I have been divorced for two months, but I feel as if I'm ready to meet someone new...I feel no vengence towards my ex and I hope him the best, I have no "love" feelings for him either...I have been talking with this guy who is also divorced (1 yr) and we are really hitting it off! I want to take my time getting to know someone, but we really get along great! I've heard that you should give yourself a yr or 2, so my question is...am I jumping in too soon?
2006-12-27 04:13:29 · 16 answers · asked by Lisa Bee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think its all up to the person. If YOU feel comfortable, then GO FOR IT... Dont let rules someone made up RULE YOUR LIFE! It sounds like they dont apply to you! Life is WAY TOO SHORT to worry.... Have fun!
2006-12-27 04:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no certain time to do anything. People will say this or say that but go with how you are feeling. You are the best judge to whether you should start dating or not. I say go for it. The only thing I have pause for is that you don't make the same mistakes you made in your first marriage. A lot of times people get divorced and start new relationships without really addressing why the marriage ended. They take the stance that the other person messed up but don't see the role they played in it all and as a result they bring the same issues with them into the new relationship.
Just be sure that you have explored what caused the ending of your marriage and make sure you don't have the baggage from it.
Good Luck
2006-12-27 04:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is relative. Do you feel as though you are rushing into something? I would procede slowly, but then how long were your married. How long has it been since you were in the dating world?! You may just be finding solace in another man to fill the void you just vacated. That's not to say that this guy is not good, just that you may be vulnerable even though you feel even keeled. IF this guy is the worth it, it may be worth your while to wait and keep things plutonic for while longer. You can tell him your feelings, but you may be feeling the urge more out of a feeling of loneliness than out of love. If you are really hitting it off, then more time will just verify your feelings. You should at some point just see someone else. Make sure that its' not just the feeling of security that you are enjoying. Besides there is nothing better than having a choice to evaluate if you are truly getting a deal.
2006-12-27 04:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start dating as soon as you want to. There is no time limit so good luck.Some people start dating before their divorce is final.I had someone waiting for me before my divorce was final so I started after my divorce.Even though I am no longer with him.Waiting to date for 1 or 2 years is usually how long you should wait when a husband or wife dies.
2006-12-27 04:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say as soon as you feel like dating you should. Just don't get all heavy duty, keep it fun and lite.
That said, deciding to date and actually finding someone to date are two different things. I'm at six or eight months and no potential dates in sight. Over age 30 you single women go into hiding.
2006-12-27 04:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time clock can not commence till the divorce paper artwork is filed, signed, and sealed by employing the court docket. till that factor you're nonetheless MARRIED, and you're no longer unfastened to date. GET THAT DIVORCE FILED. call YOUR criminal expert to hurry IT UP. in all possibility ask for a precis JUDGEMENT if that ought to help. Your criminal expert could additionally ask for an EMERGENCY listening to. as quickly as the divorce is genuinely very final, yet another 2 YEARS is frequently required which you will do away with all your bags and be emotionally unfastened adequate to be worth courting.
2016-10-06 01:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by grumney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a year or two if he died, but there's no rules to dating after divorce! I was out before the ink dried on the divorce papers...jump away!!
2006-12-27 04:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no time limit. If u need a recovery period from a relationship, why not put ur recovery period into the new relationship?
U will feel better and also there is someone there for u. Better than to recover all by urself alone. :)
2006-12-27 04:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, it depends on the person. Women tend to take longer though. It was 3 months for me. My current gf didn't date for over a year after hers.
2006-12-27 04:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by mvas800 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking this question seems to say that you are having questions about it yourself..... and you already know the answer in your heart....
Beware of rebound dating...
Be true to yourself.
Are you worried because of what you think or because of what others will say....
2006-12-27 04:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋