl Run. You will never change him. My ex was violent to others and eventually the violence was turned on me.I swore his anger issues would never be my problem. We never went out without him getting into trouble. I left him and he stalked me and threatened me. Im just rebuilding my life. My family and friends hated him and i shunned them all. Now i hate him too and i have lost everyone's respect. Please. Get away while you can!!!!
2006-12-27 09:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by ISLAND GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend has a serious problem. Follow your family and friends' instinct here and let him go. You cannot have a healthy relationship with an addict. Period.
2006-12-27 04:18:14 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋