We had a fight 3 days before christmas, police became involved and he was excorted out of my house. The same day we talked over our differences but I have come to the conclusion I don't want him living with me anymore, he only has one place to go and that's to his mom's house and they do not get along at all! So how do I put him out when he does'nt want to go without him getting upset and angry and thinking that I don't love him and I am putting him out on the street. He has an anger problem and I need some time to myself.
2006-12-27 03:46:58 · 16 answers · asked by pampower001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you had to call the cops, that's a good clue that it's not going to work out living together. Before you let him back in, get some counseling as a couple. Sometimes people just can't live together anymore. It takes more than just love to hold a relationship together. It takes a lot of communication. If the cops are getting involved, surely you're not communicating as two mature adults. If he loves you and wants it to work, he'll agree to staying at mom's for awhile and working through your couple issues, possibly with a therapist.
2006-12-27 03:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it over? Fight , police, anger problem. You are putting him on the street but it sounds like YOU will be better off with him there.
Let him know he has a week to get out. If he is willing for that then help him find a place to live. If he isn't go get a restraining order and come back with a cop and have him removed.
2006-12-27 12:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by Julie Hartford 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I hear in your question is you are worried a lot more about he feels than how you feel. Not a good situation. Also, you are frightened of his reprisal. Also not good. His anger is NOT your responsibility. Neither is the fact that he doesn't have another place to go. Who made the law that he gets to live with you regardless of whether you want him to or not? And how long are you going to let "poor me" be the reason you put up with him? You tell him you need some time apart. You give him a reasonable time to find somewhere else to park his nasty a** (say, 2 weeks) and you brace yourself for his childish backlash that will almost surely happen. Keep walking your talk, don't change the date, don't give in to any of his manipulative behaviors whether it be anger or pouting. Once you walk through this little mess, you breath a sigh of relief and get on living a life you deserve.
2006-12-27 11:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by Caper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put his stuff on the street, change the locks, tell the landlord you're going a way for a few days and to make sure he doesn't get back inside.
And don't just say you're going away, go somewhere if you can. If not, try to stay with a friend.
If you have an argument where the police become involved, you're heading downhill fast at breakneck speed and the brakes are out. You need to get him out of your life.
However, if his name is on the lease as well as yours, you might have a little trouble with my suggestion.
2006-12-27 11:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by lyoskowitz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not your problem to worry about where he will end up living. If he has some anger issues and you need time alone then he needs to leave. If you feel uncomfortable have someone there with you when you ask him to leave and if it does get out of hand make sure the police are called and a report is filed.
2006-12-27 11:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by MusicWoman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy hon.. tell him in a clear strong voice GET THE ***** OUT and if he doesnt listen called 911 and they will put his asss out.. It looks to me you are stuck with a looser. Who cares if he thinks you don't love him if you want him out the odds are that you dont love him.. and his momma doesn't even like him..so why should you.. Dont make the mistake of making your life uncomfortable just for him not to get angry.. but if he is violent my adivice is call the police and get him out this things can get complicated though because if the place belongs to you.. you may have to get an eviction notice by court depends on how long you have cheer a roof.but I think the police in your state can help you. good luck.
2006-12-27 11:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your safety is paramount, so I would put it all into perspective. First off I assume you are both renting. Yes? If so who has their name on the lease? You? Then it is legally your residence, you can have him escorted out by the PD if you wish. If it is in both of your names, you can get a restraining order against him to bar him from residing at your new place.
2006-12-27 11:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by mumra_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer lies in your statement: "He has an anger problem."
I would never put up with someone that I'm afraid of. NEVER. Please, do yourself a favor and get rid of him. If you're afraid of what he'll do when you tell him to move out, you're going to have to get the police over there again to control him and escort him out.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 11:51:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks. If he has anger issues, no matter how nicely you put it to him he will be angered. Your best bet is to change the locks and explain it later when he has time to cool off.
2006-12-27 11:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's your place then kick him out. Period. It's not your problem that he has no place to go besides his mother's. He should have had his own place to start with. If you guys aren't staying together anyway then why worry about where he has to stay?
2006-12-27 11:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋