my 4 year just starting wetting her pants?

Question

my 4 year old daughter has been potty trained for a long time. and all of a sudden about 2 weeks ago she started wetting her pants. Not at night just dfuring the day. We have never had a problem with this before. The first few days I really say anything or punish her, then when it continued I started punishing her and now I just dont know what to do. I dont know why she is doing this and I really dont know the right thing to do about it. Does anyone have any suggestions?

Answer 1

Alot of times children start doing things like this because something is bothering them. There might not be a clear sign why she is doing this because she might not even know why she does it.

Is she having problems at school? At home? Any big things going on in your/her life right now? Something might be bothering her which is why she is acting out in this way.

It might be something else though such as a bladder problem.

When it comes to "what to do about it", you should stay away from punishing her. After all, it might not be her fault. Would you want to be punished for an accident? When she wets herself, just calmly say "Did you have an accident?" and take her to her room and change her clothes. After she's all cleaned up, sit her on her bed and talk with her about it. Ask her the questions you feel like asking and reassure her that you aren't mad and that these things happen sometimes.

To be sure it isn't a bladder problem, I'd talk to her doctor about it. Most likely it's just because of stress or something else bothering her, but it's better to be safe than sorry. Good luck and God bless :-)

Answer 2

have you asked her what's going on??
if she can't control it, then you need to call the pediatrican. there are many things that can cause incontinence in kids.
punishing is no good. anyway you cut it if you punish her it's a bad deal. if she can't control it, then it's not her fault. if she is just not paying attention, then punishing her isn't going to help, it's just going to make her feel worse.

i would ask her what happened next time she does it. ask her if she knew she had to potty and if so, why didn't she tell you???

have you recently stopped asking her?? i know my 4 yrold neice still needs to be asked and reminded all the time!! maybe you stopped asking her so much and she hasn't gotten used to realizing it on her own/???

good luck. try resorting back to the pull-ups that make the kid feel wet. that way the mess is resolved a bit and she will have the embarassment of no more big girl panties.

i hope this helped....take care:)

Answer 3

i could take him to the pediatrician first to make constructive that there's no longer something bodily incorrect with him. once you rule out an ailment or subject then initiate finding for clues as to why he's doing this and pass decrease back to tug united stateswhen he sleeps so which you would be able to get your relax too. basically be sure you spend time basically with him - no communicate some new sibling, no point out of all people else basically concentration on him. attempt praising him to different persons while he can "overhear" you and tell him how proud you're. this is in all probability in straightforward terms a level despite the fact that this is oftentimes good to construct up a newborn's self belief point.

Answer 4

First of all, check with her doctor to rule out a bladder infection. Children will often regress with new changes in their lives. Has anything changed (new baby or one on the way, move, new school, family issues, stress)? My guess is that there is some sort of change in her life or that she is getting some extra attention for doing this. She may be resorting to having accidents in order to feel powerful. Help her to feel powerful in positive ways by saying thing like "You did that by yourself!" "You can run super fast!" "Look how high you can jump!" "You used so many colors on your painting." These phrases are great confidence boosters, are great ways for you to show love and attention, and great ways for her to feel powerful in a positive way.

Don't let her know that you have and issue with this. If you insist, she will resist because she is in control. When she has an "accident," don't give it much attention. Say "It looks like you need to change." Let her remove her wet clothing, rinse them out, put them in a bag in the laundry, clean any wet area, and put on dry clothing. I know it is hard but don’t give in and help her. It won't take her long to learn it is much easier to use the bathroom. Hope this helps! Good luck!

Answer 5

Any changes??? Definitely get her checked out, a little girl I used to baby sit at 4 did the same after visiting her aunt for a week, turns out the sick woman was molesting the little girl. Please take this problem seriously and find out why it is happening.

Answer 6

i would try giving her rewards something she really likes and dont get regularly. tell her if she goes potty on the toilet you will give her this. if you yell at her it will become a game to her. she will do it to get your attention. so try to calmly explain to her that you cant wet your pants. i think a reward will work. like a cookie or more time in front of the t.v. or if she goes one whole week without going in her pants youll buy her something. but make sure it doesnt become a habit. so she wont go unless she gets something in return. id try that for a little while until she gets back on track.

Answer 7

well to me its sounds like she has regressed......has something big happened that has changed her life....baby....house...loss of something......you really shouldn't be punishing her.....she needs to know she is still OK....you could take her to the doctor and talk to them about this.....personally I dealt with this twice with the birth of my 2nd and 3rd babies...and i let the regressed child be a baby again for a little while and then when they were ready and knew they were still my babies, they went straight back into their big girl pants and were completely dry.....you just have to be patient.....I don't ever remember that they were being naughty though....but only my opinion....

Answer 8

She is only 4. Put her back in nappies and 're try potty training

Answer 9

you shouldn't punish her, if you haven't been paying enough attention to her, its a ploy for attention. if you have than shes just getting careless about her self. she probably doesn't want too waste time using the toilet...in other word's she tries to hold her pee or poop if shes playing or getting ready for dinner, etc. so if that's it than try too get her to stop A.S.A.P. because its bad for her too hold her bladder all the time.

Answer 10

Any big changes happen in her life lately? New home, new baby, new school, stress, etc?

Have you considered taking her to the doctor? Maybe she has an infection or something?