Help me plz someone.....?
I've been going out with my boyfriend for a couple of months. He's 17 and I'm 16, I know he loves me a lot and I love him too. I have a lot of good guy friends and he has a lot of good friends who are girls. But there's one girl who he's met recently who is really annoying me. Whenever we're together they're texting each other and he talks about her a lot. I know I'm being really paranoid but it's starting to really piss me off. He knows I really don't like her but he doesn't understand why I feel intimidated by her. I don't know how to tell him how I feel without sounding like a jealous *****. Any advice? Thanx x
2006-12-27 04:03:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's 17, he doesn't love you. It's lust, he'll screw anything at that age. I know I was that soldier
2006-12-27 04:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by burtbb0912 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably won't understand because he's too young. As you get older, you begin to learn how to communicate and understand better in relationships. It sounds like he has made a new friend and, yes, especially at his age, that new friend could result in the end of your relationship. He may deny that it will but it definitely could (e.g., I said "could" not "would"). If you truly are in a real relationship, and you aren't seeing other people, then he shouldn't be interested in this other girl and, if he were older, he would be comforting you by saying that you don't have anything to worry about because it's you that he loves. But, he's too young for a mature relationship right now. You'll have tons of relationships between now and your twenties or even thirties. So, just know that this other girl knows exactly what she is doing and he does too. They say that you can catch a butterfly but that doesn't make it yours. It's only after you release the butterfly and it flies back to you that you truly know it's yours. Maybe you should think about that in this situation and see where you stand.
2006-12-27 12:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by achristian520 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when a guy talks about another girl alot its really hard NOT to assume that he's thinking about HER all the time, I mean if they're just good friends that would be it right? I don't blame you for being a little suspicious, but the main thing to solve this problem is communication. Its quite simple, he likes you more or he likes her more, and thats the main problem. But I'd definitely question him about her and see what he says. Tell him how you feel about it and maybe he will back off her a little lol.
2006-12-27 12:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way to voice your concern to him without sounding maybe a little jealous...but you DO have a legitimate question for him, from what it sounds like.
Confront him...but don't go creating imaginary scenarios in your head that may never have happenned. It's easy to lose touch with reality where this emotion is concerned...so just stay grounded.
2006-12-27 12:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by bradxschuman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he talks about her proves that he's NOT cheating on you. He's being open about his relationship with her and talking about it.
I would be worried if he never talked about her and then you found out that they were texting and hanging out all the time behind your back.
Here's a good test of his intentions. Does he invite you along when they hang out? Does he insist on hanging out with her along. If you are being purposefully exluded from their relationship, there's probably a problem. On the other hand, if he's like "the more the merrier" and you all hang out together, I wouldn't sweat it.
2006-12-27 12:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by jkkool18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him that the behavior with texting makes you uncomfortable. tell him that you are mature and confident enough to have guy friends and him gal friends, but that this particular one you feel has other motives than just friends. if he loves you then he will respect you and not do those things. i think that since he just met her that you should tell him that you do not appreciate that friendship and ask that he ends it maturely
2006-12-27 13:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by mel2430 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be "in love" at 16 first of all. Second, smack that hoe upside the head if she's hangin' around your man. You don't deserve that crap.
2006-12-27 12:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by michael f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is cheating on u
2006-12-27 12:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by wolfchat_2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋